Couple of years ago I had an accident that scarred my face. When my wife saw me after the accident, she divorced me. 2 years went by without any contact from her. Then I met a wonderful woman who noticed my eyes first and we started dating. Last night my woman and I were at my place watching movies when someone knocked on my door and it was my ex. I was surprised to see her, it took me by surprise that she was there. She barged in and when she saw my woman sitting on the couch she started calling her names and was screaming and hollering. I told the ex to get out and attempted to escort her out the door. Things happened so fast after that, the ex kept hollering and my woman seemed to disappear. Then I heard someone say my name and I really thought it was the ex, I was so damn upset and angry. I didn't turn around, I thought I was speaking to the ex and I told her what the hell is she still doing here, can't she see I'm with someone I care about? I heard the door close
2007-12-10 23:07:55 · 9 answers · asked by Jeff 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
and saw my ex standing there smirking and realized that it was my woman who aid my name. I was going to call the cops to get the ex out and she left. I feel terrible for what happened! I need to talk to my woman and explain things. How do I do that??? What do I say to her???? She just upped and left without word.
2007-12-10 23:10:05 · update #1
just explain what happened, and how you feel for her, tell her that you got a restraining order against your ex wife. and just give her time. she will come around if she loves you. maybe she is just not the type to be around confrontation. maybe she thought the two of you should handle this without her there. that is a terrible thing that happened. i would never leave my husband because he was in an accident and it scarred his face or any other physical problem, thats a shallow person to do such a thing, and i would have a restraining order put against her and never talk to her again. show the new person in your life what she means to you. she obviously cares alot about you to overlook the scarring.
2007-12-10 23:28:43 · answer #1 · answered by chicksmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mistakes happen, in life. Sure it was a very uncomfortable and tense time for you and your new woman. Just tell your new woman the truth of what happened; she will understand. I'd let your ex know in no uncertain terms that you want her completley out of your life; she really had no good reason for just popping up without notice. You have your own life separate from her now; go on and live it and enjoy!
2007-12-11 00:02:29 · answer #2 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crying and begging come to mind...
Ouch! this is a hard one. First things first, when someone knocks on your door ask "Who is it?" if it your ex, don't open the door.
You need to do some major a** kissing here. She may or may not understand what happened, but whatever she thinks you do need to beg for her forgiveness. She may not be able to overcome that outburst and I must say many people would understand. However, if she does care for you she will forgive, but you are going to have to beg. I personally would get down on my knees and if you can muster tears, use them. She needs to see your emotions layed out before her before she will accept your apology.
Yoda out
2007-12-10 23:33:28 · answer #3 · answered by Yoda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O, come on!!! It was an accident!!! Apologize and that should be it.
The bigger problem is with your ex. You need to call her and see what the heck is going on. You might get a restraining order on her. Also, you need to DEFEND your girlfriend!!!
Doesn't sound like you did. Maybe that's why your gf left.
2007-12-11 02:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by serene e 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her and explain to her what happen. She should understand. It sounds like you and lady friend really like each other. Work on getting her back. Tell your ex never to come by your house again. If you have to get the law involved.
2007-12-11 00:20:56 · answer #5 · answered by pecantantwin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can get her to listen to you, you need to tell her that it was all a mistake and what happened and don't forget the apology. I'm sure she'd have to understand it, especially if she knows the history. And just make sure your ex stays away.
2007-12-10 23:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to your new lady... and tell her this woman won't ever be on your property ever again...
and make sure you tell your ex to stay away... and tell her you will get a restraining order if she don't...
if you really care about this new woman you will keep fighting for her to get her back...
good luck...
2007-12-10 23:15:37 · answer #7 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that she misunderstood you, that u told to ur ex to leave, not to her. give her flowers and a ring maybe....she wil forgive u ...in fact u did nothing wrong but the situation it was too much for her to handle.
2007-12-10 23:16:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her, apologize and explain what happened.
2007-12-11 00:49:10 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋