It's been 3 month's since the break up. Right now she's dating someone...should I always leave her now partner out of our conversations? Sometimes my curiousity gets the best of me and I get into asking about the person she's dating. And I always end up feeling angry and hurt. So I know it's a bad idea. But what should I do to win her back? I know she still wants me...cause she keeps calling me....a couple of week will pass and then I'll hear from her...so the interest is there. But I'm not waiting around for her....I'm dating, and having fun with my friends....but part of me wish we could get back together. So does anyone have tips on how I can do this....
2007-12-04 02:18:01 · 9 answers · asked by SunnySideUp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't answer the calls
Don't talk to her
then you don't have to worry about-don't ask about her sex life
Do call someone else
Do get your own sex life
Do move on
2007-12-04 02:22:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, it depends - were you legally married or is she just a girlfriend?
If the former, you might want to put some effort into this - when she calls, tell her that you still care for her, but that you don't want to talk to her while there is no possibility of getting back together because it is too painful. Tell her to have some consideration for you. Above all, don't appear needy - nothing turns off a woman faster than a needy guy.
If she is just a girlfriend, you may want to tell her that you would like to see her occasionally but that you don't want to get serious because it is obvious that she is not ready for a permanent relationship. Tell her that when she feels that she is ready to let you know.
Again don't come across as a needy person.
Do things that boost your self esteem. Go places and do things by yourself. Join clubs or take courses in things that interest you - those are ways to meet new people.
Meet other people and date other people. Perhaps she will come around in the long-run, or perhaps not. However she will respect you more, and a woman will not be with someone she does not respect.
2007-12-04 02:46:27 · answer #2 · answered by pstottmfc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Focus on you...Do all the things you have always wanted to do even if you feel like crawling under a rock. Exercise, get a new haircut, focus on your mental state. Take some sort of class. Go visit some friends,,relax,,,Don't be by the phone waiting. Let her leave you a message (I know this is hard). Just ignore her for a little while. Make the next time she sees you feel like she is looking at a new man. That the break-up is not killing you,,,,Dude,,,she will be back! good luck
2007-12-04 02:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by KingDavid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want her back then you need to ignore her as much as possible. She needs incentive to want you back, if she still has access to you, this will make it easier for her to have her cake and to eat it too. You did not mention why the break up took place, it is obvious though that she is angry at you and keeps throwing this new guy to your face. Trust me, she knows you will be curious about him and that you will ask questions. She gets her ego strokes by upsetting you when she does tell you about him and of how it upsets you. If the break up was your fault then be the grown up here and tell her how you feel, see what she says. If it was she that broke up and it was for no reason, then you need to move on and cut all communications for now.
2007-12-04 02:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the reason for the break up, which you didn't mention. Like you said, she is showing interest, so that shows she still thinks about you and is not really convinced that she doesn't want to never be with you again.
2007-12-04 02:45:09 · answer #5 · answered by kerrbear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she calls you doesn't mean she wants "you." She wants your friendship. You want her love. There's a difference. Think about it: Would you sleep with your best guy friend? No. That's how she feels about you - like she would feel about one of her girlfriends - someone to talk to, that she's comfortable with. If she wanted you back, she wouldn't be dating other people.
So, move on.
2007-12-04 02:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by Chris H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think she is interested and you feel this way, why don't you just follow your heart and give it another go. It seems like both of you are being childish about it.
2007-12-04 02:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by SMB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is - You don't.
As others have said - move on.
Your Ex is your ex. She is the past. The past is dead. Let it stay dead.
That doesn't mean you wish her ill - but you really need to put her behind you.
2007-12-04 02:48:41 · answer #8 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UH OH.
2007-12-04 03:00:11 · answer #9 · answered by Billie Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋