I have a guy friend. We have been emailing each other for the past 4 months. My husband used to be abusive and never really acknowledged me before he found out about my friend. My question is should it mean anything now that he changed because of that or do you think that he will change into his old ways after awhile. My husband treats me like a queen now but why did it take for me to find a friend for him to do that?
2007-12-04 02:21:47 · 5 answers · asked by jc g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He knows he's been a jerk and is afraid you will leave him for this guy. Once he makes you get rid of this friend or you are no longer friends with this guy he will go back to his old ways, BUT in order to prevent this and help him change into a better person and to help have a better marriage you will communicate with him how you felt before and how he should be grateful for you, etc. Communication is the key and the best time to get a man to understand you is when he is being nice and appreciative.
2007-12-04 02:33:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Used to be abusive? What does that mean?
If he realized he made a mistake after seeing competition for your affection and changed his ways it would indicate that you made positive progress.
So your question regarding his returning to his previous ways now depends on YOU.
Are you going to quit with your extramarital correspondence?
I fear his new found pleasant personality may revert if you do modify your own behavior to recognize the progress.
2007-12-04 02:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows....but if abusive before, then he can easily be abusive again. Abusers only change if they address the issues they have within. Thinking he's changed because you have a friend, is definitely taking some sort of responsibilities for his abuse. Meaning that you take blame for it. That is so wrong, abuse is unhealthy and is no ones fault but the abusers.
2007-12-04 02:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm just amazed you stay with an abusive man.
And then you use emotional blackmail to retaliate? Come on, stop kidding yourself - you know you want your husband who hits you to think your "guy friend" is more than just a friend. "Oh tee-hee, I have a guy friend and all we do is email - tee -hee I'll just let it slip out to my husband who hits me that he wrote me again today tee-hee" You can't bullsh*t a bullsh*tter, cupcake.
Oh, you're a queen all right - Queen of the Really Dumb Life Plans.
Dump the loser husband who hits you, then find out why you stay around a man who hits you. Your flaw allows his flaw to grow and flourish.
2007-12-04 02:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by filthy_crumb 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe because he realized he could lose a good thing. You don't know what you have until its gone.
2007-12-04 02:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by lwomar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋