I cheated and I don't know what to do..its human nature to be sexually attracted to the oposite sex, but I made a bad decision and acted on it and now I feel so regretful and bad...
2007-12-10 07:42:55 · 39 answers · asked by confused<3 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should confess and ask for forgiveness. If you keep it from your significant other you will never be able to move on. Your guilt may even lead up to more acts of infidelity. Best to deal with the consequences by fessing up than put yourself and your partner through that much pain. Also don't make any excuses for yourself but accept full responsibility, it will make it easier to forgive you.
2007-12-10 07:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by confused 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
DO NOT confess! If there is no way the other person will find out, do not confess. Trust me, it is your mistake, you made it no one made it for you, it is now officially your cross to bear. You did made your bed and you will lie in it, it won't be comfortable. You will feel guilty, and rightly so. Now you need to ask yourself the question, "Why did you cheat?". Be honest with your answer. Is there something missing in your current relationship? Decide what you truly want; Do you want to be with your boyfriend? OR Do you want to be with someone else? Then do it. If your boyfriend is the one for you, then continue to be with him, but learn from this mistake and do not tell him, because there is no reason he should suffer or feel bad for what YOU did. Be with him the best you can and learn to forgive yourself. If he is not the guy for you, walk away and move on. Either way, cheating is a selfish thing, there is no reason to throw it in another person's face. Good luck!
2007-12-10 08:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by Blueskies 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As others have said, if you're in a committed relationship, you may feel attraction, but if you love your partner, you DO NOT act on it. Perhaps you have to do some soul searching, maybe you don't love your partner, otherwise why would you do this to them?
Cheating doesn't "just happen". You gave yourself permission to cheat. You said "I deserve this" for whatever reason you chose. Now you deserve the consequences - fess up and deal with it. Anything else compounds the lies. And do this BEFORE your partner finds out, or it will be much worse, both for you and for the relationship.
If your partner decides that they are willing to work it out with you, YOU need to do EVERYTHING you can to re-establish the trust. If that's too hard, end it now.
2007-12-10 07:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go get tested for std's... most people don't think about that, but it's something you should do.... then dont do anything, keep your mouth shut... although i would want to know if my fiance cheated on me, it's better for them to keep your mouth shut because you're going to hurt them and nothing will be solved.... you cheated, now deal with it... if you tell him/her then you'll only hurt them... and that's just so you can feel better about it all.... stay away from the person you cheated with, otherwise it will happen again
2007-12-10 07:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well relax. Try not to do it again, and just go on about your life. Evaluate why you acted upon it, and try to avoid those circumstances. It doesn't make you a bad person. You just did a bad thing. Learn from your mistake and try not to repeat it. Good luck.
2007-12-10 08:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by No one 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, don't go giving your sweetie the BIG confession, and expect love, and embrace, and forgivenesses, "I love you sooooo much, and I was sooo stupid... yadadadaydadya".... Cuz it won't happen. You have two choices:
1.Shut the hell up, and never do it again. Learn from your mistake.
2. Do the big confession, and then leave so that your sweetie can find a faithful partner. Betrayal is THE deal buster. After you do the big confession, be prepared for your honey to throw up....right on you. And you'd deserve it.....every chunk. Every cheater deserves it.
2007-12-10 07:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Deciet and guilt are going to be your friend for a while. There are always consequences for actions. Now it will be one day at a time. You will also have to prove to yourself and signifigant other that you are worthy, and you are, only you made a really bad judgment choice. Pray and seek forgivness for yourself and the other person, they are just as guilty as you.
2007-12-10 07:49:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your partner has a right to know. You took a chance with your own health and that leave him at risk as well. You broke the bonds of your marriage. He deserves the chance to make his own mind up whether he can continue in the relationship with you or not.
2007-12-10 07:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
sex is just a action u need 2 ask ur self y u cheated
2007-12-10 07:53:13 · answer #9 · answered by Knoxiouz 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Now, just make sure your not caught, don't feel bad. You did it learn from it and move on. Don't listen to these other peeps,,DON'T COME CLEAN!! Do you think men feel bad when they do it? NO...Please don't confess and again learn from it..IF this made you realize that you do care about your husband, take it as a positive experience..
2007-12-10 07:50:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋