Marriage & Divorce - 10 December 2007

clothes interspersed everywhere, kitchen utensils are lying, cupboards are total mess, bed in never in good shape. all kind of stuff lying here and there. i keep cleaning it and my wife and kid keep spoiling it again.
i have told my dumb wife so many times , but it seems she has a very thick skin and i lack a clean environment in my room . It is all leading me to depression. i m not a cleaniness maniac but atleast the environment should be good in the room.
She has all the infrastructure to keep stuff but she is lackadascial and lathargic.
i m tired, what should i do

2007-12-10 16:03:52 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay, I was briefly married to this idiot and and we had a daughter together. We got divorced when she was 9 months old. Now, she is 6. She was born premature and had respitory distress at birth. My new husband and I don't smoke, but when she goes to my ex's home, they do. He is remarried as well and has a baby due at the end of the month...and she is still smoking . I have told them both not to smoke when my daughter is there and of course they tell me they won't but they always do. Another thing is that here, she has her own rook and a full sized 4 poster bed. There, she sleeps on a matress on the floor. It's awful! We have lawyers that go back and forth, we even have a "guardian ad litem" who is a court appointed attorney that is supposed to respresent our daughter's best interest. She has never even talked to my child. she talks to me and my ex. she also thinks that his house is a fine place for my daughter to be. what can i do about this?

2007-12-10 16:02:56 · 9 answers · asked by Cha togar m'fhearg gun diola 4

2007-12-10 15:56:31 · 9 answers · asked by JoAnn J 1

my wife abuses me , financially , verbally, emotionally and turns sometimes physically aggressive too. she wants all luxuries and facilities of life, but doesn't want to perform anything regarding household and kid. she is good for nothing, her agenda is roaming, shopping, nagging, eating, sleeping and abusing and that's all is life in her terminology. does she deserve the car , she is asking for.
when she travelled with me to Europe, she promised me that she will never abuse me in future but she forgot her commitment, what do you think , if i buy her a car , she will stop abusing me.

2007-12-10 15:48:16 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

i feel it weird to ask but i just want to try if i can have any answer that match my thoughts because i am really unsure about this. my boyfriend told me that i should be patience for a while, i should wait for him to put an end for his relationship with his girlfriend so that we could be together. his girlfriend will spend this xmas with him and his family, sadly not me. i just wonder why he doesn't want me to come by and spend xmas with him so that his girlfriend will be able to know that he want to be with me and she will get the answer. moreover, i will not have this complicated feelings. a very painful fellings of being put aside during holidays. can any of you tell me what this means. i have no idea if i should put up with this. i am under such a great depression. i can't find a reason to convince myself about this strange idea of me being alone while he is spending time with that woman.

2007-12-10 15:41:46 · 12 answers · asked by hong h 2

2007-12-10 15:39:27 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

In the past, I had some conflicts with my sis and I was mad for a long time. I eventually got over with it and when my parents lost their home, we moved in together in my apartment for 2 yrs. In those 2 years, we have had one major fight where police was involved. Since then, we have not fight so much until she decided to fool around with her co-worker and got her feelings hurt. At one point she told me what happened to her, I tried to help her in many ways but eventually told her, you did it, you deal with it.
Nerveless, to know she took it to offence and till today she blames me for saying the things that I did. She also blames me for not celebration her birthday which was in Oct. I tried to explain to her that on that day, I had worked a double shift and I was too tired to do anything.- She took it to offense when I said to her, it is not just one day that counts, it is every day. Yes, I did not buy her a card or a cake but throughout the year, I have taken her to dinners, helicopter ride, and even given her money. Did I do her wrong? I can easily on that day buy her a 12-14 dollars cake and not spend anymore $ throughout the year. Do you see my point?

2007-12-10 15:35:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-10 14:59:30 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

I met my husband 2000... got married 2001 ...and had her son 2004. Everything seemed ok but my husband i very negative at times... pessimist in other words. I am a very happy person...always set goals and try to achieve them.. I was never controlled by anyone and always made my on decisions.Never was into boys etc...always career..and my husband knows and trusts me for that. But I am just getting tired of my wedding. I feel no interest in sex with him... I approach him for a slow dance or anything romantic..he just does'nt mke the effort... I am compromising for my child. I am 27 now and after the baby I gained a lotof weight...but gradually started to lose it and i feel so many unmarried men are attracted towards me.. I try to keep them at their place but sometimes getreally depressed that this is how i will be living for the rest of my life. Please dont suggest to talk to my husband...did that several times but he is very non serious about it..what should i do?

2007-12-10 14:55:33 · 6 answers · asked by Kash 1

what would you do if you if woke up in the middle of the night to a stranger standing over you completely nude, assuming you were alone.

2007-12-10 14:44:05 · 30 answers · asked by Cammy 1

Because most people have been MARRIED at a younger age than I and I still haven't had a long term relationship aka more than 6-7 months...

2007-12-10 14:28:35 · 66 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, so my wife has a pimple fetish if you call it that, she likes popping them and when they have white heads they actually turn her on when she pops them.... she wanted me to take a picture of one on her tonight....lol! Does anyone else find this really weird? She thinks no one willl... whats your input?

2007-12-10 14:25:19 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am only 22 years old and lost my husband this past summer due to a 4-wheeler accident. I started getting tattoos in memory of him after he pasted away. During the process I met the tattoo artist whom I am currently dating. I wasn't looking to date anyone so soon, it just happened. I still love my husband very much, but I am also feeling so alone. The guy that I am dating is 11 years older than I am, and lives two hours away. On the weekends everything is great but during the week when I go back to school he only calls and talks to me for maybe 5 min a day. He has also told me that he loves me. I don't know what to think of all of this. My heart has already been broken and I don't think that I can go through much more. IS this guy for real or is he just using me?????

2007-12-10 14:21:36 · 28 answers · asked by Dragonfly 1

Is there really such thing as too young to get married ?

2007-12-10 14:14:09 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

I met him a couple of years ago through my boyfriend. We all became friends and hung out. A year later I met his wife. She lives in another state because he is in the military. After a few months his wife and I became good friends. She doesn't know he has been carrying on an affair and is now living with his mistress. The wife is waiting and believes he will come home to her around Christmas. I feel horrible about this. If I talk, I will lose him as a friend. If I keep quiet and the wife finds out I knew, I will lose her as a friend. And, if I do say something and they patch things up, there is a chance I could lose both of them. Or, should I cut myself loose now and contact them in a couple of years to see how they're doing?

2007-12-10 14:12:47 · 22 answers · asked by rdavis61 3

My husband passed away in June due to a 4-wheeler accident. Right after it happened I felt hopeless and helpless. I loved him with all my heart. I started getting tattoos in memory of him. I used to be against tattoos until I lost him. While getting the tattoos I met the tattoo artist who I am now currently dating. I still love my husband and always will, and I wasn't looking for anyone to date this just happened. I am falling for this guy but I don't know what he thinks of me. We live two hours apart, but on the weekends we spend almost the entire weekend together. However, when I return to school during the week he only calls and talks to me maybe 5 minutes a day. He also has told me that he loves me. Does he really love me or just using me?? Does he just not like to talk on the phone??? I just can't get hurt any more. I have been through enough as it is!!!!

2007-12-10 14:07:28 · 7 answers · asked by Dragonfly 1

I found out at Thanksgiving last year that my husband was having an affair with a co-worker. i have now learned that they are still talking and of course they still work together. I want this to work out it is a 27 year marriage and beleive it or not I still love him. i need some advice on what to do next before I go crazy.

2007-12-10 14:05:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

me and my wife are young parents and usually go to clubs together. we have a daughter whos 2 months and tonight she wants to go clubbin and wants me to watch our daughter by myself. i cant even change a tire let alone watch my daughter by myself. just kidding. should i be cool with it and let her go? or see if we can find a babysitter and go together if we can! we deserve the time to have fun weve worked so hard but she wants to go tonight and we might not have a babysitter. i dont like it because women who go clubbin are usually single. it sounds like a bad idea. but what do you think? i hate the idea of going seperate.

2007-12-10 14:01:58 · 26 answers · asked by FukcingAngel 2

Me and my husband have been together for going on 2 years and he don't like to get his stuff sucked on. I have only done it one time since we have been together and anytime I try to do it he seems like he don't want it. In the beg. of our relationship he said he did not like it but I did not know he really ment it like this. What is wrong with him? has any guys ever felt like this?

2007-12-10 13:58:28 · 17 answers · asked by Nae 3

He and I grew up together, she is in the picture for the past few years. My husband and I talked before I told her and we decided it was the best thing to do. She said she already suspected it, and for months she called me all day long, wanting to talk or have advice. Then all of a sudden she stopped calling me, except when she wants something. That was 2 yrs ago. They decided to stay together, she told me she was staying for his money (he has a good job), and they promptly had a 3rd kid to seal the deal, calling the child the name I had always wanted to give a child. I feel really hurt, I deleted her on facebook, I called him a couple of times, he said he would call back and never did, I don't know why it upsets me, but I feel that they treated me really badly. How can I stop letting it bother me?

2007-12-10 13:52:48 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

how often do you touch your wife and just hug her with out having any sex. Or how often do you have this need to just be close to your wife with out wanting anything from her. How often do you tell her that you love her?

2007-12-10 13:45:24 · 10 answers · asked by broken heart 2

My husband has a friendship with this girl and its come to the point thats its detrimental to our marriage. We've been together for 3yrs married for 2 1/2. We have a toddler. He's know this girl for less than year.

I told him he needs to stop being around her until we can get our marriage back on track. He flat out refuses to stop being around her. He's not cheating with her but has fantasies about it. She's a lesbian with significant other.

I've probed as far as I'm willing and told him it hurts to much to stay like this and he needed to tell this friend goodbye for the sake of our marriage.He stated "I'll choose our daughter over anyone including you"

I'm glad he feels that strongly about his kid but on the same hand I feel as though he stated he's still not going to choose ME over this girl.

I'm thinking about talking to this girl privately. I don't think she's aware of the situation. Would that be a mistake?? What should I even say???

2007-12-10 13:45:18 · 15 answers · asked by ARL 2

My husband of 10 years used to work with my cousin's husband. A few days ago she called me and told me that there were rumors circulating around the workplace that my husband was having an affair with one of his former coworkers while he still worked there. She said that her husband heard people saying that they went out to long lunches together and that he picked her up after work once. He was never secretive about having lunch with her and he often had lunch at home. Lunch between friends isn't really a reason to be suspicious, but now I'm wondering if he was "hiding out in the open." This women does have a reputation for promiscuity according to both of our husbands (mentioned independantly from this instance) and niether one of the accused were present during this rumorfest. My husband says they were just friends and that he has hardly spoken to her since he quit. No one said they witnessed any physical intamacy, but they did suspect more than friendship. Gossip or truth?

2007-12-10 13:43:39 · 6 answers · asked by rose 1

I'm married, and I'm in love with a married man. He started avoiding me at work. It's made me think twice about my own marriage. I feel so sad that I love someone else, but I probably will never have anything with him.

2007-12-10 13:29:04 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-10 13:24:10 · 16 answers · asked by kiki 6

This question is for those who have gone through or going through mid age. I'm 39 and have a really nice house, no debt, a successful business, and still not really happy. Is this due to the nonsense I see on TV as to the lifestyle we should be living?? I really know the question to this but can't help to feel this way because this is how our society is. Normally, I just blow off what other people think because god made each of our lives different. Still, I have this uneasy feeling that I'm lacking something in my life right now. Need some other viewpoints.

Another question I have is how do we adjust to aging? We never were taught how to grow old gracefully, our society usually just put older people away in homes... Not that I'm that old yet. but I never thought of myself becoming old.

2007-12-10 13:17:59 · 13 answers · asked by ur_dream_god 2

if you had to choose between your children or your partner/husband / wife who would you choose ,? i am a mother of two , and without a shadow of doubt i would put my kids before any man , if you feel different to this could you explain why ? ,i have had this conversation with many people over the years and its always been half and half i would like to understand why ?

i know its a sensitive subject thanx !!!!

2007-12-10 13:14:57 · 27 answers · asked by ♥BEX♥ 7

He passed away almost a year ago. I have a new bf now, but I feel so guilty. Not to my bf, but to my late fiance's memory. I keep crying about him at random times. I miss him so much, but i don't wanna live in the past anymore! I do like my bf, but my fiance was my 1st love, my best friend. When he was still alive, loving him made me happy everyday. How can I get over him?

2007-12-10 13:11:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why do some men think that even if they have a good wife at home and great kids?

2007-12-10 13:10:21 · 14 answers · asked by italianbella 2

ok, this is going to sound wierd and some of you wont even understand what im trying to say, so here goes.

what makes you the better person? the women (man) that has her house clean, her kids nice and pretty, and dinner ready by 6pm OR the woman that makes the housewives hubby tell her lover to call his (her) spouse tell her (him) that he(she) is going to be late because of work.

honestly can people (lovers) think that they will eventually become someone important in that married persons life?

I personally, would rather be the house wife that has her kids all nice and tidy, than the one help tear a family apart.

I guessI would feel less of a guilty consience less

2007-12-10 13:04:25 · 7 answers · asked by ♥Sonadora♥ 3