my boyfriend of almost 3years moved out of our newly purchased home a month ago while i was atwork and we only talked a few times (i asked him to atleast pay disconnection fees on his stuff) an he would either be an *** to me or brush me off then on thursday i asked him if he had the money yet and he was being all nice an we ended up chatting for almost 3 hours and he said he left cuz when we gained weight we stopped doing things (we also had financial differences). I asked me to meet me somewhere and tell me to my face its over and he wont he said 'i never said i didnt care and i never said i didnt love you' and i asked him about coming home and he said his parents told him they would never speak to him again and theyre his only security and he cant since then he hasnt been online at all and we havent talked and im so confused hes 28 and im 21 hes renting a room from a stranger cuz he doesnt know anyone here his whole family is accross the country what am i supposed to think and do
2007-12-09 17:03:37 · 21 answers · asked by mikki.mouse87 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I love him we have talked about marriage but everyone we know family and friends are all dvorced and its scary. Also weve lived together for 2 of our 3 yrs together
2007-12-09 17:19:04 · update #1
You need to move on with your life. If you can't afford the home by yourself, then you need to find a roommate - and quickly! The last thing you need is to get yourself in massive amounts of debt.
No matter what he says (the "i never said I didn't love you"), the fact is, he wasn't even man enough to sit down with you and TALK to you about these issues. A marriage NEVER would've worked between the 2 of you because he's not even mature enough to talk through problems. Instead, he just bolts out the door at the first sign of any problem. Yeah....that's really mature. Honey, you should be thanking your lucky stars that you're rid of him. You are 7 yrs younger and still more mature than this guy. Move on with your life and find someone who understands what it takes to be in a mature r'ship!
2007-12-09 17:25:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop! Sit down in a quiet place and think this whole situation over-if I were you, I'd write down all the details on a sheet of paper to put some coherence to my thoughts-this helps a lot in decision making. After you've done that, review everything you've written and ask yourself: what should I do next? Do not let your emotions take control of the situation. Think rationally and plan your steps out carefully. My suggestion would be to first talk to your boyfriend and demand a clear and concise explanation
2007-12-10 01:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by Kapes 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Time to consult a lawyer about getting some of your money back. Take him to small claims court and get those disconnection fees. Otherwise write him off. He's a deadbeat who runs home to mommy and daddy when things get difficult. You're 21 and have shown more financial responsibility than him and he's 28. Hmmm.....
2007-12-10 01:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by dstluke 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey you need to take that momma's boy to small claims court. I wouldn't even say that he's renting a room , he could be living with the next sucker. When you asked for your money and he started being nice, that should have been a clue for you right then. He's not going to meet you face to face. He's not a man. How is it he's going to be afraid of parents that live cross country? Get your money.FAST!
2007-12-10 01:23:23 · answer #4 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should always move in with the person you are married with so that things like this won't happen.
It seems like you are begging him to live with you. You really can't do much right now but deal with the payments yourself. It seems like he played you because you are young.. to me he seems lazy and he might be depressed for his weight and other things and thinks since you are young you might take care of it all and come home afterwards. Follow his pattern, if you get back with him and this continues.. you shouldn't be with someone like him.
2007-12-10 01:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by lilbad_thang 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that he wants to come back, not because he's solved whatever problem made him leave, but because he's doing it hard, and wants you to make it easier again.
Please don't let him straight back in, not before working out why he left, and what you two can do to fix it. Otherwise he will just come back and leave you in the dark, until the next whim takes him away again.
It may be hard to do that, but take it from someone who's been there, if you don't find out for sure what happened and why, you will find it hard to put your full trust back into the relationship.
2007-12-10 01:18:10 · answer #6 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You do not want him back. When will be the next time you come home and he is gone? It might be after you have kids. He won't stand up to his parents and he won't face you. You are better off without him. If those bills are in his name you are not responsible for them. Let him worry about them.
2007-12-10 03:35:50 · answer #7 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has a secret. The best thing to do is move on. Some people just don't make any sense. Why would he just THROW AWAY 3 years history? Something's fishy.
2007-12-10 01:07:53 · answer #8 · answered by Whynot 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
huh? he left because you both gained weight and mommy and daddy say don't go back to her?! good riddance to a spineless momma's boy.
seriously that's a load of b.s. let the boy whine all the way home across country if he wants to. you're a grown up, in a grown up house, doing all the things grown ups are supposed to, i say good for you woman, and let the lil boy go away and find yourself a real man!!
2007-12-10 01:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by celticbuddha 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He juz give u some nonsense excuses!!! Juz move out from that house n 4get about him... U r juz 21 years old n i believe that u r able 2 find a better guy.
2007-12-10 01:18:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋