i had a very good husband and family and lost them over a affair. i had never had or even been in one but it happened and once he found out he divorced me which i couldnt blame himhe was good to me . i took him for granted . and now i found out how silly i was . over it. i am goig to try but i dont see how after all it was me who ruined our lif. marrage. and children to . 4. years is a long time to see what you have lost till it.s gone he has been seeing a woman who is . 10. years younger than him if i cant have him . back i will understand why and how i truley messed up .
2007-12-04 18:13:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i was married for.20.years and meet this . man who lied to me on everything and that.s how my marrage ended .
2007-12-04 18:17:17 · update #1
you stated you had/ a very good husband . and family. and was married for.20. years . . 4. years ago he divorced you over what happened and . i am not judgeing you . toward your past . if he.s found another woman as you stated . you might want to try dating again and dont make a mistake. like that again. that first coust you.20. yers of a marrage . and your family. be there for your kids. i really dought he would ever trust you. my reason is simple he divorced you over it . and wont forget i i amsorry but it. fact put the shoe. on him as what happened ten ther.s your answer/i at times hae this but he must loved you but what you did killed it you had that right you really messed up try not to in your futiure if you ever date. or remarry. ?
2007-12-04 19:02:05 · answer #1 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sure alot was involved in every thought that led you to mis-step. I know i did the same. You have to make the best of what you have left. be a good mom. stay in good commuication to your ex for the ease of desisions with the kids. as far as getting things back... well... you can dream ... maybe someday ask... but more than likely that is gone.
now focus on you own life find someone to love and be loved. build something faithful in your life now. forgive yourself... like i said it was a mis-step. you live / learn / and move on better equipped to have something later.
2007-12-05 02:29:14 · answer #2 · answered by rufstuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
20 years is a long time he must of really loved you maybe if you approach this one day at a time. First regain your family friendship back respect the new people in their lives. Your Ex husband still loves you that love is just locked inside of him and he probably threw away the key.
2007-12-05 02:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i believe in time things can work out take time daily to talk with him and show him you love him and if it was meant to be it will be good luck
2007-12-05 02:29:20 · answer #4 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it is a possibility but if he divorced you I would say that he is done.
2007-12-05 02:28:49 · answer #5 · answered by rene1695 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you lay down with dog, you wake up with fleas...
2007-12-05 02:18:46 · answer #6 · answered by Renesme 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋