Middle Age Difficulties...need some imput.?

Question

This question is for those who have gone through or going through mid age. I'm 39 and have a really nice house, no debt, a successful business, and still not really happy. Is this due to the nonsense I see on TV as to the lifestyle we should be living?? I really know the question to this but can't help to feel this way because this is how our society is. Normally, I just blow off what other people think because god made each of our lives different. Still, I have this uneasy feeling that I'm lacking something in my life right now. Need some other viewpoints.

Another question I have is how do we adjust to aging? We never were taught how to grow old gracefully, our society usually just put older people away in homes... Not that I'm that old yet. but I never thought of myself becoming old.

Answer 1

Read the book "The four-hour workweek" i have read it at least 4 times over and its great. don't let the title fool you. its not about how to just work 4 hours a week its about how to get the most of your life.

Answer 2

We were really only made, psychologically, to live to about the age of 40. So by 40, we would have been kicking back, even if we were not kicking off, as it were. But now our lives are easier and we live much much longer. It's natural for us then to think "This can't be everything!" when we reach our pace in middle age. We do have an urge to learn and even to struggle a little to feel alive. So - most people begin to shake things up a little. Driving a Ferrari and dating someone younger is not necessary - pick up a new hobby or sport, travel more, start a non-profit and help others, start writing, or just look for a new career or new job to keep your mental juices flowing! At 40 we look and see a flat horizon ahead - we need some hills, even mountains to make us feel alive. So go out there and find some new challenge - whether you learn mahjong and Spanish, start performing in the local community theater, start a bread pantry location at your community center, go parasailing, take classes in pottery at night, or start a new business venture! Old is no longer old anymore. People are active and learning and doing new things until they reach their 80's these days! You will need to pay more attention to your body and try to find out the day-to-day ways you abuse it (we all do) with things like poor posture or bad lifting and try to take better care of yourself.

Answer 3

What do you think you are missing? You have a nice home(some life in an apt.) Owe nothing( most are in bankrupcy) Own you own business( most hate their jobs). This is due to the fact that no one is satisfied with what they have, and always want more, then when they get more they find out that isn't what they wanted. Do you have a wife and kids, or someone that you can share what you have with. Just to let you know I am almost 64 and except for not being able to do some of the things I once did ( Had a couple car wrecks, and motorcycle bangups, none my fault) I work and can work some of the younger ones in to the ground. As they say age is just a number, and you can make what ever you want out of it. If you want to curl up and waste away, kindly do it on your own, there are to many of us older ones that have a life and want to live it. You see we don't have to worry what some one things of us, because we already paid our way. You know one day your going to be 60 and wonder where all the years went because you still have so much to do, SO GET OUT THERE AND DO IT, FIND WHAT YOUR MISSING, AND ENJOY IT TO THE FULLEST.

Answer 4

going through the same thing.. I have a perfect life, wife, kids, house, cars, carrear.. no sickness, no bad luck... I am so bored, I get what ever I want.. I even had a few GF's along the way.... there aren't many challenges left...

You didn't say you was married, so if your not, I recommend it.. I have a couple of kids and though it's hard work, it will be my crowning achivment in life.

On a lighter note, I am reaching out to childhood freinds cause i think those are the best friends a person can have....... hanging out with them and thier families, making up dates, and travel dates.

Answer 5

Success is measured by you and no one else. Don't allow the media and hollywood to guide your views of success. Think you should enjoy the things that give you much personal happiness; things you always put off.

Aging - growing old? What is that. lol - You are only as old as you allow yourself to be. Besides, 39 is young to many. I won't say my age, but people think I am at least 15 years younger than I am and it is because I live and enjoy life, no matter what age I am. I love people of all ages - so please do something good for yourself - besides, with age comes much wisdom. You don't stress over the small stuff anymore

Answer 6

Ahhhh, I don't think this is due to the nonsense you see on tv, because you know its nonsense.

I think that deep down inside there is a part of you that isn't happy with your life, its mundane, therefore provoking these thoughts of having something lacking.

Do you ever treat yourself to a trip, anything special? Take up a hobby apart from work and home.

How do we adjust to aging..? LOL, very slowly I hope...I'm 37 and I see that big 40 creeping up on me, I keep denying that I am getting older because I have always been so young acting and active outdoors. But my body is telling me everyday that I've been too rough on it with every ache and every pain I have to suffer through.

So, I plan on adjusting to aging with some stiff pain killers, alot of humor and hopefully very gracefully.

Answer 7

First of all to heck what society says or thinks,
as we do not and should not live according to
society. Many people are mad and jealous at
me because I retired when I was 42. However
I started working when I was 15yrs old and
worked hard for 27yrs and made something of
myself and that is why I could care less what
people say or think of me. I am a happily married
man to a lovely lady for over 20yrs and they are
mad at us because we have been together so
long and are both retired. So you see no-one can
worry about what society thinks or what other
people think about one's life because we would
never please anyone out there. Go on living and
fulfilling your ambitions and to heck with the rest
of them and you will see how automatic it is for
you to be happy in life.

Answer 8

im 39 as well and hanging onto my 30's for dear life! no matter what, most people are never happy with what they have and always compare their "stuff" with the "stuff" that the other one has. if u make 1 million, you'll want 2 million, if you have a lexus, you'll want a rolls royce. the idea is to be happy with your life and the people in your life. the rest of the things are just material and can "go away" at a moments notice

Answer 9

Don't think of yourself as starting going over the hill. You are still in your prime. However, from you writing I am guessing that you must be a very lonely guy. You are the type of all work and no play. You need to find yourself a good woman that will fulfil you.

Answer 10

what to do when the material isn't enough...turn within through the silence of meditation where Bliss can build and you can consciously know the Divine.

We turn within either from suffering and/or when we succeed materially but still feel empty, restless.

Check out the spiritual journey of this great yogi:
Autobiography of a yogi by Paramahansa Yogananda

http://www.crystalclarity.com/yogananda/chap1.html

Also see if there is a group meditation in your area, also check out meetup.com