Was I too young when I got married?

Question

I love my husband so much. When I tell people that I am married they freak out and say that I am crazy. I was sixteen when I got married. My husband is such a great guy. I do not regret getting married to him but was I too young???

Right now I am 17. Thank you all for your comments!! You are all AWESOME!!

Answer 1

babe, as long as your happy with miguel it doesnt matter that you were kinda young, just promise me youll wait to be done with high school before you two have kids!!!

Answer 2

How old are you now? I just recently got married, I am 21 but my Husband is 18. I think it just depends on the people. Personally I think most people should wait until after highschool since the real world is so much different then school. But if two people are obviously mature and I do not mean they think of themselves mature but if other do to then I dont see why not. I had the same reactions and I am 21 so did my husband getting married right out of highschool. But he is in the military so that changes a lot. I say do not worry about what others think so much. That will only cause confusion. If you are happy and you followed your heart then do not worry about it. It may be crazy but only you two can know if your choice was a good one or not. No one else can tell you how you feel.

Also think of it this way your grandparents and great grand parents probably got married around the same age. Many people years ago married really young and most are still together. It just takes communication, commitment and love.

Good Luck with your marriage and Always follow your heart.

Answer 3

I think that at 16 you were not able to experience everything that is out there. I didn't really grow up and know what I wanted until I was 23. I was in a long-term relationship with a guy I dated back in high school and we dated for about 7 1/2 years and we broke up after dating for so long. It wasn't that we didn't love each other, it was just that we had been together at such a young age- we didn't get to experience stuff that was out there. I'm not saying this is going to happen to you- but just don't let things get routine and fall into the trap of becoming friends instead of partners (husband and wife). Keep things fun! How old are you now?? How long are you two married for so far? Good luck!

Answer 4

If you have a wonderful marriage and feel solid in the r'ship, then don't worry about what other people think. In general, I would say 16 is way too young to get married but you're obviously an example of how it CAN work in some rare circumstances. The reason people freak out over young people getting married is that they know as you grow older, you really change as a person. You experience new things (for example, going to college....dating other people....learning to live on your own) that teach you how to be an independent person and then you can better contribute to a marriage. Marriage is hard enough between 2 people who are mature let alone 2 people who don't know much about the real world yet because they haven't experienced much of it. I know all 16 year olds THINK they know what the real world is like. But the simple fact is that they just haven't had enough TIME to really experience it and learn from those experiences. A person usually doesn't even start dating until maybe 14. So, when you tell me you got married at 16, I think...wow, so she only had 2 years of getting to know the dating world, herself, or love. That's not long honey. But obviously you've made it work and I sincerely hope the 2 of you last forever.

Answer 5

You know what, don't listen to any of these people on here who tell you that you were too young. They are only going to make you feel bad and question your decision. You said that you love your husband and don't regret your decision, so who cares what other people think. As long as you are happy, that is all that matters. Some people may feel that they would not have been happy if they got married at 16, but that is why they didn't get married at 16. You had your reasons for getting married so young and I'm sure that if you didn't want to, you wouldn't have. Forget what other people tell you, you are happy and that is all that matters. Some people go through their whole lives not being able to find someone to share their lives with and constantly searching for that special someone. You already found that special someone to share your life with and you did it at a young age. Good for you! Don't ever look back and question yourself b/c of something someone else said. Congrats and best wishes!

Answer 6

You're still a kid when you're 20. You don't even know what you want in your life yet. I'm going to be 19 soon (oh my god, I'm going to be 19 soon :O) and from what I've seen and done I hold this to be 100% true. The reason so many young marriages end in divorce is because people end up figuring out what love really is and are so disappointed that their fantasy is over. Why not just date a guy and wait until you're 25? Marriage requires a lot of work, and you will contemplate divorcing the person countless times in the course of your relationship. I can almost guarantee your friends are going to be divorced before they're 40.

Answer 7

Hmmm. perhaps there are a lot of bitter divorcees on here? You found the love of your life and you are still happy - what can be better than that? Screwing around with a bunch of meaningless people wasting your time, trying desperately to find that love of your life and feeling so lonely in the process? No, you didn't marry too young, if I had met the love of my life at that age I would have done the same. You get to grow together and experience all the cool stuff together! It only makes a couple stronger. Congrats to you!

Answer 8

If you were mature enough to make that decision at sixteen I don't think you were too young. How long have you been married? If it's been more than five years and you still feel the way you do, I don't think you were too young. If it's been less than a year there's no way to tell yet. Don't worry just live your life the best you can you can't erase what's already happened.

Answer 9

Absolutely not. Some people in some countries marry at a really young age. Of course in the long run it's how you look at it. I mean if you feel that you have no regrets, then you made the right decision. And even if I said anything it wouldn't matter, because what's done is done.

Answer 10

I certainly wouldn't have been ready to marry when I was 16, but that's not to say that you weren't.
Often people will gauge the lives of others according to their own life experiences. These people are probably thinking back to when they were 16 and their own mindset at the time and applying that to your situation. Many people think of 16 as a time to have fun, rather than a time to be mature and settle down. That is THEIR truth. As long as you are happy, then you have done the right thing.

Answer 11

In my personal opinion, 16 is way too young to get married! However, if you're happy in your marriage, it doesn't matter what other people think. If you feel you did the right thing, then most likely, you did. No one can tell you how old you have to be to fall in love and marry the man you love.