My son come home in 4 days from IRAQ after sreving better then 4 years over their!
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I asked my husband to self the DIVORCE until after the the holidays because my son has been hurt so much latly with the lose of a few of his friends and the woman he was in love with (CIVIL ENGENGEER) that let him have some peace in his life for a few weeks!
My husband out of the blue said he was willing to recincile our marriage if I wanted to, that he was a fool and that he loved me! Now I got a delema on my hands what to do because I still love him, and my 3 daughters ( all over 30) still think of him as their father, but the issue of him leaving me wont go away, as well as him infering that I was not my sons REAL MOTHER that cut me to my core!
The reason he left me was in his words I made everyone more important them him and his needs ad thats why he left me.
2007-12-09 17:56:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I honestly think my husband was telling the truth because when I think about it I have been putting everyone 1st other then him.
I just want my son to come home and have a HAPPY HOLIDAY, but don't know about reconciling with my husband!
Were going to see a MARRIAGE COUNSEL tomorrow and move from their any advise?
My husband never cheated but he did ask me for a divorce because he felt different about me!
He was never abusive and he did allow me to be our son mother even though I was not!
What would you do?
Just want my son home and my family together again for the HOLIDAYS.
2007-12-09 17:56:42 · update #1
What did your son do that made him stay in Iraq for 4 years?
Anyways, if you still love your husband and want to reconcile with him then do so. If you hurt over things that were said and done you need to talk to him about it. If you don't you will be resentful forever and no marriage deserves that.
2007-12-09 18:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by celtic_princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have taken the first step, the counseling, and now you have to work on making him happy enough to want to stay this time and forgive him for leaving beause as you said, you made everyone more important than him. you have to think of him leaving you as a means of giving you both time to think and it may have been the only way to save the marriage in the long run. don't take the fact that he inferred that you were not your son's real mother seriously because that was a battle weapon and probalbly not how he feels or something he would have thought to say had you not been fighting.
your son may not feel like talking that much when he gets home so just be there for him and your husband and the holiday season may work out fine for all of you. Good Luck to you!!
2007-12-09 18:17:06 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband is deploying this year and he was there once before. Do yourself a favor- shut up and support him. If this is the worst he's done, you're luckier than many. Think about this- how many times have you mastubated while he was gone? Did you use toys to liven it up? Women have much more inventive ways to get off than men. Men only have their hands so they need stimulation, especially in a place like that. Those men are over there risking their lives. One question- does his myspace profile list him as married- there is a section on his profile that should say that. If it does, the girls know, they just don't care and are enjoying themselves and they're making life just a little bit more bearable over there. If my hubby wants to spend his time online watching me and other women on webcam, it's the least I can do! At least I have a couple of vibrators and other assorted toys to enjoy myself with. You love him and are going to have to get used to having him home again. It will be a difficult transition for him- if you'd been through any family readiness training, you'd know that this transition will be hard enough. Just love him and forgive him. The last thing he and your marriage needs is to come home to an angry wife- especially one who's angry over something stupid
2016-05-22 10:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God hears and sees.....
Well, I imagine he missed you and saw all the stuff you do for him.
Keep the appointment with the counselor to make shure he is home to stay and will not be in and out like a revolving door.
I'm truly happy for you.
Joy to you!!!
2007-12-09 18:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Case closed! if he said lets reconcile--then its reconcilation. don't guess and assume or dig back dirt --everything should be back to normal and peace. forget and forgive!
2007-12-09 18:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by Colfax 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you got it figured out. Go to counsling and go from there. If you still love each other fight for your marraige
2007-12-09 18:09:56 · answer #6 · answered by Doc Ryan 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋