If I decide to marry someone and he has kids .I need some advice.?

Question

I have no kid. Can I go along with them ? I just want to know.May be nothing happen. No marry

Answer 1

It depends on you and the kids.

Have you even met them yet?

If not, I wouldn't start thinking of marriage, as he would want you to meet them if he were thinking of marriage. I suspect you're jumping the gun here.

Answer 2

The hardest part about marrying into a ready-made family is getting accepted by the kids. You first have to lay down the understanding that you are not there to replace their mom but be like a second mom to them and then dont try to be their mom. Its never easy and is going to try every nerve youve got and all the patience in the world because theyre going to test you to see if you deserve your new position and whether theyre going to accept you if youre worth it. The kids are going to be harder to impress than your new husband, but it can and has been done with alot of preserverance. Good luck and Happy Holidays

Answer 3

If you marry a man who has children you are stepping into a very heavy role. All of a sudden you become their parent and they will hate you for it. If you take on a role as friend they will have no respect for you and walk all over you. You have to let their father take charge of things, even if he doesn't want to. But sharing a house with kids who aren't yours is hard because they will have to adjust to new rules that they won't like, like staying out of your room, etc.
But what's most important is for you to set a good example for them, and your grammar isn't that good it seems, and if you have poor grammar they will easy judge you as being stupid. You'll need to be able to help them learn proper grammar and how can you do that? Plus, there are so many things you will need to help them learn about life and relationships and setting a proper example is a priority.

Answer 4

The advise is simple, treat them like your kids. Give them unconditional love. I know what you mean. I have a step son. There are times, I find it very very hard. Lucky for me, I also have a daughter. So I always ask myself, what would I do if it was my daughter. Once you have kids you will know. Parents cannot hate their kids no matter what they do. And they are willing to die for their kids at the drop of a hat. That's the kind of love you have to offer his kids. Don't except anything back, but give everyting you have.

Answer 5

Been there! Don't do it.
Have you met the children? Have you met the ex-wife?
Most men I have known who are divorced are not very good at sharing their children. Since they may only have them every other week, they like to be a "them" family when the kids are at your home - and you're out in the cold by yourself.
You have misgivings or you wouldn't be posing the question. Listen to your innerself speaking and follow it instead of your heart or lower body parts.
Best wishes to you!

Answer 6

I think its fine if you marry him even though he has kids, if you really love him then go for it, true love shouldnt have an obtion, but you'll be a stepmom so be prepared. Oh and you wont feel pressured to get pregnant right away. There might be a chance that he will put his kids before you though.

Answer 7

Are you a friendly person?
In your experience, do you like kids?

The only way you can find out is to go out on a date with him and his kids. Pick somewhere fun like a carnival or an amusment park. However you must think about the negative side too... if you were to be their stepmother (if), would you be willing to put them before yourself? Would you have the patience to deal with them.

Answer 8

When you marry someone with kids, You get the whole package. that means kids and all!

Answer 9

What exactly do you mean? If someone has kids, you can still marry them, but believe me, it's not easy.

Answer 10

Go with your heart, don't call off a beautiful relationship just because she has kids! She's the love of your life. Go for it, spend the rest of your life with this woman, she loves you too.