My husband has him own constuction company and he has to work out of town Monday thru Saturday because, here work is slow right now.We have a 2 month old baby and a 3year old that I am a full time mother to.I love my husband very much and I miss him from the minute he leaves until he walks in the door.When he is home I want to spend as much time with him as possible but, he useally makes other plans to go everywhere else and have everyone over.When I tell him he needs to spend this little bit of time with us, he gets mad about it and will really ignor me.I have to make a big deal out of nothing for him to really pay attintion to me.Sometimes I need that little bit of reasureance on how much he loves me.I don't ask for him to be all over me, just the weekend with us and the babies, a little family time. How would you handle it? Do you think I'm being selfish?How should I handle this when it happens?
2007-12-03 19:26:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He has his family on his mind Monday to Saturday, and you want more?
2007-12-03 20:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider telling him you are concern that all the activity on Sunday and then working all week is going to cause him to get sick or so tried he makes a mistake that will hurt him, and you wish he would spend at least one week-end a month just relaxing with just the family. Anyone that has been listening or reading any news is aware that Construction companies are having a difficult time finding clients.
2007-12-03 19:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by Bambi C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not alternate Sundays so that no one feels completely left out? It will be difficult since you hardly spend time together as it is, but it is better than wasting precious time fighting. Hopefully the jobs in your area will pick up soon, and this will no longer be an issue. It's tough to be the boss and you should support his efforts to maintain his business.
2007-12-03 20:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by kdean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your selfish. I think it's unfortunate that he is only home on weekends and doesn't want to spend every moment with you guys. I think you need to have a serious talk with him about how you feel and if that doesn't accomplish anything than you have to decide how you want to live and if you can accept this life or if this is the life you want for your children.
2007-12-03 19:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that you are being selfish. I do think that he is trying to squeeze everything into one day. I would tell him that you need a little more family time and that sometimes he just needs to forget about everyone else. See what he says. He should not ignore you on your only day with him to punish you. You should be able to discuss your feelings with him without him being immature about it.
2007-12-03 19:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
and you are in love with that you know how I would handle that, simple anyone i have to beg to spend time with me i take my mentality and bride and move on.
2007-12-03 19:41:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋