i feel it weird to ask but i just want to try if i can have any answer that match my thoughts because i am really unsure about this. my boyfriend told me that i should be patience for a while, i should wait for him to put an end for his relationship with his girlfriend so that we could be together. his girlfriend will spend this xmas with him and his family, sadly not me. i just wonder why he doesn't want me to come by and spend xmas with him so that his girlfriend will be able to know that he want to be with me and she will get the answer. moreover, i will not have this complicated feelings. a very painful fellings of being put aside during holidays. can any of you tell me what this means. i have no idea if i should put up with this. i am under such a great depression. i can't find a reason to convince myself about this strange idea of me being alone while he is spending time with that woman.
2007-12-10 15:41:46 · 12 answers · asked by hong h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
another point i want to make it clear so that it will be fair for him. he dated that girl for almost 3 years and then he met me. the point is his parents like that girl and try to make their relationship works. thus, he asked me to wait for him for this last time to "please his girlfriend." it doesn't make any sense at all. i don't understand why i have to be alone and he will be with that woman. why does he want to "please her" the last time? how about me, my feelings?
2007-12-10 16:04:15 · update #1
I'd kick his sorry butt to the curb honey! IT'S HER he cares about, OR he WOULDN'T be spending it with HER and leaving you alone!!
Kick his ***
2007-12-10 15:52:00 · answer #1 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does your "boyfriend" have another "girlfriend"? If it hurts you, then its not a good thing. Why would you accept this guy had the right to an attachment with someone else? Why would you be "with" this guy when he has a girlfriend? This guy is cheating his girlfriend by having you, and may well cheat on you with someone else later on. The fact that he will spend the holidays with her, in order not to hurt her feelings, says she means more to him than you do. Get out of this now, before you live a life of pain.
2007-12-11 00:05:17 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason is because hes hasnt broke up with this other person yet or he wouldnt be spending any time with her... so you can figure hes not willing to give her up yet or maybe ever. what you have to decide is how long are you willing to just set and wait while life passes you by with no one but a part time man.. hes not leaving with a part time person hes living a overtime person.. hes got her and got you.. if he loves you that much he would be leaving her now... so i would tell him he only has a week to tell her and get out of there or you will have to move on.. that you dont want to spend days wanting someone that cant prove there love for you.. good luck
2007-12-10 23:51:54 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um... if he already has a girlfriend, then he's not YOUR boyfriend, he's HER boyfriend.
If you don't like being second best, then go find someone who is willing to put you first.
The old "just be patient, I'll tell her when the time is right" line is one that players use to keep you coming back for more. Usually they have no intention of leaving either of you, they just like being able to have two girlfriends.
2007-12-10 23:48:48 · answer #4 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One should end a relationship before starting another so technically he's still HER boyfriend until he ends it....so you let him end it his way and not by you showing up and rubbing the reason why he's ending it in her face ( it comes across like gloating to me with absolutely no empathy for the girl whose about to get dumped, all in all very nasty m'dear.). If he's genuine about ending it you two will have many holidays in future, this one is a small sacrifice for doing something with as little cruelty as possible. So show you're a Class Act by having patience,okay?
...but understand this, he may be hedging 'cause he has no intentions of ending it....and you're just another notch in his belt......
2007-12-10 23:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by The Original GarnetGlitter 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Watch R. Kelly's Trapped In The Closet Chap. 1-22.
2007-12-10 23:49:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why on earth would you want to be with someone who is willing to cheat on his current girlfriend with someone else? Who's to say that if you two got together he wouldn't do the same thing to you? Once a cheater, always a cheater. Go out and find someone actually worth your time.
2007-12-10 23:58:37 · answer #7 · answered by piscesgirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it is his girlfriend and your not going to look to great being the other woman.. I honestly think that while your not with him he will be having sex with her and making up cause it is a stupid idea for them to break up.. you need to move on your relationship with this guy it going to be terrible because he is going to cheat on you like he's doing to her.. Personally I think your a homewreaker and you should just leave him and his gf alone
2007-12-10 23:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
General rule of thumb: If it feels that bad, it's wrong.
I wouldn't wait around for him. In fact, I wouldn't even be involved if he has a girlfriend. I think you should move on. I think he just has you on a string and has no intention of being with you.
2007-12-10 23:45:51 · answer #9 · answered by KC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He picked her to be around his family. I say he is not worth crying over. He is a jerk and you deserve to find someone who is willing to make you number 1. Ok you can chalk this one up as a mistake but if you continue to stick with him then you are a fool.
2007-12-10 23:47:21 · answer #10 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋