My husband of 6 years has admitted to likeing my best friend who just moved back in town after a long time. He is staying away from her now but still makes comments here and there that drive me crazy. Bascily asking how she is doing in such. If he's so fond of her should I leave him?
2007-12-10 07:11:34 · 13 answers · asked by Mommy of 2) 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He likes her more then a friend he thinks she very interesting and good looking and he admitted it. He does say he loves me and would never do anything but it really hurts my feelings.
2007-12-10 07:21:22 · update #1
I feel like I have to compete for him now and thats not right after being happily married for 6 years.
2007-12-10 08:34:39 · update #2
but he's not doing anything wrong. he's just saying she good looking or something. thats all
2007-12-10 07:17:57 · answer #1 · answered by BT_HMS is my messenger id 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that it really hurts your feelings. Ask him if he is sexually or otherwise interested in her to find out where he's coming from and why he's on about her all the time. In a partnership like marriage, where loyalty, devotion, commitment and not hurting the other person are so important, if he can't be satisfied and happy with just you, and doesn't realize or care that he's hurting your feelings, then you might want to think about bailing. But before that, try letting him know how it hurts you, why, and ask him to stop. If he doesn't or if he ends up going behind your back and messing around with her, at least you'll know for sure where you stand with him and can decide what to do then.
2007-12-10 15:27:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that we all like other people sometime...if he acts on it then you have a problem ask him about it ask him does he really want to pursue the relationship and if he liked her so much in the first place why did he no pursue it then. the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence remind him of that. Just because she looks good does not mean anything when you get to know a person they could be the total opposite of what you expected them to be.
2007-12-10 16:32:21 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds like he is just wondering how your friend is doing and nothing more. Be glad that he only likes your best friend and nothing more. You could be jealous and I guess that I would be the same way. Tell your husband how you feel then maybe his comments will stop. Some men don't care about the things that they say.
2007-12-10 15:18:01 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good heavens, that's a pretty flimsy reason to leave a husband. Assuming your husband isn't sleeping with your friend, you're WAY over-reacting. You need to work on your self-confidence, my dear. You might also calmly tell your husband that it bothers you when he asks about your friend because of his admission that he likes her. But, if his simply asking how your friend is doing "drives you crazy", you really need to work on getting some perspective.
2007-12-10 15:25:12 · answer #5 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eeeek....I'd probably tell him to deal with it or he's putting your marriage in jeopardy and that's not something you want. If you leave it alone he might get more and more drawn to her getting tempted to do something that he shouldn't be doing if you know what I mean.
I'd just sit down, talk to him and let him know how this is making you feel. I don't think it's reason to leave him if you love him. We all make mistakes in our life, he's human and maybe thinks it's ok because he's married and it's your friend. I don't know, but definitely talk to him and he may change. You never know.... =)
2007-12-10 15:17:34 · answer #6 · answered by Liz B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the type of FEELINGS he had for this other woman. IF it's just a crush like she is so pretty & he will not act on those feeling then yes. Men can be attracted to woman without acting on those feelings. I know it rare & us as women don't want to believe it but it's true. men have willpower & love their wifes. On the other hand there's men who just see it as another piece of you know what. Who are also just weak when it comes to women. Talk to him about how you feel. See where he stands on the subject.
2007-12-10 15:22:49 · answer #7 · answered by Monique 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, he's not really doing anything wrong if he is only thinking of someone else, but if it hurts your feelings, you should talk with him and find out to what extent he likes your friend. Communication is key in all relationships. I think we all kind of have crushes outside of our relationship with our significant others, but what really matters is how committed we are in our current relationships.
2007-12-10 15:16:59 · answer #8 · answered by Vanessa's mommy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't stay with him. I'd feel like I was an extra and all he needed was my best friend. I was in the same situation only my boyfriend broke up with me because he fell in love with another girl. Good luck & Happy Holidays. ^^
2007-12-10 15:14:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd leave his insensitive A** alone.
But before I do I'd make him think I was feeling one of his friends. Turnabout is fair play.
2007-12-10 15:31:02 · answer #10 · answered by THIC007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋