been with bf for almost 3 years. been up and down due to me having pmdd that i struggle with (seeing a counselor and take meds). i also have 3 kids that i care for part-time. i'm 28 and he's 29-no kids,never married.
we've discussed living together-marriage and said one way or the other things had to be figured out by this Feb when my apt lease is up. so far, plan is for me to move in with him (my cat and over half my stuff is at his house now)
got into a little tiff today mostly due to me being a little moody and tired. things seemed ok when we left for work but he won't email or call me back.
a friend of his back home in IL emails him from time to time and emailed him to see how things were w/his life and w/me.
he emailed back not saying anything about me so the friend asked again. he emailed the friend back saying he didnt mention me the first time b/c things are the same-one week good, the next bad. more below and important-please read!!
2007-12-04 19:06:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he then wrote that his view on things changes from day to day!!! i want to die-i had to leave my desk at work b/c i started crying!! how should i take that?!!
thank goodness the friend did right back saying that good and bad days are part of any relationship and that if the days were all good-the relationship wouldn't be real. he hasn't checked that email yet so i don't know what his take on it will be.
what should i do?!! i'm angry and hurt
2007-12-04 19:06:46 · update #1
Drink a tall glass of water, turn off the pc and take a long relaxing walk. If he's there with you, I suggest you both go out and walk and just talk. You need to take a step backwards to see the bigger picture and just focus on the more important things - has he left you? Has he seen other women? Is he bad to your kids? - Your mood swings affect him and maybe he still can't adjust to it. Give him time and stop pondering on negative thoughts for now. Plus, a hug and a kiss on the cheek with an apology for your mood swings might help relax the atmosphere in the home.
2007-12-04 19:13:51 · answer #1 · answered by Equinox 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to people when they say something like "well if you're asking on Y!A then obviously you know what to do" because sometimes we need other peoples opinions to know that we aren't crazy and alone. Sometimes we need to hear that someone else would have reacted the same way. I would have been upset. Talk to him saying that up's and down's are part of a relationship. No matter what, you are going to argue and disagree. No relationship is perfect. Tell him that when he says stuff like that to other people it hurts your feelings. That sometimes, some problems need to be kept within each other, especially about relationship issues. I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck!
2007-12-04 19:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by Happy. Finally. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he was venting his frustration. You already know you have a problem that he cannot fix, so it may be he just gets overwhelmed and let off a little steam. You have to give him some space to breath and regenerate after a tiff.
And how are you reading his emails????? Not very nice, if you ask me. Back off a bit, apologize for the part you had in the fight and keep working on your patience and self worth.
2007-12-04 19:29:25 · answer #3 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhhh..... the skunk scent of divorce problem doesn't it smell sweet??? Well, of course it DOES NOT!!!! You think anyone can just bump into you and tell you ''Hey you, get me this, get me that, get me EVERYTHING!!!'' and what do you get?? NOTHING!!! You just be a puppet of some bf for almost 3 years well then I'd leave him if I were you!!! And he thinks that he just thinks that he can make you sad by PICTURES AND WORDS???? Well you should start your life without a problem, because if you have too many problems your bf will just make your life WORSE!!!! You are like a key of his happiness and he makes you sad you make him sad remember the GOLDEN RULE!! You should make a thing that EVERY TIME you look at it you are happy once again and if it doesn't make you happy you should move your problems into a problem shredder!!! REMEMBER you should never give up and good luck!!!!
2007-12-04 19:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by nikole c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-25 11:47:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your relationship is turbulent, then perhaps you could have your boyfriend join you in some counseling sessions... perhaps you and he might learn how to communicate in a more positive way if you are struggling with problems....
sometimes we need to learn how to compromise and problem-solve... you can ask your boyfriend if he'd consider something like this? it may help your future quite a lot.
take care.
2007-12-04 19:21:10 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have cornered the market on mood swings.
And if he says that his mood swings are either non-existent, or are because of you or your mood swings, obviously he doesn't have what it takes to be your partner.
2007-12-04 19:21:45 · answer #7 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that you're even asking i think you already know the answer.
we can't tell you what to do. seek counseling, couples counseling.
but follow your head.
2007-12-04 19:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by eMteMind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋