before you realized you should quit going after "bad boys" ?
Also, about how old were you when you figured out it would be a good idea to start appreciating guys that know how to treat you right?
P.S. (got dumped a few months ago by a girl for some rich investment banker who treated her like $hit, now she wants me back... can't decide what to do)
2007-12-04 18:38:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can and will be able to "bring home the money" eventually, I'm in grad school right now though...
2007-12-04 18:51:24 · update #1
Good point Wuther, fair enough. But, I was only seeing her for like two months, which isn't really enough time to know for sure what she was wanting/expecting, right? I don't usually go for women like that, especially if I already know about her up front. I usually go for, and don't have a problem getting decent/respectable dates. I was just curious about when/how a woman starts shifting gears after their "bad boy" phase.
2007-12-05 07:32:25 · update #2
"Bad boys" don't appeal to every girl, you know!!
I never really went through that phase, I have way too much self-respect for that.
Some of us find sweet, sensitive, caring, thoughtful guys incredibly seductive.
If you got dumped by this girl for some nasty investment banker, then this should alert you to HER VALUES. If, as you say, you can't decide what to do, then reflect upon this, and think about whether you really want to be with someone with those values, someone that could do that to you.
Here's my advice: don't take her back. I don't think she deserves you. I would also be worried that if you take her back, she won't think twice about doing something like this to you again.
Perhaps you have very different values to hers.
I think you should let this one go, don't be manipulated into taking her back. Keep on being your good self and you will find a girl who will love you for it, whose head couldn't be turned by any old investment banker.
If you take back someone who has cheated on you, (if that is how it happened), then all the trust and trustworthiness has been eroded.
You can do better.
Best wishes to you!
2007-12-04 18:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women are smart, intelligent creatures but when it comes to this we are dumb, dumb, dumb. It takes maturity to get past this. If you're dating a woman that is still hooked on bad boys...she's immature. I speak from my own experience on the bad boy track. I mistakenly had my son at a young age with the prince of all bad boys. I got the ultimate in reaping because I've got the guilt of knowing that I've attached my beautiful son to a not so great dad, chained myself to knowing him for life and passed on a "good guy" that I still think of 15 years later. The good news was that having a baby gave me a maturity booster shot and I got over that and have remained bad boy free for 10 years and counting. ;)
However, that can be said of you also...how old are you going to be before you realize you should quit going after women who like bad boys?
Stay away from this woman, value yourself and take the time to find a woman who knows her own value.
Good luck.
2007-12-05 03:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by WutheringHeights73 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We teach people how to treat us. Do not allow anyone to treat you badly. Never accept less than 1st place in someones heart and life. it took my YEARS to figure this out...I am now with a wonderful man who treats me very well, but it was a long and rocky road.....Btw, it isn't about money or education, it is about the heart. I have a masters and he just has a GED but he is smarter than I will ever be and he will always make more money....
2007-12-05 03:44:52 · answer #3 · answered by Emme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take her back...She made her bed now she has to lie in it...What happens when a rich doctor, broker, lawyer, etc. comes into the picture? She basically is coming back to you with her tail between her legs and she has already showed you what type of person she is...If you take her back, then shame on you if she does you wrong again...
2007-12-05 02:43:35 · answer #4 · answered by Fugettaboudit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i never dated "bad boys" and never will, i like my pretty face and i never had the Patience for them. but i would only leave someone if i wasn't doig well in money wise and neither was my other half yes i will, sorry to sound shallow but if i really needed it and it benefited me to get better i will but that's the only i would leave a good man. but also a good man is to bring in the money so that it will never come to that point, thas the womens security.
2007-12-05 02:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by elizabeth 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't take her back!!!!
I have been seeing "bad boys" ever since i can remember, and can't pick a decent man to save my life... so i gave up.
2007-12-05 03:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being treated like crap is a choice that you are making. You get to decide to be treated like crap or not.
2007-12-05 02:43:54 · answer #7 · answered by David G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not take her back. I was only treated like crap once and I will never be again.
2007-12-05 03:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should consider forgiving your girlfriend.
i know it's difficult but try to imagine how you would feel in her situation.
remember - karma - what comes around comes around - if you do something nice then it will come back to you.
anyway - it's really up to you. does she make you happy?
good luck =]
2007-12-05 02:49:40 · answer #9 · answered by curRy xox luva <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, really? i didn't know these kinds of relationships really existed. i thought they're only in movies.
2007-12-05 02:47:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋