My Ex-Fiance broke up with me in June after dating for over 4 years. She stated that she needed to find herself and is vey depressed at the present, and that a relationship is too much to handle at the moment. We tried to stay friends during the summer but she got EXTREMELY UNCOMFORTABLE. We haven't spoken since September, I miss her more than anything everyday, and love her so much. Recently she has started to email me, but instead of writing her name, she writes her entire name, first and last name. Why is she being so official and cold to me?
2007-12-07 05:15:11 · 16 answers · asked by Jennaba9048 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The fact she initiated communication with you is a good sign, if not in a romantic interest at least on a frienship level. She is guarded. She wants you to know that things are not back to normal. She doesn't want to lead you on. You should take this time to focus on those things that attracted her to you when you first met. Show her chance, Show her what she is missing, but in a humble way. Pay attention to her words and don't be pushy. Don't say you love her, she knows that already. Just be her friend. I think this could have a good outcome for you,,patiences,,,relax,,,If it meant to happenned it will...good luck!
2007-12-07 05:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There might be alot of reasons why mate. I think that she has lost her sense of direction in some part of her life and needs time to figure it out. But on the other hand there are other reasons of which I'm sure you would not know. So what can you do from here on out. First of all I would find a way to see her face to face and make her know how you feel about the two of you. Make her feel that she is not alone and that you are willing to help her out and that your on her side of things. If you feel you still may yet have a future with this girl then tell her that and ask her if she still feels the same way about you. It's a good idea to take some time with this and not rush it to much. But on the other hand don't let this last for a long time because brother if she really is lost to you then that is time that your not getting back sorting and moving on with your life, even if you love her more than anything. I hope at the very least you think logically and do something about this.
2016-05-22 00:45:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fours years is a long time.....did yall talk about anything about marriage? Or maybe she's just confused, because she needs to first find herself out first before actually finding the real answer. Maybe you should really talk to her upfront, instead of emails. There not the same thing. Whenever I talk to my guy I always talk about that stuff in person. Well good luck!
2007-12-07 05:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by butterfliez2002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that being friends is condusive to good mental health right now. She is trying to put distance between you and her, emotionally and this shows she still needs 'space'.
Try to go out and interact with others... just to get some new infusion of people in your life.
You too need distance from this. It's not just about her.
2007-12-07 05:24:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a women says she needs to find herself, this is one of their ways of really saying, I have found someone else and don't want to be with you anymore.Trust me man. Her acting cold is so she doesn't give you false hopes.
2007-12-07 05:34:10 · answer #5 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's trying to be a friend and not a fiance. She values you for your opinions and input on her life. But that's it. Don't push it.
Maybe things will change, but don't count on it. You should start (if you haven't already) seeing other women.
2007-12-07 05:22:25 · answer #6 · answered by Dirty Dave 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she does not want to give you the wrong impression or for you to feel like something is going on between the two of you when nothing is and feel like you were led on.
2007-12-07 05:31:59 · answer #7 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't want to be your fiance. Get on with your life. You are grieving the loss (very understandable). You might consider talking with someone to help you in getting on with your life.
2007-12-10 06:20:06 · answer #8 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go dude. No man deserves this much grief. Find a sane one.
2007-12-07 05:25:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
who knows. you maybe need to just move on and find yourself. it's ok to love, but not being able to stand alone is not right. don't let her take advantage of you. good luck.
2007-12-07 05:29:56 · answer #10 · answered by hiswife04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋