I am married and every Christmas my husbands nieces and nephews give my husband a gift and they don't give me anything.. as a rule we only give all the neices and nephews gifts in his family they pick and choose who they give to, last year I was so upset, I told my husband and he does not think it is a big deal..my question how do I deal with this, with out coming off as a big baby...this CHristmas
2007-12-03 21:33:52 · 24 answers · asked by girl g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You and your husband should donate money to charity in these people's names. Presents are not the real meaning of Christmas.
2007-12-03 21:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by Alea S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is so rude! I don't know why some spouses don't stick up for each other.
Many men don't realize that a woman needs to be viewed and treated as Number 1 in his life, and any insult to her, (real or imagined), needs to be dealt with promptly.
I know it hurts, but please try to ignore it. You must look at the big picture...your marriage. Does he treat you all right in other areas? Does he give you nice gifts, and is he a thoughtful person otherwise? Hopefully, he is, and this situation is only an aberration.
If you feel you must do something, I would go after the nieces and nephews. The next time when your nieces and nephews come with presents for only your husband, I would search through them all and laugh and say out loud, "Hey, where's mine? Did you leave it in the car or at home?" Then I would laugh some more...then look very disappointed.
Keep your head up! Have a nice Christmas! Don't let this seep into your soul and ruin your holiday.
2007-12-03 21:43:48 · answer #2 · answered by Ladyhawke 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask him to talk to his sister/brother (the parents of the kids) and have him let them know that auntie would like a present too or a present for the both of you would be better than just a present for him. I don't think it's the kids fault but the kid's parents because the parents would be the one's buying the gifts for your husband.
Another thing that I might do if it were me. I would take my neice/nephew out myself and have them help me pick a present out for you, but thats just me. I hope this works and I hope you have a great christmas this year!
2007-12-03 22:38:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a gift. You should not expect them to give you a gift. They are your husband's nieces and nephews, yours by marriage.
You seem to be missing the entire reason for the holiday season. It IS NOT about how many gifts you receive! It is about family and giving.
You are an adult - get over it. If you don't get a gift from them, well, so what. It is not the end of the world.
2007-12-03 21:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by banshee1068 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I gots 2 respond 2 this! Look at it this way for some strange reason the woman gets all of the attention in the end. As you grow older so will the children (nieces, nephews, children,and grandchildren). As young adults to mature adults somehow the typical family gives more attention to the woman of the house. Don't focus on what, how much, or how much more he is getting. Basically STOP comparing, you're the one who's making yourself feel bad.
2007-12-03 21:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by T-Mack 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They are kids....don't worry about it. I know you feel left out, but it really isn't as big a deal as you are making it. He is their family by blood, and you by marriage. Maybe they only are rationed so much money and he is the favorite uncle. Enjoy the gifts you get from the ones that love you and don't expect to get a gift from everyone!
2007-12-03 22:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by forestbythesea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well they should buy a couples gift that is for the two of you. i don't agree with you buy for just one person. when i give my daughter a gift i also give her boyfriend one it may not be extravagant but its the thought that counts right. i would address the neices and nephews about this in a mature manner maybe they don't realize that what they are doing hurts you.
2007-12-03 22:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to look past the gifts and remember that there are people that will have no gifts at all. Your husband is on the right track, it's not a big deal if you look at the bigger picture.
2007-12-03 21:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by laura1977 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1st of all have u made the effort of getting to know the family? Me i could let it slide for about the first 2 yrs of my marriage but after that I would ask my hubby to mention that he is married & that a couple gift is more appropiate. (build a relationship, maybe youll find more than a gift) if they are young then they probably do need to be told.
2007-12-03 22:06:59 · answer #9 · answered by caughtup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very rude I would probley ignore it and give them crappy gifts... or buy yourself a gift wrap it and label it from them, they may get the picture. Also they are only kids maybe they just don't realize how you feel. They probley can't afford to get you both presents. I wouldn't be offended or try to get over it and have a good christmas play with them get to know them and they might want to get you something next year
2007-12-03 21:38:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋