I'm 29 and having problems letting my past gf's past go. Why? I was able to with other girlfriends and didn't give it a second thought. I realize it's childish to mull over something that is finished but still find it hard to do. I want to stop it but don't know how. She has been with 15 guys before meeting me. I've been with 7. That's double. I don't think about my past gf so why should she? Just feel like she "had her fun" and ready to settle down when I know I turned down what could have been 20. I feel let down that I should've acted on my impulses like a lot of other people did. I can't get those years back. What to do? I'm jealous and feel sexually inadequate here but don't want to worry over spilled milk.
2007-12-10 07:30:56 · 11 answers · asked by modusoperandi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it is not about quantity, it is about quality. dont you agree?
2007-12-10 07:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well what has happened in the past can never be changed. And the more you think about how you would of changed things just makes it harder to get over. I could let my husbands past encounter bother me, but they were before he met me and he was doing his own thing. As I had done my thing. If you feel sexually inadequate my advice would be to do things with your current girlfriend to knock her socks off and things that you would have or have wanted to do. Being with more people doesn't necessarily make you better at the act. And you had your fun your were just picky about it, if looking at it that way makes it easier to get over then think of a way were it isn't bothering you so much.
2007-12-10 08:12:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
that is totally complicated to furnish suggestion because of the fact some people basically don't recover from the incontrovertible fact that there female buddy or bf did something undesirable. i do no longer understand what got here approximately interior the previous yet once you grew to become over a clean pass away and make effective that u do no longer make the comparable errors than i think of he might desire to admire u for who u are and not think of approximately got here approximately interior the previous. anybody can commence over yet undergo in recommendations in case your bf do no longer settle for the incontrovertible fact that u are no longer the comparable individual and don't love u for being u now he do no longer deserve u. He might desire to settle for u for who u are and love u no longer pay attention to different peoples thoughts. If he does that u'll never be rid of the previous. So possibly you have have been given the incorrect bf.
2016-10-11 00:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by smyers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt worry about it. Truthfully I have slept with 2 people my ex and my husband and he has slept with 2 people his ex and me. But as far as other sexual things I have done more then he has. He is not bent up about it. I just do not throw it in his face. Personally I think you should feel proud for keeping it in your pants. You should not feel inadequate because of your number of sex partners. You should feel proud that you have respect for yourself and other and did not have a bunch of one night stands. Not saying she did. Plus in most cases its easier for women to get men then men to get women. Do not take it personally. She is with you now... so obviously you must be doing something right. If she keeps bringing it up talk to her about it tell her it bothers you and to drop it. Then go about your business.
2007-12-10 07:38:49 · answer #4 · answered by Showers 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why do you need a answer to this question? you are living in her pass and you are creating stats for future arguments. If you know this is the past and she is with you than, suck it up and enjoy the benefits of her knowledge. And she could be all the 20 other girls you passed up rolled in one.
2007-12-10 07:42:47 · answer #5 · answered by jackie ms 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do not let it worry you past is past if it was meant to be that you were with more girls it would have happened, enjoy your relationship now.
2007-12-10 08:37:03 · answer #6 · answered by khadija k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why put yourself through so much emotional pain in the first place? Ditch her and find a less s!utty girl to date.
2007-12-10 07:38:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you really like her and want to be with her, why are you letting her past, when she didn't even know you, ruin your future with her? so she slept with some people? who cares! it's not a competition, let it go. just because she slept with that many people, it doesn't mean that she enjoyed it with that many people.
2007-12-10 07:37:33 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you were looking for a relationship more than she was.
2007-12-10 07:37:05 · answer #9 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you on some kind of competition with your gf?? cause you sound like a loser
2007-12-10 07:34:37 · answer #10 · answered by suehellen 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you sound LIKE a girl
2007-12-10 07:39:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋