My husband is grumpy, irritable, moody, changes his mind about vacations, and even cant decide what he wants for dinner. He has no drive anymore, is not motivated. He doesnt get things done around the house like he use too. He is always feeling sorry for himself, and now he even dislikes his current job. He is 57 years old. He doesnt want to go out with our friends anymore, hes just too tired or not in the mood. He is upset about the weight he gained, and is loosing his hair which has him upset too. He may be loosing his hair, but Im loosing my mind! How do I cope with all of this? Im on hormone replacement myself, and it has been wonderful. What can he do, and how do I handle all of this?
2007-12-05 12:03:17 · 8 answers · asked by autumn wolf 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just as women go through menopause, men go through its equivalent...It's called andropause.
Perhaps trying to get him to visit his doctor for a good check-up is in order. If the tests come back OK, then perhaps he is depressed. I understand how difficult it must be for you to live with someone who is so negative and upset all the time...it wears you down after a while.
If he refuses to get help, then maybe you should consider going to therapy- alone. A trained professional may be able to give you insight and tips on how to deal with your husband's bad mood so it doesn't "get to you". Good luck.
2007-12-05 12:55:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no such thing as male menopause. There is no hormone imbalance or anything physical.
He's probably in a rut as well as going bald. You guys need to try some new things - go for dance lessons, art lessons, take a writing course, do something new together.
Doing something new will give him new zip and zing!!
He also might be clinically depressed so you should try and get that checked out.
2007-12-05 12:11:34 · answer #2 · answered by serene e 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
overdue 40's is very early for a guy to bypass by using male menopause except his testosterone is quite low. he will adventure comparable indications as a woman dealing with menopause, warm flashes, low libido, fewer erections (men purely of direction) loss of bone and muscle communities, etc. i might propose him to get a blood attempt for his testosterone.
2016-12-10 13:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by molinari 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it is tough when you reach an age that you start realizing your closer to over the hill than behind it. It does sound as though he is depressed and has lost interest in life. He has to discuss his feelings with you; why he is wishing to create a life of boredom instead of excitement. Attitude has much more to do with living life than age does. Wish I had an easy answer for you; most people do go through this re-evaluation of their life and having to face the fact they are getting older. But so what? Hair does not the person make. He is chosing to be depressed when he has so much life ahead of him to live. Please try to get him to talk about it; he needs to share those feelings.
2007-12-05 12:40:51 · answer #4 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Growing old can be a hard time for some people. First, I would make sure he is not slipping into a depression. Get him to see his doctor. Then maybe counseling. Let him know that you still care but do not take his behavior personally. It is something he has to go through.
2007-12-05 12:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by Babe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try changing his diet....Cut the coffee and, things like that. Eat more veges and, fruits...Take walks....
2007-12-05 12:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get him up & moving!!! He's depressed, you gotta get his attention, or he'll just rot away!!
2007-12-05 12:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you cant, its something they have to deal with
2007-12-05 12:54:06 · answer #8 · answered by bluebrancall 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋