Or do you take "spousal maintenance" (aka alimony) from a man?
2007-12-04 03:58:53 · 21 answers · asked by Yaakov 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Barbara, I'm sorry. Your ex is a wuss.
2007-12-04 04:02:43 · update #1
If you're an able-bodied adult receiving maintenance, then you aren't a strong, indepenent woman. You're a leach.
2007-12-04 04:53:47 · update #2
I don't get alimony or child support. I can take care of myself and the child in my home. I let her father decide how he wants to spend money on her....it works out very well here that way.
2007-12-04 04:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have worked hard my whole life. I raised 2 kids alone. I put myself thru college, paid the bills, and took care of myself.
My dad died 2 yrs ago and he left me a house. Its not a mansion and its very old, but its home and my safety is here now. Both kids are grown and gone as of May of this year.
I am too strong for most men. They cant handle it. They want a weak, helpless woman, not me.
The way men can be now days, I would be afraid not to have something to back me up such as a degree or some marketable skill to support myself.
I realized that when my ex didn't even care enough to pay child support-ever. My grandmother would not accept alimony from my philandering grandpa in the 1930's and I certainly never wanted to be supported by a man in any way. I value my independence and strength and it has pulled me thru. I am a hard person to deal with and intolerant of ignorance and weak women who whine. Men seem to really like weak, whiney women though. Maybe not all.
2007-12-04 12:24:10 · answer #2 · answered by happydawg 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm independent! I could probably get spousal maintenance but just having children with him and getting child support keeps me in contact with him more than I want to anyway...so I'm definately not going to allow him to try to continue to control me the way he did for 12 years by accepting "spousal maintenance" from him! I have a great job and manage very well on my own!
2007-12-04 12:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
lol...There is no logical correlation between the 2...a woman can be strong and independent and still take alimony from her ex...sometimes she deserves it, sometimes she needs it.
Example: man and woman meet in college, she gets pregnant, and they get married. In order to take care of the baby she stops going to college and never finishes her degree because they can't afford both tuitions...so he continues to go and gets his degree. (she sacrificed her degree and career for her family)...10 years later they get divorced, if he was the one that didn't finish and she did, she would have a carreer and make good money and wouldn't need his support. But often when people are young they don't see the longterm potential consequences or they don't have the resources to deal with them.
A real man wouldn't b***** about it
P.S. I am 24 and am not married and when I do get married my husband will sign a pre-nup and I have no intention of getting alimony
2007-12-04 12:11:50 · answer #4 · answered by ~♥ Sicilia D ♥~ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off I do not take alimony from my ex but that does not make me a strong independent woman...how I live my life makes me that and knowing I can support myself and my children makes me that ( I do take child support for my 2 kids though) But secondly just because I woman gets alimony doesn't make her weak...maybe she takes it because he never allowed her to work or such and no has no marketable skills to find a fine paying job in her area. That's just my thoughts on that, now if she is taking it to NOT work and to be vindictive then I have a problem with that in general....divorces are rough no matter what but to make it rougher and all about money is just plain silly IMO.
2007-12-04 12:06:47 · answer #5 · answered by Tammie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 21 years old with 2 children. I work full time and pay all my bills myself. I rent a 3 bedroom house. I don't get child support or help from the government. I am very independent and very proud of it. I work hard for what we have and I don't take anything for granted. My mom raised 3 kids on her own so that is really the only way of life I have known. Us women are way tougher than we get credit for.
2007-12-04 12:11:13 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe that I am a strong woman who takes care of her family. I am still married and I handle the finaces but husband makes the money. So I am a little dependent.
2007-12-04 12:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Independent! I don't want him or his money. Now, child support is another story. The state makes him pay. Those funds are being set aside for future college expenses.
2007-12-04 12:13:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with being a Strong , Indepedent Woman who Happens to get Alimony (if honestly deserved only !! ) . Why choose When you can have it all?!
2007-12-04 12:28:28 · answer #9 · answered by casper 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I paid spousal maintenance - to my ex husband.
2007-12-04 12:02:01 · answer #10 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋