We get along really well and be together for almost 2 years. We just married 3 months ago. He does has financial problem. He has really bad credit, don't have any credit card. His job is really bad, at 40 he's still working at the gas station at $8.50 an hour. He got fired a year ago after he met me. I stood on his side until now. I support him financially sometime. I provide the home for us to live. I paid all the bill in the house. Last weekend, we go drinking in the bar. We haven't done this long time. I didn't have much $ at that time so I borrow some cash from him. Anyway, when we went to the other bar, I did use my credit card to pay for both of our drink. This morning, he said I owe him money. I'm so mad. What about whever I paid for him in another bar? He said I'm drunk and I don't remember. I know what I'm doing and I didn't get drunk untill I don't remember how much I spent. I never counted every single cent he owe me but I can't believe he did that do me. I'm really sad.
2007-12-04 03:05:18 · 13 answers · asked by Penny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When his daughter is here with us every other weekend, I always buy her lunch, dinner and snack and everything she need. He never gave me some money toward her when he left her with me. I never asked for money back from him because I consider her as my step-daughter. I've done so much for him financially but he just want to ask for $20-$40 from me? I understand he broke but I have warned him not to drink too much and don't spend soo much money, he won't listen. Now, I have to pay back what all he drank? I'm so disappointed and mad at him right now. How the marriage is going to work if he's still the way he is now.
2007-12-04 03:09:55 · update #1
Well, hope you learned something besides NEVER to go drinking with him again! Meantime, get started on your divorce ..get a lawyer...'cause this guy sounds like he'll try to take you for everything you'll ever have. Do I have to tell you to get him out of your house?
2007-12-04 03:18:21 · answer #1 · answered by Gina C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Myself, I would leave him. However, if you don't want to, I would pay the credit cards off and close the accounts. He can get you into serious trouble with those. DO NOT SHARE CREDIT WITH HIM!!!
Also, tell him that if he plans to stick around, he'll be needing a second job!!
2007-12-04 03:17:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be; kick his bum @ss to the curb. A responsible person deserves a responsible mate. So unless you are trying for the Martyr of the year award, I'd suggest putting him out with the trash.
2007-12-04 03:11:56 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but you choose the wrong guy. Leave Him and find a more happy relationship. When a guy start to take money from a girl.. He is hopeless !!!.. I left mine cause I knew is going to be endless ..
2007-12-04 03:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you married a real loser.....I think you should get out of the marriage now...before things get worst...
2007-12-04 03:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you say LOSER. omg i would drop this guy so fast! there are plenty good men out there for you to waste your time,effort,money, love and happiness! On someone that can't appreciate a good women! hope it all works out for you!
Good luck!!
2007-12-04 03:18:36 · answer #6 · answered by Tica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick his broke, loser a$$ to the curb honey. You'll be better off!
2007-12-04 03:19:32 · answer #7 · answered by thickncutefrombklyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's using finances to try and control you...not a good sign.
2007-12-04 03:11:01 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. GTO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sad for you. Your husband is cheap and lazy. You are realizing this now. Pay him back and ......... well move on.
2007-12-04 03:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by Brightside 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
face it. you are married to a loser. he is controlling and will probably become abusive (if he isn't already). get out while you can.
2007-12-04 03:09:27 · answer #10 · answered by grumpy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋