He's left me so many times (about 8 times in 2 years). Every time he left (but one) was during one of my monthly PMS crying non-stop modes. When I tell him that I am just hormonal and I'm sorry for any disrespect, he says I am making lame excuses for being a b**ch and that I can't treat people this way. I sought medical treatment, but my doc says its normal to have this mood shift every month as long as at same time each month. Tell that to my husband. Why is PMS still a locker rooom joke to men? It's wrecked my life and is no joke at all. Fact is I can't control my emotions for 2 days of the month, so why am I punished? My kids already miss their Dad and I feel sick with grief and regret though I know I had no control at the time. I wish I had luxury of hiding out for these 2 days each month, but I don't.
2007-12-10 18:07:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your husband is so stupid maybe you're better off without him!
2007-12-10 18:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
While I am so very sorry all this has happened to you and that your pms is that bad, I can attest to how it feels to be the embattled husband suffering abuses. It does suck, frankly, and I too left my then wife when she had gone over the line (hers, however, turned out to be mental illness, not just pms).
What women don't see is the golden rule. We guys (at least the decent ones) do not take it out on anyone when we are really not feeling well. If we did 1/4 to our partner what you do to us, we would never be forgiven. Ever. So, why is it ok for women to treat us horrifically (it's a question of extent, really---I will gladly do literally everything for those days, and will tend to her needs totally, as she is not feeling well, just don't abuse me, ok?)?
2007-12-10 18:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by lmspencr 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I Would get a second opinion if I were you. There are treatments for that type of thing. Take your husband in to the Dr with you so he understands that you are not making excuses. I actually got a blood test done years ago and my Dr found that I was deficient in Vitamin B-6, for witch she suggested I take 1200 mg's of the B-6 daily, it was a great help.
2007-12-10 18:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They actually have pills for this type of "condition". You should speak to your doctor and I'm actually surprised he didn't even try to help you with it. Did you tell him it's literally affecting your marriage? They have pills for this type of thing. I saw a commercial several months back and it was pretty much stating that PMS isn't some type of joke. Here's some more information. http://www.clevelandclinicmeded.com/medicalpubs/diseasemanagement/women/pmdd/pmdd.htm
I know exactly how you feel. I get a little out of control myself but I guess so far I can control it because I monitor when it's coming on, so when I start flipping out I know EXACTLY what it is,,,lol
2007-12-10 18:15:19 · answer #4 · answered by grneyedgrly 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I never had it that bad.
I recommend researching on medical websites like Mayo Clinic and Stanford Medical Center to see if there are any new treatments out there.
Also, find out who is the top gynocologist in your area for a second opinion?
Hope you find a solution.
Joy to you!
2007-12-10 18:15:19 · answer #5 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hon to read. Yes it's normal. Men goes thro things as well. as getting older you will as the years go bye. The issue is not with you. If he's using as thee locker room thing with others it will come back to haunt. Shame on him.
Feeling sick is normal as well
2007-12-10 22:30:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men cant handle anything...they say in sickness and in health, but once PMS hits they run like crazy ..
Stay strong
2007-12-10 18:17:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Reasons for and against taking husbands last name?
2017-03-31 10:49:37 · answer #8 · answered by Jana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For better or for worse. In sickness and in health.
You can work on controlling your emotions. And he can work on dealing with you when you are in these moods.
2007-12-10 18:15:19 · answer #9 · answered by cas 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. He needs to understand. and you need also to understand and control .yourself since you are aware of it..fix him a nice place for retreat or yourself..out in the garage, or den, in the back yard, or tree house.
2007-12-10 18:21:28 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't he leave. You're making his life hell. Just because you have an excuse, doesn't change his grief.
2007-12-10 19:55:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋