Marriage & Divorce - 7 December 2007

Let me start by saying I love my husband very much and I would never want to hurt him. But I guess I did when he walked in on me watching porn. I've tried to get him to watch it with me before nothing crazy, but he thinks it's degrading to women?
I think everyone pleaures themselves sometimes and I see nothing wrong having a helping aid. Now he's acting distant from me, what would you do?

2007-12-07 06:58:21 · 64 answers · asked by Anonymous

So many posters on YA talk about the horrors of relationships and unfortunately scare those that are dating, engaged, or newly married into thinking that their relationship is headed for the “Couples Graveyard”. Tell how long you’ve been married, and give a wonderful memory (if you can).

My greatest memory: Landing at the airport on the return trip from our Honeymoon knowing that a new life was about to begin – been happy ever since.

2007-12-07 06:49:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

And everything else house ,boat van,business,when i bought the house in my name and started the daycare,and bought everything else. dont you think half is half and fair is fair..dont forget i built everything now i have nothing..no wise cracks please..

2007-12-07 06:41:44 · 11 answers · asked by WHOSURDADDY 1

I just got done reading someone else's question about how they felt marriage was pointless and wasn't a commitment at all. That really mad me sad to read - doesn't anyone see how great marriage is anymore? Doesn't anyone see the benefits of being in a stable marriage? Am I the only one who loves being married? lol

2007-12-07 05:46:29 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am not talking about guys going onto dating sites or trying to actually hook up with someone, I am talking about guys that have a few magazines, a couple videos and even porn sites on their computer.

I see it on here all the time. It's just porn.

2007-12-07 05:40:48 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-07 05:38:30 · 20 answers · asked by Molly214 2

They love to control the relationship and they really do not love you....They hate and control you, the money, the home...

2007-12-07 05:36:14 · 8 answers · asked by broker472000 4

he put it on our unborn babies life that he wouldnt look at porn. and i had a miscarrige... he went behind my back and looked at porn after he put it on our babies life. I'm so hurt from it! i dont no if im wrong to be mad. how should i feel?? Am i wrong to be mad at him??? he said he i dont stay with him he will kill himself.. what should i do?

2007-12-07 05:32:08 · 27 answers · asked by Toni 1

My Ex-Fiance broke up with me in June after dating for over 4 years. She stated that she needed to find herself and is vey depressed at the present, and that a relationship is too much to handle at the moment. We tried to stay friends during the summer but she got EXTREMELY UNCOMFORTABLE. We haven't spoken since September, I miss her more than anything everyday, and love her so much. Recently she has started to email me, but instead of writing her name, she writes her entire name, first and last name. Why is she being so official and cold to me?

2007-12-07 05:15:11 · 16 answers · asked by Jennaba9048 1

i was lookin at a report about domestic abuse..im trying to understand what or how could another male human being,who took marraige vows to be a husband to look after his partner in life...hurt her at her most vunerable when she carrying his unborn child that they made together???..i dont understand what could make him hit her..cant use alcohol as an excuse!!!..

2007-12-07 05:13:12 · 27 answers · asked by hippy.irishchick 1

I got pregnant a few months ago (currently 21 weeks).. my ex has agreed from the beginning to take full financial responsibility for this child- but wasn't "emotionally" ready for a kid and didnt want him in his life-- he BEGGED me to get an abortion. We have had NO problems agreeing with him paying child support for my son, but now his lawyer is telling him that if he's paying 20% he might as well get to see the kid-- my ex is NOT a good man- after we broke up i found out he was messing around with young girls (14 years old.. and he's 27) he lied to me about SO much and is NOT the person i thought he was.. i dont want him around my son as this kind of influence!!!-- he agreed to sign over his custody/visitation rights because he wanted NOTHING to do w/ my son- now all of a sudden he's telling me that since i made a decision he didnt like (not getting the abortion) he was going to make one i didnt like (going after some form of custody)

2007-12-07 05:11:32 · 9 answers · asked by missyd1605 2

A woman who dresses conservatively or a woman who dresses a little bit sexy?

For example.. A pretty woman wearing a turtleneck, slacks and heels, or a pretty woman wearing a close fitting, but not low cut, t-shirt, knee length jean skirt, tights and classy leather knee high boots?

For the record: they are identical twins.

2007-12-07 04:46:39 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

Am I wrong for getting upset that the house is never clean? She is wonderful with the kids, dinner is almost always ready when I get home but the house is almost always dirty. I love her but this is getting to me. If I try to talk to her about it, it always ends up in a fight. Am I wrong and what should I do?

2007-12-07 04:40:17 · 53 answers · asked by Lucius Vorenus 3

I loved someone and told her that I want to marry her and she told me that she wont be able to think me more than a good friend, I am on job and she just started and want to make her career, she is very good, has a lot of friends and wants me as a friend too, but I just cant think myself as a friend, I dont know what to do, when I work I am much happier as I can keep her out of my mind but it hurts me whenever I am alone, she still mails me and asks how I am time to time as she does to all of her friend but she does not know how much it is hurting me, but I just cant say that too... I think I am going to burst....

2007-12-07 04:38:19 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Supposed you'd been married 7 years. What if your partner came to you and said that they are super happy and want a continuous future with you, BUT, they just met someone that they have a super bond with and just want one night of passion. Up till this point, you trust your partner and are very happy.... Would you allow this one night?

2007-12-07 04:33:11 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

My partner & i had to marry.We were decades family friends.His parents threw him out of house so went abroad.We met friends 4yrs in love.We were to marry after meeting.I found out fight argue on date to meet with him he asked gang to hurt me my folks.My cousin was in on it.I mean what would happen if i marry this man if he didnt feel like being married might have me killed?Im shocked family friend best friend in love would this to me ive never done a thing to him.I end it call everything off.Hes stalks me outside home online phone now blackmails Ive heard he dumped ex to go abroad by gang.I know why his parents & ex left.This is real.What why would person do this if they love someone.

2007-12-07 04:09:40 · 11 answers · asked by makelovetolove 1

as much as financially dependent women do? How much do you think finances play a part?

2007-12-07 04:03:09 · 42 answers · asked by Sondra 6

He's 50, I'm 29. He's been living in his living room for the last three years, his partner (girlfriend, whatever) sleeps in the bedroom. He has an 11 year old son. We've been seeing each other for three months. He was honest with his partner about it from the start. We've even met and were cool with each other. She's sad about it, because now she knows he wants to move out. He's sad about it too, however, because, no matter how much he loves me and wants to be with me, he's afraid he can't afford to rent an apartment big enough for his son to have regular overnight visits, pay half the rent on their apartment, and pay to support his son. AND I don't want to live with him right away because I want him to have some space before jumping into a new household or whatever. However, I DO want him to move out because I want more time with him. Right now we have an understanding that we don't spend the night together because it would just cause too much mess at his place. I'm getting frustrated

2007-12-07 04:01:03 · 11 answers · asked by Sarah S 2

I divorced him in 2001, after he had a child with his 17 yr old "toy". He was 29. After 2 years of bitter hatred, I TRIED to forgive him. We have 2 kids (boys12 & 9). We don't live together and I have the kids. I recently bought a house, and have been coaching our youngest sons basketball team, and taking both our boys to their other practices & games as well as church 2 days a week. The only time I have to spend with him is on Sat. night when the boys are with their grandparents. He never sees them because the court siad he had to have supervised visits because he had sex with a minor (she was emancipated when she got out of Juvie for robbery, so he didn't get charged) and had her living in his home they wouldn't allow visits there, and then he supposedly put his hands around her neck (he never laid 1 solitary finger on me in 17 yrs and this little beeeaaacchh is a drama queen teenager, so I really think he wasn't guilty) and he went to prison for 2 yrs.

2007-12-07 03:53:16 · 13 answers · asked by WTFever 3

cell phone? I have a prepaid one, but I find it to be a waste of money. I tried to get one from t~mobile but they wanted a $500.00 deposit.
My credit isnt great. Anyone got any suggestions?

2007-12-07 03:39:46 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Would you rather have a spotless house, dinner on the table, clean kids, and an exhausted wife when you get home from work

OR

a messy home, take out, dirty - happy children and a wife who is happy and ready for sex?

2007-12-07 03:20:30 · 21 answers · asked by Luckiest_Wife_EVER 3

i work 2 jobs I leave the house at 1:30 a.m. for a part time job, get back home at 6:00 a.m. shower and leave for my main job and get home at 6:00 p.m. i try to spend some time with my 2 and 8 month old sons and be in bed by 8:00 p.m. If i fall asleep IMMEDIATLY i get 5 hours of sleep a night. With out going further what should I expect to be done at home, ie laundry, dishes, general cleaning, meals, sex.., and the part time job is 7 days a week. so what about weekends when "SHE NEEDS A BREAK"

2007-12-07 03:19:51 · 12 answers · asked by steven_ulik@sbcglobal.net 1

2007-12-07 03:06:49 · 16 answers · asked by JB 1

resperidal. my husband and i have a very difficult relationship, mostly due to my mood swings and confusin emotions, anger, etc. before i was hospitalized due to self-harm, we were filing for divorce because i didn't feel that i loved him and he didn't understand me at all. my friends (girls & guys) seem to be able to understand me, validate me and listen without judgement. anyways, since i have been out of the hospital (2 months), i have tried very hard to straighten myself out and that including repairing our relationship with 150% effort. after a while, his parents offered us ther basement, which means us moving in with them andevetually guilding a new placeon their land out in the country (we live in he city). when i agreed to it, i started feeling even more apprehensive about the relationship. though i was giving my all, i was still scared i was making a mistake (ambivalence is a bad habit i work hard against everyday, so i TRY combat thoughts daily w/ affirmations)

2007-12-07 03:03:48 · 14 answers · asked by lookin4ansrs 1

A little history...my husband has always thought he does no wrong. He was getting better until we recently had a baby girl and now she is 10 weeks old and since she was born I can't do a damn thing right. I pick her up too often...I spend too much on clothes...I bring her to our bed too often...I spoil her too much...I'm creating a monster...I don't put her carseat in right...and on and on and on. When I tell him that he's making me feel badly about myself as a mother, he tells me that it's not his fault that all those things are true and that my bad feelings are all in my head. My husband has a very quick tounge and can think of a comeback in a snap, I on the other hand, get backed into a corner and can't get out. He always wins because he tells me that "it's all in my head". I hear this every fight we have and I'm at the point of being ready to leave him. any advice?

2007-12-07 03:03:18 · 26 answers · asked by larann78 2

Are there any pointers to look for when splitting the stock options? Any pitfalls or loopholes I should avoid? What's the best way to divide the stock option?

2007-12-07 02:51:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

why should a man have to put the seat down on the toilet when he is finished instead of a women lifting it up when she is done.

2007-12-07 02:38:39 · 34 answers · asked by big-tdl81 2

My husband has treated me awfully & I finally am going to file for divorce. He has cheated, lied, kept secrets, gambled away the $$$ that he controlled, had me working for him w/ no pay, didn't pay the mortgage and now my house that my Mom gave us is gone. I am living in her spare room with my (his step)kids. It has only been a few weeks and we still talk on the phone. I am going for a job as a bartender at a local strip club only because it is close & my car can't handle a lot. It is a start. He seems to disapprove, even though he put me in the situation. He won't even admit to all that he has done, just tries to justify it & that infuriates me. I can't help for some unknown reason seeming to care what he thinks, WHY??? Why can't I get mad or hate him? Afterall that he has put me through. It makes me feel so stupid. I am way too forgiving! I don't understand why I would care what he thought or how he feels, when he never did me.
PLZ no mean answers

2007-12-07 02:38:06 · 8 answers · asked by tonyer71 2

I am a very loving, attentive person. In fact, my high school Bible teacher called me a puppy. It was sad. I can't help being around my husband all the time. Is it because I am very insecure ? Or is it the fact that I have been thru alot ?

2007-12-07 02:36:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Soft and smooth and sweet and slow? Or so hard that you cry and need to invest in waterproof mascara?

2007-12-07 02:31:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous