ok i don;t know what to do, me and my husband are working on some problems. so i need my space and i am just taking one thing at a time and just because i told him i need some time and he just comes home at 5 pm and goes to bed now its almost 11 and he didn't eat anything. so the only way he will come out is if i say i love u 23 times and u know give myself to him i just can't do that. because when i ask him to explain why he did this or that and come talk to me when he is ready to explain it he doesn't and just acts this way and i start feeling bad what shuld i do. i am tired of his babyish ways.he didn't eat anything or drink anything but water. help he thinks he can get away with anything
2007-12-10 17:35:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wait him out. He won't go hungry. He is trying to emotionally blackmail you to get what he wants from you. He can sulk if he wants to but in the short term I think you should take this space and just relax and chill out in front of a movie or something.
Telling you that you have to say i love u 23 times? And telling you he won't come out unless you do that and agree to give yourself to him? He is acting like a spoiled child. Don't spoil him any more. He wants you to bow to him and if you do I think he will continue to play these little mind games with you.
Be strong. Take control and let him cuddle up to his teddy bear in bed and do something for yourself. Give yourself a facial or paint your nails. He will come out when he is ready and you will feel good knowing that you have not given in to his demands.
You go girl!
2007-12-10 17:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by Onyx ♠ 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He can choose to activly work on your marriage or not. You should not have to beg him. If you cook dinner, you can let him know it is there. He is a grown man and he can fix himself something to eat or drink or not. He knows how and he isn't an invalid, right? Don't let him play you. Check out the website Marriagebuilders.com, it has some really helpful articles on rebuilding marriages.
Good luck!
2007-12-11 01:57:18 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You hurt him and this is the only way he knows to get to you. Sounds like he has done this before and you gave in to it. Let it go see how long he will do this,he will stop when he sees you are not going to do anything about it. He will come and talk to you when he is ready but watch out because he could go out and find someone to take your place.
2007-12-11 01:49:36 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I can guarantee that the guy is not gonna starve himself, he is trying different tactics to break down your spirit, Just let him think this over and he will come out and eat when he gets hungry enough, and tell him your not going to play his childish games, let him know that until he is adult enough to talk things out with you, he can eat what ever he makes for himself, and just ignore him until he has grown up some, I don't think it will take more then a few days
2007-12-11 01:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by tiny 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well keep buggering him until he comes out. It's what people do to me. When I have a problem I just keep inside and be quiet for a couple of hours. May I suggest a trial session of Marriage Counseling? May not be the best solution...But it could help.
2007-12-11 01:42:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You said you needed space and time. He's giving it to yoiu and you want him to come out and do what? So what, he's not eating- its on him to take care of such needs. Do you want space or do you want to deal with things as a team.
Update-- SHE ASKED FOR SPACE- WHAT IS HE DOING WRONG. Make uop your mind laready. Maybe he needs space too, and maybe he's not the one unwilling to work on things.
2007-12-11 01:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's being SELFISH! and INCONSIDERATE!!.... He ate before he got home and he wants you to think he had nothing to eat.. That way you will run to his side... MY HUSBAND does the same thing to me.. But you know what.. I stopped cooking, Stopping getting in bed with him, and stopped talking to him.
I felt like I was almost begging him to communicate with me. TRUST me had came around after a few days! TWO CAN PLAY THAT GAME! PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN!
2007-12-11 01:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by NikkiNTexas 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
sounds like issue's to me
a person gets hungry enough or thirsty they'll do something about it he probaby geting it at work so he could care less in the evening woth you so i'd fell same way oh well when he gets hungry enough or thirsty he'll know what to do -SET BACK
2007-12-11 01:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you asked him for space and time for yourself, this is probably his way of protesting.
Make up your mind which you want, him to eat, drink, and be with you, or your time alone.
2007-12-11 01:51:58 · answer #9 · answered by back from the dead 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
maybe he ate out before coming home. he is not a baby, u don't need to spoon feed him. pretend u didn't notice anything. just do what u usulaly do
2007-12-11 01:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by yeahright 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋