does my wife deserve a car?

Question

my wife abuses me , financially , verbally, emotionally and turns sometimes physically aggressive too. she wants all luxuries and facilities of life, but doesn't want to perform anything regarding household and kid. she is good for nothing, her agenda is roaming, shopping, nagging, eating, sleeping and abusing and that's all is life in her terminology. does she deserve the car , she is asking for.
when she travelled with me to Europe, she promised me that she will never abuse me in future but she forgot her commitment, what do you think , if i buy her a car , she will stop abusing me.

Answer 1

run her over with your car and then see if she still wants a car

Answer 2

If she is as bad as you say, nothing will really change her behavior. She didn't keep her promise to stop abusing after the Europe trip, so I doubt a car would stop it now. I would say that you both should seek some counseling. She is really crying out for some help or attention, and this is the only way she knows to get it. It's possible that she doesn't know how she is behaving, and tries everything to get her way, much like a spoiled child. She needs to get some professional help, especially if you want your marriage to stay together. Best of luck to you both.

No, don't buy the car. I think it would be a waste of time and money.

Answer 3

She will not stop with the abuse, it will just go from the car to wanting something else from you. It sounds to me like she is wanting all these material things to cover for something she feels inside, you should try to get her more "happy" then she will take pride in her family and kids. This is not really something you can do for her, but maybe you can steer her in the right direction by gettting her enrolled in some college class, or helping her start some kind of small business, a mothers group- whatever just something for her to take an interest in that will take her mind off of what she can get out of you next. If this doesn't work- DUMP HER OFF THE NEAREST CLIFF!!!

Answer 4

No she wont because you buying her a car will be you giving into her. As long as you give into her you are pretty much telling her it is ok to keep acting the way she is. Tell her if she wants a car she needs to work for a car. Nothing in life is free and her get out of jail free pass just ended. Im sorry that you are going through this but you need to stand up to her and tell her that it is the end. Good Luck. Dont back down to her. Dont let her continue to run you over.

Answer 5

last year i just divorced an abusive husband that promised everyday he was going to stop hitting me, strangling me, and duct taping my mouth. As he ordered me to go to bed at night and ordered me to take a shower and ordered me to get off the computer and shut the tv off.

Enough was enough after 13 years of promises he was going to stop. It was getting worse not better. The law was no help either.

All i can say is no way does she deserve a car. Stop doing for her. I stopped doing for my ex before the divorce and it made him more angry that i didnt buy him anything anymore. But why should i? He never did for me for 13 years.

I would love to go to Europe with you. You dont even have to buy me a car. I already have 2 cars that i bought myself. I would love to meet a guy like you.

Test her, just to see what see does. Tell her your not buying her the car and watch her reaction. Total anger.

Answer 6

buying the car won't fix anything in terms of her stopping her abuse of you. it just means you might see her less. it seems your wife has a problem that you guys need to see a councelor for, not buy more stuff for.

i'm sorry, i'm not trying to make your wife sound bad. i'm sure she's a very nice person. i'm just saying that buying her more stuff (even a car) won't guarantee her stopping. she'll probably just keep asking for more and more, using her abussiveness as her leverage/side of the bargain. i think you guys need to see someone to talk about this because she really SHOULDN'T be abusive in any way, and so she shouldn't even be able to use that as leverage in any situation.

you owe it to your relationship with her and your child (emphasis on your child) to get this problem fixed. your child should not have to grow up in a home where one parent abuses the other (in any form) because, more than likely, he/she will grow up to be abussive as well, and you will not have anyone to blame but yourself.

Answer 7

You are in a pretty pathetic situation. You know full well the answer. But personally, I think you dig the abuse. Even from us. You know that we are going to let you have it. And you are probably getting off on the whole idea of it. You 'lil' freak!

Answer 8

I doubt it, your wife does not deserve you if the only way she can stop abusing you is buy owning a car, to me that is wrong and she's is probably using you

Answer 9

of course she won't stop abusing you if she gets the car. why did you marry this woman?

this isn't a healthy relationship.

not out of an insult, but buy her "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands." It's written by a female psychologist and family counselor & it's really enlightening.

Answer 10

No, if all u say is true! Not unless she doesn't already have one. Why won't she take care of your child? What in the hell does she think she's supposed to do? Tell her when she starts acting like a real woman, wife, and mother she'll get one!

Answer 11

If she's abusing you then she doesn't deserve a car and she also doesn't deserve to be with you.
If you're not happy in the marriage you two should seek counseling and then if all else fails, divorce.