father is paying child support, and i dont want anymore from him, because ever since he has gotten his green card of which he abandon me and my daughter once he received it he feels now he has right and has been harassing me ever since. i have obey the judgement orders but he has not at all. i want out so he can leave me and the child alone. she is so much happier since he has been gone and so have i and he just wont stop with the name calling. its the holiday and a new year coming and i want this to stop . i dont want to fight in the courts anymore. i am emotionally tired.
2007-12-10 17:15:26 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Child support money is for your child, not for you. It's not your business to "opt out." You should not limit your child's financial well being because you don't want to deal with the dad.
Friend of the court is a person appointed to advocate for the child's best interest.
You really need to talk to a lawyer before making a decision to limit your child's financial well being. There are lawyers available for free; call the law school closest to you, and ask the court for resources.
2007-12-10 17:20:05 · answer #1 · answered by snoopy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all child support payments are not payments for visitation. Visitation and child support are two different things. Even if he doesn't pay you anything he is STILL entitled to visitation as long as it is court ordered. You can't decide that if he isn't paying support he can't see his child.
2ndly, the child support isn't for YOU, it is for the child, to pay at least 1/3 the expenses of keeping a roof over that child's head, feeding the child, supplying heat and air conditioning as well as water, transportation etc. If you feel you don't need it now put it into an account the child can use when she get's older, maybe for college. If he is harassing you then you need to get a restraining order against him to leave YOU alone. You can take him to court to see if he will sign away all parental rights but that doesn't mean he will or that he has to agree to it.
2007-12-11 03:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you don't want child support, doesn't mean he can't see the child. He still gets visitation rights. Visitation is not linked to child support. They are two separate issues. The only way to stop him from seeing the child is for him to voluntarily give up his rights and sign a paper for the court.
2007-12-11 01:18:08 · answer #3 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately you are obligated by law to let him see his daughter until the courts say he can't see her. you are going to have to get a court order that states he is unfit. it will be a long and hard battle. my sister's ex beat her and he still got joint custody of their kids. meaning he can come get them when he wants. fortunately for my sister he doesn't bother. he basically went through all of that to put her through it to hurt her. she lives two hours away from her ex and the court said if he wants to see them he has to be the one to go get them. your best bet is to always have witnesses and chracter witnesses you can bring into court. if the harrassment is in a threatening nature then you can get a protective order. which doesn't mean he won't win visitation. by not letting him see his child could actually result in you losing your child. which defeats the purpose because the person they will take the child to would be the father of the child. it's easier to get supervised visitation than it is to get no visitation. i would go for that first. supervised would mean someone has to be there from the courts during the visits and looking over his shoulder the whole time. best of luck
2007-12-11 01:28:43 · answer #4 · answered by butter_cream1981 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋