I have this insatable desire to watch porn whenever my husband is away. I order it on the tele but I'm afraid he's going to find out one day. How could I break it to him before he finds out the hard way?
2007-12-10 17:34:23 · 43 answers · asked by Elizabeth W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ps- thank you for all the honest answers!
2007-12-10 17:44:40 · update #1
Wow, lucky guy, your a dream come true for any man!
2007-12-10 17:38:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-07-19 01:24:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is really "insatiable," then you might have an "addiction" to porn, but if it's just an occasional thing (and you aren't going broke on pay-per-view), I don't think it's worrisome. However, it is worrisome that you keep it from your husband, and you should be honest with him. Is he against sexually explicit materials? If not, suggest that you watch them together. If he thinks it's an abomination, then you will have to try to work out a compromise.
If you're spending large amounts of money on porn, then you have a third issue, and that also definitely involves your husband, too. If he suddenly finds out that you're spending a fortune on pay-per-view, then he's going to be upset about three things at once instead of just one or two. The sooner you talk this through (on a weekend or when you're both off work and more relaxed), the better.
2007-12-10 17:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by ScienceMom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So what exaclty are you getting out of these low production, fake sex scenes? If you say your addicted, its likely your in th worst pahse of it. He may be like some of the respondents and and think he might be lucky that you not only don't have a problem with pornography, but actaully watch it. Be aware of why you use it. Real addicts use porn as a medication for depression, and once they come out of the hazem they realize what theyve done and become more depressed. I neither of you have an issue with it, there's no problem. Just realize what it is, and be aware of what it is and can do to your life.
2007-12-10 17:51:52 · answer #4 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first you may want to ask him, so how do you feel about porn? Have you ever watched it? Then he'll tell you his answer and probably wonder why you're asking him, then you can say well yes ive watched it before..and tell him the true reasons why you're so interested in porn. Just be honest! Once you tell him, everything would be out and the open, and you never know he may not take it bad.
P.s He'll get over it...
2007-12-10 17:41:13 · answer #5 · answered by DEM 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him, if that's to hard then ask him if he wants to watch some porn with you. Me and my wife watch porn together all the time. It's a great way to inspire the sexual animals within.
The way my wife broke it to me, she just left the DVD in the player, but she already knew I watched porn. When I asked her about it she just told me she wanted to watch that one with me that night. Of course that was a huge turn on and the porn had to wait till we got done in the bedroom.
2007-12-11 00:34:42 · answer #6 · answered by JONES 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ill admit im no pshycologist but id say you two need to have a good sit down talk. Unless he's admantly opposed to porn i doubt he will be angry about it though he might feel left out. The question you need to ask yourself though is "Am I watching porn to make up for something that is missing in my sex life?" If the answer is yes.. then talk to your husband and watch it with him, it might just give you the spice your craving and some new ideas. Good Luck!!
2007-12-10 17:42:01 · answer #7 · answered by Ronald E 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Uhmm well, this is odd because normally it's the male who's addicted to asians on pencils. Do it the way most people would do, Talk to him on a good day where he's happy and in a good mood. Just tell him that you have a bad habit and you would like for him to help you quit. If you talk to him without laughing and in a serious way, then he'll understand a lot better.
2007-12-10 17:39:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not think you should tell him. It could hurt him and also hurt his image of your loyalty and purity.
Even though men like porn, it doesn't mean they want their wife to have any loose morals.
However, you should stop it - ready Every Man's Battle by Steve Arterburn and visit Dr. James Dobson's website for info on porn addiction.
Porn is harmful to marriage and is often a prelude to cheating.
What we see goes into the brain and can be thought about and replayed at will - then you can think about what you've seen - then act out what you've seen. So: porn, lust, cheating
Joy to you!
2007-12-10 17:59:51 · answer #9 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's staying in a hotel when he's away, he is probably watching just as much porn there as you are while he is gone. Choose a good one, then ask him to watch it with you. I'm sure he'll get into the mood to have some hot sex with you before the movie is over.
Have fun!
2007-12-10 17:44:26 · answer #10 · answered by back from the dead 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It kills me how every one is supportive of a woman who is feverishly stuck on watching porn, but if it's a man right away - "you're disgusting" - "get a life" - "it sucks to be you, all alone you & only you" - "that's the problem nowadays when men look at women as just sex objects"....... Is it my fault that everytime I see a blonde with blue eyes and red finger nails all I see is her geting rammed doggy style or slobbering c**k in her dirty mouth.
2007-12-11 02:10:06 · answer #11 · answered by NYMPH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋