I don't understand what the importance of my attire has on my hubby but I think it's ridiculous and is a form of him being overly jealous and insecure. What do you all think? For ex. just this morning he asks why am I wearing those pants? I am like...What is wrong with these pants?? The pants have no pockets on the back and are considered professional since I am required to dress like that. He also asked why am I wearing boots with heels. I usually wear my flats but since it's raining outside I needed to cover up my feet! How to get my husband to chill out a bit on this issue?
2007-12-10 05:46:02 · 15 answers · asked by Txgirl23 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just for your interest..I do wear what I want and I tell him because I want to and tell him a reason for it! He doesn't do this often but once in a while but it gets annoying!
2007-12-10 05:52:35 · update #1
My husband was this way when we got married and this is what it boils down to...your husband doesnt want other men lusting after your body. When I met my husband I dressed pretty sexy..conservative but sexy. After we married, he didnt want me to dress that way because he knows how men think. You may not think that what youre wearing is provocative but you're not a man. I pushed back hard at first because it was hard to change my way of thinking but now its just second nature. I dont want some guy looking at me and imaging what my *** looks like without pants on. High heels too....very sexy... My compromise was that I wear 3/4 length jackets most times. I have a very small waist and curvy hips so I do what I can to take the attention off my physique. Your hubby will appreciate you keeping your body for HIM only.
FYI, secular society will say he's being insecure. But then, secular society will say that its ok for him to watch porn and chat with women on the internet.
Keeping your marriage means sacrifice. Adjusting what you wear is a small price to pay...and a worthwhile one, really. You're married beloved....
2007-12-10 05:58:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
For me those are BIG red flags. I could understand if you were in a mini skirt and hooker boots but wearing heeled boots and dress slacks? That is absolutely obsurd! Tell him to not be so jealous, your going to work not to a club!!
2007-12-10 05:52:55 · answer #2 · answered by ~* Amber *~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has some controling issues. My husband would never THINK to talk to me like that. I made it clear from the very start how I feel towards men that try to do that. Don't put up with it... it will only get worse.
2007-12-10 05:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let his problem become your problem. When he asks a question about what you're wearing, answer, plain & simple. Use a matter-of-fact tone. Don't let him influence your decisions about what to wear, because that is the path towards feeling like you're being controlled by your spouse.
2007-12-10 05:51:44 · answer #4 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has an image of you and he wants to see it all the time. He probably fantasizes about you during the day and he can only enjoy it when you wear something he likes.
2007-12-10 05:48:57 · answer #5 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's attractive for you, and is grew to become on by potential of your underclothes. marvel him one evening, style a number of your sexiest stuff. Nest time you pass out with him, placed on the garter belt and stockings. provide him a glimpse of your stocking good. suitable of all, ask him to pass buying with you. look proper. placed on a dress and heels. do no longer tell him, yet take him to a underclothes save. tell him you go with him that can assist you go with for. you will the two have an erotic time!
2016-10-10 23:57:02 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he's your husband not your dad and that he's being a controlling jerk.You are a grown woman who's able to wear whatever she wants to.If he doesn't listen, start telling him what not to wear and see if he likes it.
2007-12-10 05:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by Prodigy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a control issue. He is trying to gain total control of you. He saw it in a movie some place and is trying to be the mighty kong.
2007-12-10 07:17:46 · answer #8 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some men are just like that...I have a fiance that won't let me go out in the yard unless I have on a tshirt and jogging pants...they're crazy
2007-12-10 05:49:31 · answer #9 · answered by gracey 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Start asking him why he wears what he chooses to wear...When he ask you why you are wearing something...just simply say "because I want to".....unless you are wearing something totally inappropriate for your job...he needn't be concerned with what you are wearing...
2007-12-10 05:50:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋