Marriage & Divorce - 4 December 2007

Ok let me add that ... We are VERY sexually active (like daily)..I am always open to try new things. I am very attractive and a professional -so I know that it's not me. I'm not a prude or anything like that. So I don't understand why the secrecy??? And when I caught him last night -he was mad at me, he yelled at me and was very defensive. That's why I believe there's more to it...That's why I am pissed off and want to leave him. So now what advice can u give me???

2007-12-04 05:58:43 · 43 answers · asked by sushi girl 1

Have you ever loaned money to a man or woman you loved but then they broke your heart and didtn't pay you back? In other words, have you ever been used in this fashion? Do you know someone who has? How did you/they handle it?

2007-12-04 05:57:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was engaged 3 years ago but decided to call off the engagement when I found out my fiance was involved in criminal activities. When he found out he became very angry and beat and raped me (taking my virginity) and resulting in a pregnancy. Since I could not have an abortion I gave birth to the child and then he was adopted by a relative.

Now recently I recieved a marriage proposal from another man, who is Sikh, he knows I was engaged before... but he does not know that the bastard raped me. I care about this man very much and I believe that honesty and trust is a crucial foundation for any marriage to work successfully... so naturally I feel compelled to tell him-- and sooner that later-- but I am worried that once he knows he may see me as worthless or less of a woman since I am no longer a virgin or worse-- not want to marry me.

What are you opinions and views on this situation? Any thoughts are greatly appreciated. Thank you?

2007-12-04 05:55:02 · 10 answers · asked by Soleil Aditi 1

2007-12-04 05:45:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I got drunk a week ago together at home. This is RARE - first time in a few years. We had a funny, clumsy, but terribly honest 3-hour conversation with each other about things. We could truly see into the deepest regions of eachother's soul. I know this can be a bit scary sometimes for both people, but we enjoyed completely.

How does this work out for you?

Oh and yeah it ended with a whole lot of good sex.

2007-12-04 05:27:51 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-04 05:21:35 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Been married for 16yrs, have 2 kids. One is grown and moved out. She wants to start her own business and I work nights till 10 pm. Our schedules are opposite. Recently she has been so involved with her business we have not had time to be intimate with one another. I love her still. This is from a man's perspecitive, and yes I do help out around the house to keep it going while we are in this time of change. Any advice to help get us in the bed would greatly be appreciated. Thank you.

2007-12-04 05:10:24 · 36 answers · asked by meiyotora 2

And instead want to just spend their lives with someone? Don't they know that legal marriage is not a sign of true commitment? I mean hello, look at the rates of divorce and infidelity. How can people believe that the married man who cheats on his wife throughout the marriage is more committed than the man who doesn't get married but remains faithful to his non-legal spouse simply because the guy is married? I'm just curious because I see a lot of negative responses when heterosexual people ask about commitment ceremonies and things like that.

2007-12-04 05:01:02 · 9 answers · asked by TresJolie 1

2007-12-04 04:53:30 · 13 answers · asked by ShadowW_99 1

It feels like you reached in and grabbed our hearts and step on them. It physically and emotionally hurts another human being.

How about the rest of you that has been cheated on. Tell us how you felt.

2007-12-04 04:51:09 · 17 answers · asked by Babe 3

I have been w/ my husband for 11 years. He has always been considered the black sheep of his family. When he was a teenager he did some things to deserve this, but now he is respectable, has a good job and a nice family of his own. However, my mother-in-law, father-in-law, sisters-in-law and brother-in-law treat us very badly. They make snide remarks, don't invite us out with them and don't treat our children as fairly as the other grandchildren. I wish we could just write them off and have nothing to do with them, but my husband sticks up for them and for some reason feels he deserves this for what he put them through as a kid. This leads to many fights between us. I hate to see them treat my husband and now me and my kids this way. We only see them on holidays and birthdays, but with Christmas soon approaching I am beginning to dread it. How can I make it through? Should I say something, if so, what can I say that won't uspet my husband?

2007-12-04 04:46:09 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

Guys, I'm afraid that the feeling will not be as pleasurable as before. Guys. Share your experience. Will this affect my marriage?

If I buy a condom at last, should I buy a banana flavour or strawberry flavour instead of a normal condom?

2007-12-04 04:44:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

What to do? Sometimes I think he is trying to get me pregnant for a way out of his marrige. I don't want a baby I just want him. He said before he came to see me that it was his last time coming over. He has said this before plenty of times. I just ignore it? Maybe he is trying to get me to fight over him. I don't know? I really want things like they use to be. WHAT TO DO

2007-12-04 04:38:13 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok.. Me and My wife were dating for 2 years and have been married for another 2.. a total of 4 years. we have a 19 month old daughter.. Shes 23 and i am 20(please know that the age difference doesnt matter as i am more mature than most men older then me) .SO here is the situation over the past 6 mothns my wifes been acting different towards me.. i felt like she didnt wanna be with me and i approached her about it in a nice civilize way.. We spoke and she told me that she doesnt know if she still love me anymore.. She told me is not my fault because i am a nice guy and a great dad and that i support her and i listen to her when shes speaks....we are financially stabled. and i help around the house alot, Since i get off one hour before she does from work i pick up my daughter and go home to cook... She told me that she tells her mind that she wants to be with me but that her body tells her differently...She says that sometimes her body rejects me and that she doesnt know why...

2007-12-04 04:36:55 · 22 answers · asked by Lp2287 1

Or do you take "spousal maintenance" (aka alimony) from a man?

2007-12-04 03:58:53 · 21 answers · asked by Yaakov 6

My son was taken by child protective services last month when my wife attempted suicide. The child was placed in the care of my wifes mother, and I was not permitted to see him. Since, my wife has been released and was arrested on marijauna and cocaine charges. She is out on bail and living with her parents. The judge issued a no contact order against her, so she is not allowed to have contact with me. Because she is living in the same home as my son, I have not been able to have contact with him. I would like to file for divorce and get a custody order giving me visitation… or at least get temporary visitation through the court or child protective services. I am disabled and do not have the financial means to hire an attorney or even pay the court costs. My family has offered to help me, but I would have to move to Washington, yet I fear if I do so, I may never see my son again. I live in fulton county, OH.. is there any help out there?

2007-12-04 03:52:23 · 14 answers · asked by Cbauer 2

My ex husband has made no contact with our children since November of 2004. He has not made any effort to visit them or contact them in any way.
I have remarried, and my husband wants to adopt the children, and the children want him to be their REAL father, not just their step-father.
I am not even sure of where my ex is living now...it has been a long period of time since I had any contact with him. My husband and I have remained listed in the phone book (yes, he knows our names) and he know where we live...I have done this in case he wishes to contact the children. I have done everything that I can to insure that he is able to maintain contact with them but he has not. He has not sent a letter, a Christmas or birthday card, not made a phone call to the children since 2004. What can I do to terminate his parental rights and enable my husband to adopt them?
We live in Minnesota, and my ex's last known location was in PA.

2007-12-04 03:24:40 · 24 answers · asked by Kahlan4767 1

My boyfriend and I have been living together in Alabama for the last year. Soon I will be moving out and getting an apartment of my own and, of course I will need furniture. However, my boyfriend intends on keeping the furniture that we each paid 50/50 for! I can understand this to a point considering some of the stuff thats happened between us, but I REALLY want the entertainment center we bought! He knows this and when I asked him what I'd have to give him for it, he said $500! **We only paid $150 for it!!** It's a super nice hand made solid oak entertainment center with bookcases and everything -- something of equal value would probably cost upwards of $700. My question is: Is there anything I can do to keep it in my possession? (I mean, short of keeping the apartment key and going back and taking it when he's not there...)

2007-12-04 03:09:02 · 11 answers · asked by acousticity 2

We get along really well and be together for almost 2 years. We just married 3 months ago. He does has financial problem. He has really bad credit, don't have any credit card. His job is really bad, at 40 he's still working at the gas station at $8.50 an hour. He got fired a year ago after he met me. I stood on his side until now. I support him financially sometime. I provide the home for us to live. I paid all the bill in the house. Last weekend, we go drinking in the bar. We haven't done this long time. I didn't have much $ at that time so I borrow some cash from him. Anyway, when we went to the other bar, I did use my credit card to pay for both of our drink. This morning, he said I owe him money. I'm so mad. What about whever I paid for him in another bar? He said I'm drunk and I don't remember. I know what I'm doing and I didn't get drunk untill I don't remember how much I spent. I never counted every single cent he owe me but I can't believe he did that do me. I'm really sad.

2007-12-04 03:05:18 · 13 answers · asked by Penny 2

sister inlaw, grand mother, Teacher,volunteer, friend,and the list goes on.....and you are?

2007-12-04 03:00:21 · 11 answers · asked by Sugar 7

My fiance, whom I dated for more than 4 years broke up with me in June, 5 days before our wedding, I thought we had an AMAZING RELATIONSHIP and would do anything for her. Needless to say I was completely and utterly devastated. She told me she needs to find herlsef and her individuality. I miss her more than words and it is now December. I have only heard from her once when she returned the ring. My mother almost had a nervous breakdown when she found out what happened., I have been pretty depressed. I have been seeing a therapist ,which helps me. How do try to move on, I have been trying to keep myself very busy.

2007-12-04 02:50:34 · 11 answers · asked by Jennaba9048 1

I am in my 14th year of my second marriage and My wife and I argue about her son constantly to the Point of separation and POSSIBLE DIVORCE!! My Step son is almost 20 years old and still lives at home. His Mom thinks he can do No wrong. I raised my 3 kids much differently. My step son Works and makes as much money as My Wife and Myself individually. He will Not do any Chores around the House. She Lets him come and go without Curfew or Answering for Himself as to his wear abouts. He doesnt contribute to the Family Financially. He has his MOM do his Laundry. He Has his Mom buy his Food even for his Work Lunches. His Room is always the Pits. Mom Cleans his Bathroom also. I try to make him be more responsible for his self and his Actions and My Wife Jumps to his defense Saying Hes Still Young and Needs to live a little!! Or she will say Im not goping to make him do Chores or even pick Up after Himself HE MIGHT MOVE OUT!!! Any Suggestions??? Im 49 Years old My wife is 42 Years old!!!!

2007-12-04 02:50:07 · 5 answers · asked by Ed P 7

We got a king bed and i still cannot sleep in the same room at night with him, the snoring is unlike anything I've ever heard before. He goes to bed incredibley late and gets up early. I require more than 5 hours of sleep a night. It's been 5 months and I feel like I'm about to die and my eyes are turning black and purple underneath. I've been trying to sleep in the spare bedroom but he seems offened. I don't want to ruin our marriage but I can't get no sleep then work all day and come home and not be able to sleep at all. Any advice? I've tried ear plugs, my ipod etc. nothing helps.

2007-12-04 02:29:23 · 20 answers · asked by This Jersey Girl ♥♥♥ 5

My husband pushed me into the wall where I end up with 4 staples to my head. My thing is it still bother me even though it happened 14 months ago. I don't know if he will do it again even though he said he never will.

2007-12-04 02:24:27 · 10 answers · asked by jc g 1

Currently filing for divorce after 14+ years of marriage. Children have been living with in constant redicule and tension for several years, as well as my self. Husband and oldest son almost got into a fist fight and that was my final straw for filing for divorce. Husband is ADD, works constant, gives orders to all, short tempered, alcoholic with some good nuturing advice for keeping the kids in line. What he portrays outside of the home and what he is like in the home are two totally different people. Husband is always right. Now the ball is in motion, counselng is being saute for all (not for keeping marriage) and kids have been appointed a law guardian because husband is contesting divorce on moral grounds (a real laugh). Husband belittles me, my family and calls us names in anger (and has been agressive towards me). Says that I am incapable of managing with out him. Kids believe various things their father has said. Tired of defending myself, comments welcome.

2007-12-04 02:23:52 · 5 answers · asked by lanabee 2

I have a guy friend. We have been emailing each other for the past 4 months. My husband used to be abusive and never really acknowledged me before he found out about my friend. My question is should it mean anything now that he changed because of that or do you think that he will change into his old ways after awhile. My husband treats me like a queen now but why did it take for me to find a friend for him to do that?

2007-12-04 02:21:47 · 5 answers · asked by jc g 1

do you think we should forget our pride because too much of thinking our pride sometimes makes people think we are ego.....what is pride here meant how important it is but as not to be appeared being ego

2007-12-04 02:19:46 · 3 answers · asked by truth set free 1

It's been 3 month's since the break up. Right now she's dating someone...should I always leave her now partner out of our conversations? Sometimes my curiousity gets the best of me and I get into asking about the person she's dating. And I always end up feeling angry and hurt. So I know it's a bad idea. But what should I do to win her back? I know she still wants me...cause she keeps calling me....a couple of week will pass and then I'll hear from her...so the interest is there. But I'm not waiting around for her....I'm dating, and having fun with my friends....but part of me wish we could get back together. So does anyone have tips on how I can do this....

2007-12-04 02:18:01 · 9 answers · asked by SunnySideUp 1

I have had numerous sexual encounters and been married 2 times. I think I would have been really disappointed if I had waited for sex with a partner who I found out after the veyr 1st time was inexperienced, had a small penis or immature sexually.
A friend of mine is getting married in June to a really nice guy, but I keep telling her she needs to have sex before marriage. She is holding off because he wants to, but I wonder if he is hiding something like maybe a small penis or who knows what. She has had sex before and I know she will not be happy if she finds out he has some issues there. What do you think? She has never felt or seen his thing before.
If you waited, were you satisfied, disappointed, surprised? Did it feel ok or did you feel like you needed to get a divorce the 1st time? I cannot imagine doing it the very 1st time on my marriage nite.

2007-12-04 02:06:09 · 17 answers · asked by happydawg 6

A man promised to marry me,if I could come to him every month and sign PNA for marriage.I kept my promise. I did it for a year,went from full time to part time job and lost my benefits and went to see him every month.
After signing PNA he refused to marry me. I suffered $10,000,loss because of keeping the promise (his condition for marriage)+mental trauma. Can I file a case against him?

2007-12-04 02:01:17 · 6 answers · asked by Amina L 1