what are your thoughts of polygamy?

Question

if you don't know what it is, this is the definition of it:

a form of marriage where a person has more than one spouse at the same time.

are you for it or against it? why?

Answer 1

It's no one's business but those involved.
If several people want to marry, why should it involve me?

Myself? I would do it. I have nothing against it.
However I cannot imagine anyone can live with me, let alone more than one person!

Answer 2

The religion of Islam was revealed for all societies and all times and
so accommodates widely differing social requirements. Circumstances
may warrant the taking of another wife but the right is granted,
according to the Quran, only on condition that the husband is
scrupulously fair. No woman can be forced into this kind of marriage
if they do not wish it, and they also have the right to exclude it in
their marriage contract.

Polygamy is neither mandatory, nor encouraged, but merely permitted.
Images of "sheikhs with harems" are not consistent with Islam, as a
man is only allowed at most four wives only if he can fulfill the
stringent conditions of treating each fairly and providing each with
separate housing etc. Permission to practice polygamy is not
associated with mere satisfaction of passion. It is rather
associated with compassion toward widows and orphans. It was the
Quran that limited and put conditions on the practice of polygamy
among the Arabs, who had as many as ten or more wives and considered
them "property".

It is both honest and accurate to say that it is Islam that regulated
this practice, limited it, made it more humane, and instituted equal
rights and status for all wives. What the Qur'anic decrees amount to,
taken together is discouragement of polygamy unless necessity for it
exists. It is also evident that the general rule in Islam is monogamy
and not polygamy. It is a very tiny percentage of Muslims that
practice it over the world. However, permission to practice limited
polygamy is only consistent with Islam's realistic view of the nature
of man and woman and of various social needs, problems and cultural
variations.

The question is, however far more than the inherent flexibility of
Islam; it also is the frank and straightforward approach of Islam in
dealing with practical problems. Rather than requiring hypocritical
and superficial compliance, Islam delves deeper into the problems of
individuals and societies, and provides for legitimate and clean
solutions which are far more beneficial than would be the case if they
were ignored. There is no doubt that the second wife legally married
and treated kindly is better off than a mistress without any legal
rights or expermanence.

Answer 3

I think it's just a matter of what works for a person. I don't have a problem with the idea of polygamy ruining the definition of marriage, because I don't think it's as glamorous and sexually exciting as some might think it is. I think there are benefits and liabilities in polygamy just as there are in any other type of marriage. If that's the lifestyle that works for a certain group of people, then more power to them. I wonder what the divorce rate among polygamists is.

Answer 4

I am personally against it myself. I was not brought up in a plural marriage. I read a book recently on the subject, how a woman left the whole world of polygamy behind. It was very interesting. Her husband had 8 wives and over forty children. She talked about the struggles with money, all the children, lack of time her husband could spend with her, he was always gone away working. Each wife had a night that was there turn when he was home. It gave a true insight into the world. It is definately not for me. I am not against people that grew up and believe that is the way they need to follow in there life.

Answer 5

Depends on the culture. Muslims can have multiple wives ON THE GROUNDS that they can give each wife EQUAL lifestyles and financial support but only on those grounds. If they can't, they won't be allowed to do so. Thats a legal version of polygamy. As for non-Muslims - polygamy or having multiple spouses is illegal and it really sucks. Personally, I'm not for it because I'm not a Muslim.... yet.

Answer 6

Hell !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Guys can't keep one happy. What makes any one man think that he can keep multiple spouses happy?? That's a pretty arrogant opinion of yourself.

NO! These f***ing perverts should be put in jail just like any other sex offender. They pass these young girls back and forth across the Canadian/American border, like they had tags in their ears. Once a deal has been struck for the "sale' of a young girl, [Don't kid yourself. Money or materials or whatever is considered payment for merchandise.] arrangements are made for a marriage ceremony to take place. Is it even an actual legal marriage?? Isn't statutory rape still against the law in North America? Where are the governments in all this mess. Are the laws only for some and not for all??? These "cozy communities" should be rounded up, busted, and sentenced appropriately. Who's protecting these young innocent brainwashed little girls??? Who stands up for them???

I guess I would have to say NO to your question.

Answer 7

I'm against it. How can you possibly have a fulfilling relationship with someone when they are sharing their attention between spouses? This is horrible. There would always be favourites, and the husband of multiple wives would always have to exert authority to solve disputes. This would place the wives in a position of inferiority.

I guess polygamy is ok for men who think they are superior to women, but I don't think they'd like it if women were allowed to have multiple husbands, all of whom had to be committed only to them.

It's a mechanism for the social control of women. Polygamy sucks.

Answer 8

I would like to say that to each his (or her) own, but I just can't. For starts, its illegal. Most polygamist families are one husband with more than one wife, which I believe is degrading to women. Some might say that they chose this lifestyle, but most of them were raised (brainwashed) into believing that it is normal for several women to be subserviant to a man. So I'm torn between saying:
1. It's totally wrong and I'm against it.
2. All is fair in love and war.
I guess my answer really didn't 'answer' your question, but it may help you to better understand both sides.

Answer 9

Normal marriage is a nightmare. I think that if you want to be happy polygamy is the only way to go.

Answer 10

I personally am against it, but if you consider that some people were brought up believing this is the right thing to do. I mean I was brought up to believe in God and I cannot see anyone changing my mind about it. So, I can't see anyone changing there mind. It is there culture and these types of religion believe that God commanded it. If that is what they want to do I'm all for letting them. As long as it is not affecting me personally, I'm all for letting people do what they want to do as long as they are not harming anyone.