In the past, I had some conflicts with my sis and I was mad for a long time. I eventually got over with it and when my parents lost their home, we moved in together in my apartment for 2 yrs. In those 2 years, we have had one major fight where police was involved. Since then, we have not fight so much until she decided to fool around with her co-worker and got her feelings hurt. At one point she told me what happened to her, I tried to help her in many ways but eventually told her, you did it, you deal with it.
Nerveless, to know she took it to offence and till today she blames me for saying the things that I did. She also blames me for not celebration her birthday which was in Oct. I tried to explain to her that on that day, I had worked a double shift and I was too tired to do anything.- She took it to offense when I said to her, it is not just one day that counts, it is every day. Yes, I did not buy her a card or a cake but throughout the year, I have taken her to dinners, helicopter ride, and even given her money. Did I do her wrong? I can easily on that day buy her a 12-14 dollars cake and not spend anymore $ throughout the year. Do you see my point?
2007-12-10 15:35:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she sounds really selfish to me... kick her out of your house so she is clear on how mcuh you are actually doing for her
2007-12-10 15:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't say that just because you did things for her throughout the year, you're off the hook for her b-day. It sounds now like you're using all of the other "nice" things that you've done to justify not getting her a b-day gift...even card. I understand the double shift thing, I work about 70 hours a week, but if it meant something to her and you've been semi-getting along, you should have scheduled something to do the next day or the next week. Nothing big, just a small gesture to wish her a happy b-day. Families fight, especially sisters, but you should still support each other and love each other unconditionally. If you don't feel like you can do that then distance yourself from her and have a talk with her stating that you'd like some distance.
2007-12-10 23:42:18 · answer #2 · answered by laura1977 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Birthdays are special .. and usually especially to girls.
Next time .. prepare ahead of time .. just in case you have to work.
Try not to put the blame anywhere ... but do something special .. like .. set this up ahead of time ... tell her that you want to buy her dinner at a restaurant ... make sure the restaurant has the crew who sings happy birthday and will bring our a cake that you bought ... you might want to tell the restaurant ahead of time that you weren't able to be with your sister on her birthday, which was real important .. and you are wanting to do it now. Eat dinner .. then the crew can come out singing happy birthday .. with a cake. Then .. from like nowhere .. pop a little present w/cake out from under the table and give it to her. Kiss her on the cheek .. and tell your sister .. happy birthday sis.
This would be a nice thing to do. Ammends are worth it.
2007-12-10 23:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your sister needs to realize that you are her brother not her husband or lover. Not to many brothers would do as much as you did for your sister. She needs to get a life and stop depending on other people to make her happy. You did nothing wrong as far as i can see, it's your sister that needs a good talking to about when it's time to stop looking for hand outs from the family and to do things for yourself that makes you happy.
2007-12-10 23:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i see your point. sounds like your sis is very self centered. not your fault.
next time she acts like a baby, point out the things you have done for her and tell her to grow up and enjoy life one day at a time.
2007-12-10 23:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants to control you. No one should demand a birthday party. Maybe she should live someplace else.
2007-12-10 23:45:53 · answer #6 · answered by Rich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a list of things that you want and see if she comes through for you like you did for her.
2007-12-10 23:42:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep sister sounds whiney. shes needs to quit worrying about what you do or didnt do and be glad your near her. some people just fight to be fighting. just tell her your not going to fight with her..good luck
2007-12-10 23:44:58 · answer #8 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is why there is a PYSCHOLOGY of Women class and not of men.. too much hormones.... I am glad to be a guy, let me mo my yard, wax my car and eat.....
2007-12-10 23:45:19 · answer #9 · answered by Johnny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your sister has an "all about me" attitude and has alot of growing up to do. i don't think you did anything wrong. maybe distance is best until she grows up.
2007-12-10 23:41:02 · answer #10 · answered by mufasa42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋