I am not talking about guys going onto dating sites or trying to actually hook up with someone, I am talking about guys that have a few magazines, a couple videos and even porn sites on their computer.
I see it on here all the time. It's just porn.
2007-12-07 05:40:48 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Good Natasha, my wife and I both look at it, if we find something interesting or funny we show each other, it's fun (and give a few new ideas too)
2007-12-07 05:47:40 · update #1
Free_Angel, No women are NOT just sex objects. I love everything about my wife, sex just happens to be part of that relationship. And I am not talking about anything with children, I am talking about mature adults looking at mature adults.
2007-12-07 05:52:14 · update #2
A - I am not talking about porn addicts either, those are few and far between. Saying that everyone that looks at porn is going to get addicted is like saying that everyone that has a few drinks is going to become an alcoholic.
2007-12-07 06:18:54 · update #3
I agree with you...it shouldn't be an issue unless it becomes an addiction or he (or she) would rather look at porn than be with their partner.
Guys and porn is no different really than women and erotic novels. One is visual stimulation and the other is in one's mind/imagination, but both have to do with fantasizing about sex.
I have a small porn collection of my own, so I've no issue if someone I'm with enjoys it from time to time. ☺
2007-12-07 05:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 11⤊ 4⤋
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2016-07-19 06:40:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Although I already know some women are going to hate me, or give me thumbs down - oh well, here goes: I believe some women are very insecure. They feel that their husbands "shouldn't need anyone but them" which is silly. Looking at porn is not needing anyone else. It's visual - some men are just into looking at sex. So what. It would be different if they were addicted, or select porn over their significant others. Or better yet, if they were out looking for other women in person. I go to strip clubs with husband and his friends (when they want to go), AND I watch whatever is on the TV with my husband.. even if it's porn. So what! By making men ashamed or feel bad about porn, a lot of women end up forcing their men to lie and hide, and most importantly - feel embarrassed about something that almost (ALMOST) all men do. Besides, maybe some of these uptight women should just give it a try - they might change their minds.
2007-12-07 06:17:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋
in spite of the certainty that I already understand some women folk are going to hate me, or provide me thumbs down - oh properly, right here is going: i think some women folk are very insecure. They sense that their husbands "shouldn't want absolutely everyone yet them" that's stupid. finding at porn isn't wanting absolutely everyone else. it is seen - some men are merely into finding at intercourse. So what. it would be diverse in the event that they have been addicted, or go with porn over their substantial others. Or greater effectual yet, in the event that they have been out finding for different women folk in individual. i bypass to strip golf equipment with husband and his acquaintances (while they want to bypass), and that i watch despite is on the television with my husband.. despite if it is porn. So what! by making use of making men ashamed or sense undesirable approximately porn, countless women folk finally end up forcing their men to lie and hide, and maximum heavily - sense embarrassed approximately some thing that just about (merely approximately) all men do. as properly, in line with risk a number of those uptight women folk ought to easily provide it a attempt - they'd exchange their minds.
2016-10-10 11:43:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I Love porn......
*Usually* if the woman loves porn.....as well. It's not an issue.
I've been married for 6 years, and we're having our third child, and every time I'm at the stage of 8 or 9 months I start sending him to watch porn, because my belly is just too heavy and crampy and I'm just too tired to have sex.
It's never bothered me at all. My husband is not the kind of guy to go to bars or clubs, so I don't worry about him maybe...getting some...from a different source..lol.
And we both watch porn together and use toys, and so on, So we're both very comfortable with our own sexuality. We're also....secure....about our relationship, so we know there's nothing else going on, and we're not the jealous type or anything.
Trust me there are days were I'm really tired, and he just wants sex...and there's just no way. Sending him to watch porn actually makes me feel...not so bad from turning him down, and he feels better, that he has a healthy release.
Porn can be very healthy....and for some it is. For other's it's viewed differently. And not everyone likes it. We're all different. So we have to respect their point of view, just like they have to respect those who do apreciate porn and enjoy it in a healthy manner.
-Lucy
2007-12-07 06:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by Photographer, USN Wife & Mother. 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Look man, whatever you do with your girl is your business, and people will try to sway you to their side constantly if you put yourself out there. To answer your question though, I dont think anyone can be sure, women usually see those kinds of things different than us guys, hell my wife used to the first one to wanna go to the porn shop, now i'm almost afraid to even mention anything about, because if we sit down together and watch it, is she gonna be mad for the next three days? Anyway, you and your girl seem like you have a nice understanding and I would just work with that, and not really worry about what anyone else thinks. Enjoy yourself man, you only live once, and your not young forever.
2007-12-07 06:47:02 · answer #6 · answered by Roho390 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally I think that if a husband and wife are in love there should be no reason that anyone would be looking at porn.
I think porn gives men an unrealistic view of women.
I know, because I bought into the lie that porn tells.
2007-12-07 08:45:40 · answer #7 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know ther's a trizillion answers because is a very good question. I have been here not too long and already have seen a number of questions regarding porn. I think that the issue with some people is that they are foucsing on their spouse looking at porn, but do NOTHING to turn their bedroom into a real fullfilling experience for the partner. I have seen people here ready to get divorce over this!!! I can't believe the amount of selfishness and self pity some ladies have regarding this issue. FOCUS on the real issues destroying your relationship,,porno is just a cope out. There,,,
(good question bro thank you!)
2007-12-07 06:20:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
In my opinion, it's not an issue of porn per se. If one's husband can look at it without becoming addicted or it leading to him checking out dating sites and the partner is fine with it, then great - go for it. But I consider it a respect issue. If you have a partner who is fundamentally bothered by that for whatever reason, you should TRY to at least understand and not do it out of respect for her. Afterall....a guy has to ask himself - why am I FIGHTING with my wife for the right to look at other naked women? Is it REALLY worth hurting her, our marriage, and disrespecting her?
I think many women are bothered by it because they feel insecure over their own bodies or their r'ship. They fear that having their men look at these plastic, and digitally perfected girls, then he will expect HER to look like that or will start fantasizing about some porn woman when THEY make love. Some women have feminist issues with it thinking it demeans women and don't want to think they are married to someone who would support that. Some women know that in many cases innocent porn can turn into much more - dating sites, craigslist looking for sexual encounters,etc.....so they figure it's easier to cut the guy off before he can move on to that. No matter what the reason, it's important for a man who CLAIMS to love his wife to listen to her concerns with kindess and love.
2007-12-07 06:06:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I don't have a problem with my husband watching porn, I'd like to join him! - lol - and I don't agree with what some are saying that only the ones that are insecure about their bodies have a problem with their men watching porn. I'm not secure with my body, but I know I'm real and I know that I do have some sexually attractive features. Guys may fantasize about being intimate with a porn star, but in my research I have found that a "real" woman excites them more.
I think a lot has to do with the way they were brought up, conservative versus openmindedness.
How is porn degrading to women when women consent to be in them?
2007-12-07 06:10:14 · answer #10 · answered by lippy 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋