Me and my husband have been together for going on 2 years and he don't like to get his stuff sucked on. I have only done it one time since we have been together and anytime I try to do it he seems like he don't want it. In the beg. of our relationship he said he did not like it but I did not know he really ment it like this. What is wrong with him? has any guys ever felt like this?
2007-12-10 13:58:28 · 17 answers · asked by Nae 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok so he told me this when we met that he did not like it. The first time I tried to do it was a year later. And another thing is that he has not gone down on me. I don't want to ask him why not but it is strange to me
2007-12-10 14:06:09 · update #1
I don't think people understand that before I even did anything with him he told me that he did not like it. I tried it one time and got no emotion out of it so I stopped. I knew before I did it that he did not like it.
2007-12-10 15:56:14 · update #2
I'd have to say your a lucky girl lol, most men are so obsessed with them. Maybe hes just uncomfortable about them. The only way you'll really know is if you ask him. It might just not be quite the turn on for him. good luck <3
2007-12-10 14:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by SiCnGaged 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, I think this will be your best answer too, so pay attention.....regrettbly I have to admit, I've had my share of BJ's...and I have to admit some women who did it, just didn't do anything for me and when they would do it again, I'd do something to get them on to something else, I never had an orgasm from it until my wife but it's just my luck that my wife doesn't like performing oral, so their you go, just my luck.....my answer to you.....and this is real honest...your husband probably doesn't enjoy your methods or has some insecurities about sex, I think sex is really about trust more so then love or passion, in order to fully enjoy sex both partners have to trust one another and feel secure then and only then will all the walls come down, I would speak to him about it but don't attack him, let him know you want to please him and that you want to be pleased, ask him what do you like the best that I do and what can I do more, but don't mention BJ's....give him the good stuff, you know the stuff you already know that gets him crazy then sneak in some BJ practice but don't do it too long, just start little by little throwing it into the mix but your timing has to be when he's really aroused before you know it, I bet it becomes a part of your routine for the both of you....sex like everything else in a relationship grows and gets better through communication, trust and time if your willing to invest the time and patience....best of luck
2007-12-10 14:27:02 · answer #2 · answered by Gordito 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a head issue. May have been molested as a kid, or raised in a family where genitals were "dirty" - and so he can't picture putting his mouth on your "dirty" part. KWIM? hope you can convince him to try it... HOWEVER (shameless plug) i sell sex toys and would strongly recommend that you go by my site and get him a succulent blossom and some edible lube (love the blueberry cheesecake!). You basically jerk him off with the blossom, and the inch or two that is exposed at the end of his "dirty" penis gets sucked on. he won't stop you. LOL!
2007-12-10 14:10:39 · answer #3 · answered by onegirlsnightout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be a reason maybe he cant control himself and he c*ms too quick. I have never met a man or woman that does not like or even enjoy oral sex!!! Talk to him there might be a reason but he might be embarrassed. Good luck let me know how you get on if you want a chat email me!!!! Take care x
2007-12-10 14:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by Lou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you like doing the BJ, and your concern is how to make him want it.
I think that he's had a bad experience about the oral sex issue as a whole because he wont do oral on you either.
Maybe someone did it on him forcefully or he saw his mom doing it on his dad and thought of it as something immoral.
Buy a CD or DVD about oral sex and ask him to watch it with you for educational purposes.
2007-12-10 14:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by dani l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if it's personal preference or maybe your technique. I like it when things are started that way but I like to finish the deal with regular sex.
2007-12-10 14:07:48 · answer #6 · answered by jeff b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judging from your pic, I'd start out by first seeking a Ortodontist, that might help. As for him going down on you, does this ring a bell? " you know, sometimes I don't feel fresh, even after I shower", a lil water.........a lil viniger.......a wire brush, and presto, a grateful husband!
2007-12-10 22:54:30 · answer #7 · answered by rhonda c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he has a phobia about teeth being near/around his penis?
A lot of women don't like oral sex performed on them which is infathomable to me, LoL.
Maybe he associates "bj's" with whores and he doesn't like the thought of you doing it because you're the woman he loves.
2007-12-10 14:05:36 · answer #8 · answered by All-American Princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe its your technique that he doesn't like. Or he might be the type of guy that see it as wrong so he doesn't get into it.
2007-12-10 14:04:25 · answer #9 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy but I would say that it may not be his thing...i don't know...maybe he doesn't get any gratification out of it. It could be just a normal thing....
2007-12-10 14:03:09 · answer #10 · answered by MadameJazzy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋