why do men / women cheat on their spouses, girlfriends or boyfriends i don't get it?

Answer 1

Anyone who does that to the person they say they love is a very selfish person and doesn't care about you or anyone else's happiness but their own. If we would stop thinking only of ourselves we would be so much happier. Why can't people understand that.

Answer 2

In all of my 41 years of living, 2 divorces and a couple of serious relationships, I have never gotten an answer as yet. I have ask them the same question. I always get the same stupid answers... The grass looked greener, not enough this or that at home and the big one... No communication. They are the ones cheating and then... they will say not enough communication. I say... How about you communicating about the fact you are slipping around behind my back? I asked, ''if you (men) are not getting what you want at home, why don't you say what you want? Teach them what you want? Instead, men seem to think they are the only one lacking. Does it ever occur to them that the woman may not be totally happy with them either? That most of the time, women love unconditionally and except them for who and what they are and hold on so long, just to see a change come? I don't get the part when they get out there and have destroyed your trust, love and heart, they all of a sudden see that it was a big mistake. They want you to forgive and forget and move on as if they haven't done a thing. As far as I can see... this has happen since the beginning of time. Men have always allowed the lust of a woman, cause them to lose all of their senses.

Answer 3

A cheater is a hundred% responsible for his or her habit, no remember how crappy the dating that they are dishonest on...that doesn't advise their companion is a gem and has finished not something incorrect, in spite of the fact that it does not excuse the certainty the cheater desperate to step out and betray the dating extremely than fix it or end it... A cheater is often unfastened to leave an unhappy dating, and because dishonest regularly does bring about divorce/destroy-ups, that is quite stupid to cheat and set off the dating ending extremely of in basic terms ending the dating and not being a cheater... The cheater's dating companion ought to be negligent of their place as a companion...yet that's not an excuse for the different guy or woman to cheat...

Answer 4

there are many factors. the cheaters friends/enviroment. the cheaters ability to put others first. respect for themselves, their partner, and anyone else, for that matter. the ability to keep their life seperated into compartments...the cheater behaves one way with the partner, but becomes a total stranger while with friends, at work, etc.

cheaters, imho, are weak people. they may say one thing, but are too weak to stand next to what they say. they are unable to be good, honest, caring people. they tend to take advantage of, and backstab anyone they can.

cheaters tend to be very unstable, and they can talk themselves into believing their own lies. they have no problelm telling lies to others, to gain support for their "cause".

cheaters don't just cheat, tho. they ruin lives. their own, as they will never be upstanding and honest again. the first time is the hardest. times after just get easier. that old saying "once a cheater, always a cheater", rings true for many, because it does get easier, each time. cheaters will also ruin the life of their partner, and children (if they have them).

it doesn't pay to cheat. it's hard to understand why they cheat...there are so many reasons, truly.

Answer 5

I don't too. But it's the reality. Such things do happen. And it really hurts when it does! Put some conscience into your thoughts whenever you/he/she wants to do something like that. As long as you can't get it past your conscience to cheat on your spouse or gal/boy friend, pls don't do it! I'm sure everyone has feelings, think about the hurt you're going to cause

Answer 6

The majority of people who cheat, probably don't set out to be unfaithful. They are bored, unhappy, or they feel stuck in a routine, when someone they meet just does something stupid, like smile a certain way, shows an interest, or does something thoughtful, and they are blindsided....things move along and before they know it they have fallen for someone- hook, line and sinker.
There may be those who set out to find someone new, but I bet most of the time it is unintentional.

Answer 7

some people cheat because they aren’t getting their needs met inside their relationships. They are under the deluded notion that going outside their relationships is a legitimate answer. It isn’t.

Some people have low self-esteem, and they get a sense of self-worth through finding people who care about them.

A very common theme is that people cheat because their partners no longer make them feel special. These people go outside their relationships thinking that another person might fill this gap.

Whatever the underlying reasons, cheaters cheat because they have the mistaken notion that going outside their relationships will solve their problems or fulfill some aspects of their characters.

Answer 8

Afraid of actually telling that person hey aren't interested anymore (which cheating probably hurts them even worse)

Or maybe out of the thrill of sneaking around or trying something new

Answer 9

They are not acting on their conscience or they would get out of their present relationship first. The grass always looks greener on the other side, so sometimes trying before it has to be final is what they want. SAD but TRUE!!

Answer 10

some people have a problem with committment, maybe they arent getting what they want or enough of something from their partner, so they go somewhere else, sometimes they could be angry and want to hurt the other persons feelings, it could be in the heat of the moment and something ignites them and they cant control it, they have to have control...