He is so disrespectful. He screams at me and threatens to hit me. He has hit me in the past. He treats me like I am his child and not his wife. He works away and takes all his stress out on me. I stay home with our kids and he always throws it in my face that he is the one that makes all the money and I am questioned every time I spend it. I am fed up. He is a GREAT dad. I just wish he show me he loves me instead of fussing all the time. I do everything for him.....I would give up everything to make him happy. But I am not happy....why is that? Would you stay and work things out or would you go?
2007-12-05 11:57:08 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sit down and tell him exactly this. But don't say you are thinking of leaving---say instead you are thinking of KICKING HIM OUT! You would be in the right, since you have your kids there.
He needs to start respecting you--and you need to make him get some counseling to help with that.
Be strong, for your kids!
2007-12-05 12:02:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all it is never ok to hit... A real man does not hit a woman or children and he does not love you like you think he does he is a coward who needs to own you.
As far as your comment about being a Great dad? think about that...does a great Dad beat his children or thier Mother??Does a great Dad talk to thier Mother like dirt??? He may be a good provider but he is not a great Dad.
Although ppl do not always understand that when your a stay at home mom without a job,money in the bank and a place to go it's very scary. So I understand it's easier said than done...If you are not ready to leave yet start a nest egg to make a move easier when your ready to go because unless you are ready in your mind and heart you will in all likely hood return to him when he says he is sorry and promises it won't happen again
(sound familiar at all?), join or at least contact an abuse group for support and get out as fast as you can. You have kids right? If you have a girl studies show she has a higher risk of finding her own abusive man & if you have a boy again Studies show he has a greater chance of becoming a beater. Because that what your husband is, he is not a poor hard working guy who has the god given right to hit his wife when she pisses him off again he is a beater..remember just like everything else when it comes to kids it's Monkey see Monkey do is that what you want for your children? Of course not.
Remember the world can be a scary place for a single Mom but at least your kids have a Mom, for now...one day he may lose control and take you away from them forever, than what? He takes his anger out on them and you are not around to protect them? The choices you make will in the end affect your kids for the rest of there their lives.
I hope you are able to find the strength to do what is right for you and the kids...GOOD LUCK
2007-12-05 14:08:42 · answer #2 · answered by Hunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has hit you than maybe you should leave. But have you ever hit him? If the answer is yes.....than you might want to think a little harder about this. First of all......no one should be hitting anyone. It sounds to me like he is under a lot of stress and needs some time off. It is very hard to be the only bread winner in the family. How old are the kids? Maybe you could get a part time job outside the house that will pay enough to pay for child care. As long as your husband likes the idea it could work very well for you. This would show him that you are doing more to help out.
2007-12-05 12:10:31 · answer #3 · answered by Dave G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he hits you, I say, leave his sorry *** behind and perhaps take up firearms training, then go watch "Enough".
You don't deserve that and your child doesn't deserve to grow up in that kind of home. Think of the damage that would do to them, having to grow up and watch mommy and daddy fight all the time.
It's not fair to you or your child, therefore, you should leave him in search of something better. However, if you feel things CAN be worked out...you may want to try. Being a single mother with kids isn't something any woman really wants to do.
Perhaps you should make an appointment for couples therapy. Then again, if you feel the relationship can't be saved or if he REALLY like..beats you. I think you should leave.
2007-12-05 12:14:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen from me coming from just being pushed and shoved then beat to dealth i got put in the hospital more than twice he will always hit on you it doesnt get better girl it gets worse the name calling the metal, physical, verbal abuse will only get worse if you stay i promise you then he will take away your selfesteem then you will get into a depression its not fair to you sounds like your only worried bout this idiot than your self leave why you can if your not happy thats good enough not to stay you will find your self thinking talking about the same old stuff with him but no change so pray aobut it and really think what is going to be best fo you and your kids you already was a great wife to him now its time for you to have peace.. good luck
2007-12-05 12:09:08 · answer #5 · answered by w.keshayvonne 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Next time he hits you call 911 and press charges. He has no right to treat you that way. And the courts will make sure that you and the children get what your entitled to. Tell him if not going to treat you like a husband is supposed to things are going to change for the better for you get your self a divorce attorney if does not change.
2007-12-05 12:22:44 · answer #6 · answered by chocolatelovely2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go. He clearly doesn't respect you and unfortunately nothing miraculous is going to happen that would change the way he treats you. You have to decide if this is something that you can put up with for the rest of your life. Also, keep in mind that the way he treats you will make a huge impression on your children and that is where they will learn how to treat their significant others later on in life. If you have boys, they will learn that it is okay to treat a woman this way and will verbally and mentally abuse their partners.
2007-12-05 12:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is far from being a good dad,a good dad does not put mommy down or holler at her in front of the kids. If they are in the house when he starts yelling at you you better believe the kids hear everything. I hated my father for yelling at my mom and to this day when i look at men i think to myself (I bet he is mean) You do everything for him (why)what has he done for you lately ?
2007-12-05 12:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not happy because you are a doormat for a jerk that should go to jail. Leave now. Do not leave a forwarding address. Contact an abuse center and have them help you. I would never stay with a guy that is abusive.
2007-12-05 12:02:50 · answer #9 · answered by Babe 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
GO!! Run as fast as you can. He has hit you, then he will do it again. He has you right where he wants you!! He thinks that you are his property and he can do with you what he wants. Get out now, why you still can..It will be really hard but I speak from experience. Sounds like my ex-husband. Just Remember that you deserve to be treated like a queen, and there is someone out there that will treat you like one.
2007-12-05 12:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋