I'm married, and I'm in love with a married man. He started avoiding me at work. It's made me think twice about my own marriage. I feel so sad that I love someone else, but I probably will never have anything with him.
2007-12-10 13:29:04 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a brain scan, please, because you must be mental.
You're married.....he's married.....
Instead of continuing this little high school crush, which probably isn't reciprocated, concentrate on strengthening your own marriage... or gee I don't know...working on those little vows you made awhile ago....
2007-12-10 13:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by kiki 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Some pretty catty answers there to begin with. Obviously from a group of people that have never been there. Falling for someone who doesn't or can't reciprocate is tough. I got married then started working with a married woman a year and a half later and fell for her. Sometimes she liked me, sometimes she didn't. I ended up moving on to another job after almost 8 years and hated leaving her behind. We had become best friends too and I honest to god cried for a week. That was amost 5 years ago, I haven't talked to her for a year, but a day doesn't go by I don't think about her. It's fun to flirt a bit and get a little attention that maybe you stopped getting at home, but don't fall too far or you'll screw things up and not have either relationship.
2007-12-10 13:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just try and work on your relationship with your husband. I mean maybe you feel bad because you are cheating. I think we all have a point and time in our marriage when we want more, but that does not mean we have to go out and get.
You have to way your opinions. Is it worth it to destroy your marriage? Is this guy worth all the trouble and lying? Just count your lost and move on. Good Luck!
2007-12-10 13:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you let yourself fall for another woman's husband when you know he will never be yours. It doesn't make any sense at all to even look at him like that. You had a choice to not let yourself fall for him but instead you chose to let yourself go. Where does your poor husband stand in all this,you need to get your head on straight and out of the gutter where it is now. Sure if you keep at him he might give in to you sexually but it won't last. Don't do anything you might regret later.
2007-12-10 13:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should have never let your self fall in love with him. He was just a fantasy and thats where you should have left it, in all honesty you know he was never going to leave his wife for you. You was a get away for him. He got to get away from all the stress of a regular relationship and he knew you would understand because you were going thru the same thing and it was suppose to be nothing more than that. So accept for what it is and leave at that.
2007-12-10 13:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by Sexy Red 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey get some capability interior you and unload him do no longer sit down there and tolerate the nonsense he's supplying you with and your infants you deserve extra suitable then this crap he maintains to be because of the fact he would not prefer to pay baby help oh hell no he extra suitable start up finding for a place to sleep now left you and the infants seeing different Ho's no way and he can likely deliver you returned an STD i desire you acquire appeared at tell him bye and spot you in family individuals courtroom its no longer incredibly incredibly worth the issues you have 2 teenagers to think of approximately and you go with all your capability for them no longer him and don't cry and beg him to stay you will recover from him
2016-11-14 09:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by barreda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad that you have only 2 choices. Why cant you be good friends or best friends. It takes 2 to jump into bed. You probably know each other more than most married couples, don't blow it, don't waste the effort you put in getting to know each other.
2007-12-11 14:43:13 · answer #7 · answered by boundless 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You say you love this man? Think it may just be an attraction. Leave him alone and concentrate on your own husband and making your marriage work
2007-12-10 16:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could get a divorce but is sounds like he was using you for sex and when you got too serious, that is the end of that!
Go back to your husband and try to fix your relationship and write the jerk off. Make sure you and your husband get counseling as you need to address why you strayed in the first place!
2007-12-10 13:37:21 · answer #9 · answered by B. D Mac 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could have been writing these few lines about my life.
What a beautiful feeling it is, to want to be with someone so badly. But she was more level-headed than I, and stopped spending time with me. I still cry when I see her and I tear when I see my wife. I tried my best to try to be her friend but I just couldn't. I still don't have a clue what to do.
I keep busy with work for now and it helps.
Wishing I could email you Hello...
Wishing you could tell me how to get over this...
Wishing I could be happy at work again...
2007-12-10 14:07:29 · answer #10 · answered by cynic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're in love with a possibility. The unknown is always more enticing and attractive than your daily routine. You married your husband for a reason...rediscover it and work on it!
2007-12-10 14:43:42 · answer #11 · answered by Jaded 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋