my friend who is a indian guy loves a malay girl and they have been together for about 14 yrs... But nw that it comes to marriage. the family of the guy opposes in letting him convert to Islam... His mum is threatening him with sucide n his grandms is crying n stuff like that.. he too is confused abt what 2 do,,, But he is a very obedient son...
How do u think he can change his parents thinking.......... Plz help>>>>>>>
2007-12-05 10:09:39 · 5 answers · asked by Rina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I highly doubt his mother would kill herself over something like that, she's probably trying to scare him. Tell your friend that he must do what's right for himself and his fiancee. That's all he can do, the way his family reacts is their own problem. They either accept it or not, but they will be losing out on that part of their son's life.
2007-12-05 10:16:25 · answer #1 · answered by CoffeeQueen0327 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He can't change his parents thinking. They are set in their ways. I suppose they can't get married until they settle their religious dispute?
Well, there are several choices. The girl can try to truly understand his religion and convert.
Or they can keep their separate religions, and get married.
Getting married as different religions may be tricky but it can be done in a few different ways. The man and woman should respect each other's religions. They can have two ceremonies, one for each, or they can get married in the man's religion. It's customary for the ceremony to be of the man's religion with the promise of raising the children in his religion. Some religions would conflict with this, I'm sure, maybe some do not get along.
If he secretly converts to Islam, he risks losing his family. Blood is thicker than water. The family bond is stronger than a lover's bond, so the girl should prepare herself for the possible end of the relationship if it goes down this route. Doing stuff in secret usually ends badly...look at Romeo and Juliet for example.
2007-12-05 18:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there may be no easy way out of this... Either he converts and lives happliy eva afta or he doesn't and feels sad the rest of his life.. I can't believe that this hasn't been discussed at all in 14yrs why now...
2007-12-05 18:15:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear all these
but unfortunately his parents aren't goign to change
i've had friends in similiar situations
in the end, family wins LOL
so yeah... good luck... just be prepared for the worst news
2007-12-05 18:13:32 · answer #4 · answered by Clueless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't.
Now let me help you... worry about your problems in your life.
Good luck.
2007-12-05 18:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋