I have had numerous sexual encounters and been married 2 times. I think I would have been really disappointed if I had waited for sex with a partner who I found out after the veyr 1st time was inexperienced, had a small penis or immature sexually.
A friend of mine is getting married in June to a really nice guy, but I keep telling her she needs to have sex before marriage. She is holding off because he wants to, but I wonder if he is hiding something like maybe a small penis or who knows what. She has had sex before and I know she will not be happy if she finds out he has some issues there. What do you think? She has never felt or seen his thing before.
If you waited, were you satisfied, disappointed, surprised? Did it feel ok or did you feel like you needed to get a divorce the 1st time? I cannot imagine doing it the very 1st time on my marriage nite.
2007-12-04 02:06:09 · 17 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have to add details.....this man is very feminine to me and I suspect he is hiding something. She is a little overweight.
He shops more than I do and critiques my clothes.
I have not said anything to her about my feelings, since really its none of my business, but I am worried for her.
2007-12-04 02:13:24 · update #1
NO
2007-12-04 06:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop giving your friend bad advice. You're suggesting marriage is based purely on sex. If he's great in every other way, but has a small penis, she should divorce him?? That doesn't make sense. Not to mention, she's probably a Christain and knows that sex before marriage is prohibited in the bible. Besides, I know from my own experience, that having a man with a big penis is not all it's cracked up to be. It makes some positions nearly impossible to bear! It's what you do with what you got that counts. And as far as sexually maturity goes, it can be learned/taught. Both my husband and I express to each other what we like and don't like. Therefore our sex life grows more and more enjoyable as the years pass. Let your friend be. Don't put ideas in her head that could negatively affect the relationship between her and her future husband.
2007-12-04 10:15:26 · answer #2 · answered by gatsgrl 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Indeed I did wait for marriage to have sex. To me it was very important to be my husbands first. Having sex is a very sacred thing to me and I wanted to give my husband my all. I will admit that the first couples of times it wasn't all that great because we were new at it. It took a while for us to learn how to satisfy each others needs. And to learn what we liked. I wasn't disappointed at all because I love my husband. I love everything about him!!! And yeah we were both immature sexually what do you expect from two virgins. When you are truly in love those things don't matter. And I think it would be silly to get a divorce because you weren't happy with him. There are other alternatives. You can always practice or find out what you both like. I don't regret waiting till marriage to have sex. I am glad that my husband waited also because it made our very first night special. And it showed how committed we were both to each other. I think that you should respect your friend's and fiancee decision to wait. I think that it's wonderful that he wants to wait and that she is committed to him enough to respect his wishes.
2007-12-04 10:44:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
lol ok maybe he's holding off for religious reasons?? I mean there are still lots of people doing just that nowadays. And if you're as experience as you say you should know that size doesn't matter, it's what you do with it that counts. That's the truth. Plus sex, unlike love is something that you can work on, you can improve yourself, but you can't improve your love with anyone.
2007-12-04 10:11:19 · answer #4 · answered by Josephine 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im waiting for the first time and am from India. I dont care but I think seeing for all this is maybe selfish and also childish. You have to love someone for that whole marriage thing. I advise you to stay out of your friends wedding plans or she might get rubbed off by the wrong friend and spoil her wedding or married life. Cheers
2007-12-04 10:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I were both virgins when we got married. In our situation we waited for religious reasons. I feel like I did not marry him for sex. I married him because I wanted to grow old with him and I love him.
I know a woman who married a man who is paralyzed. He cannot have sex. She married him because she loves him and wants to spend the rest of her life with him. I don't think that sex is the determining factor on happiness in marriages.
2007-12-04 10:17:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I guess if you waited and it was your first time you wouldn't know any better. But the same goes for if it were your first time meeting a man and he was abusive. If she's already done it, what's the deal? Pretty risky investment, if you ask me. Like buying a house without going inside, getting it inspected, or even chatting with the previous owners. Cheaper, I guess but only if money is your only concern. Life/time and experience are a lot more costly.
2007-12-04 10:12:41 · answer #7 · answered by J B 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If its your first time you wont know if his penis is small you will have had nothing to compare it to and it will just fine. Maybe they have a relationship a lil bit deeper that sexual performance.
2007-12-04 10:10:05 · answer #8 · answered by ms_sweet_real 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dam i completely agree with you. Everything is about sex, to gain a good relationship you need to be in good in making love. Ok lets say if your friend loves him and marries him. But then she realise that, he is completely worthless in making love, then its like buying a car that even doesnt work. Advice your Friend that we should test drive it before you buy a car.
2007-12-04 10:14:34 · answer #9 · answered by anglsik 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You shouldnt base getting married on sex, thats shallow.
2007-12-04 10:13:40 · answer #10 · answered by Rumple 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No I didn't wait and thank heavens for that because as soon as we were married (I'm divorced now) the sex mostly ended.
2007-12-04 10:18:10 · answer #11 · answered by FinallySmiling 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋