Marriage & Divorce - 7 December 2007

can anyone [especially girls] tell me the reason why?

2007-12-07 16:45:26 · 5 answers · asked by Ambrose 1

Okay please serious answers only...I am too exhausted and have nobody else to ask. My husband of 7 years (I'm 21 now and he's 33) was physically abusive. I left him 2 months ago and have recently been in contact via the telephone. He promises that he's going to change and that he's serious about it.

I left him 2 years ago, and when I came back things got worse - he ended up breaking my neck. But he always refused to get help. This time he says he will go to therapy if I want - that he'll do anything for me. I just want to know people's opinions on whether people can actually change if they try?

Thanks in advance, Traci

2007-12-07 16:44:54 · 20 answers · asked by Traci B 3

I want to know what people think.

2007-12-07 16:44:26 · 31 answers · asked by fatal attraction 1

2007-12-07 16:44:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my wife have been having problems for a while now. Well I downloaded a keylogger onto my computer and I found out some stuff, like that she has been talking to a lot of guys on myspace. She got really close to one guy and fell for him. When I confronted her about it she got defensive and told me to stay out of her business but the only reason I did it was because I care. We have a kid together and I think that the only reason she is still with me is because she doesn't want to take the kid away from me. She won't tell me how she really feels she just lies to me when I ask her. Any suggestions?

2007-12-07 16:32:10 · 10 answers · asked by Greg B 1

well im 36 wk preg and all thru my preg my hubby hangs out at this friends party almost every friday of the week....he know i hate this friend but he always takes his friends side and whatever i say i'm in the wrong ....why do men take up for their stupid nasty frineds?

2007-12-07 16:26:00 · 40 answers · asked by crystalb 1

I have been reading some of the post. Of ppl looking for some advise. To see some saying to go to a Church of some sort of Counselling bad idea. When ppl going thro marriage problems
One loves to blame the other. But, in reality one had done something out of the bountries. Marriage is a 2 way street nut, when the line has been cross.
But, think of not expect the innoco to take reponsible for the other bad behavior then using the courts to put lies on them.
What do you think of some other encouragement??

2007-12-07 16:22:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

He is just talking to them nasty and in every way but is it enough to leave him we have kids and been together for 6 years he left again and I just caught him talking to some young girl feeeding her head with bullshit is it a game to him or do you think i should leave him or do counseling first he hasnt sleep with them he somehow just gets turned on by chatting with them on the phone and makking them fall in love with him making them think they are the only one and he has been suffering and talking nasty with them what should i do

2007-12-07 16:10:57 · 11 answers · asked by SlantedEyedChick♥ 2

my husband went to act to work i made the mistake of not wanting to go down there to live when he wanted us a family then at the end i said i would go but he said it is to late he doesn t what to be with me any more . We had money problem and other problems before he left but nothing that cannot be fixed but he just keeps saying if i only would came down there we would not be were we r now but i said that i would sell our home and go down but he just keeps saying that he doesn t want 2 be with me any more .But the min he has a car accid or samething he rings me . I feel like my heart has fallen out please help me .We have 2 kids anb been married 12 years.

2007-12-07 16:09:38 · 4 answers · asked by janelle a 1

I have three children the ages of 19,15,and 7 my husband and i been having problems for years since i cheated on him 1992. I know there was know exscues for cheating. He was never their for me just like now im paying rent,light, phone, cable ins. car note and food. we saperented five time and last year. But i let him come back eventhough he said that he has forgiving me. I'm doing for my children even thow i'm not happy. he work but he don't bring much to the table. I dont' know how it feel to be happy becouse i too don't believe in devoices. remeber he said that he had forgiving me in the past. but i have children that see their mom paying all the bills every mouth. my son is't trying to work at all. I told him that i was unhappy in the only thing he say , he want his family back.

2007-12-07 16:07:30 · 8 answers · asked by Rosa P 1

It's been over a year when my husband told me that he was no longer happy in our relationship and that he wants out. He drops this bomb on me a week after our son turned 1 years old. Since then I moved out of the state I was living in to make a better life for myself, two kids and my mom came too. Now about a month ago he decided that he wanted to work things out so he moved up here but is living with his brother. When we were together I suspected he was cheating and caught him. Now that he's up here I still have that same feeling. Being that he's living with his brother doesn't mean a damn thing to me. He still has those same signs and when I ask him he says that there is no one and that I should trust him. How do I do that?

2007-12-07 16:06:36 · 8 answers · asked by Butterfly Gal! 1

Hi I have posted here before. I have to again. I am so tired right now. I have no one to help me. I am at everyone's mercy. the only thing I had in my life was my job, but my depression is hurting my job. I went months and months without crying at work and now I am in a very sad state. I am a good worker I think, but I can't stop crying and I dont know how to interact with people today. they are just so rude and loud and aggressive and I just dont fit in with that. I feel like I am at everyone's mercy because I have no husband or boyfriend to talk to. I have no friends and people just expect you to be happy. I am in trouble at work because I get emotional, but thats it. I don't call out, only when Im very sick. I do what im told but it's not enough. women who are married or have boyfriends are happy and people look down on me and say well why can't you be happy like her? they don't care that she is loved and maybe thats why shes happy. Im afraid. LIsa

2007-12-07 16:05:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-07 16:05:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

i LOVE my mom. shes 40 and she has 2 children; me(16) and my brother(8). very recently she and my dad divorced and she found another person who made her feel alive again and im sooo happy for her (after the loveless marriage she shared with my dad, she deserves it) but the bad part is, is that this newfound love involves a lot of drinking and late nights. she is the hardest peson to talk to. in three seperate times shes come and said shes sorry for what shes doing, but it never fails, within the next week shes at another bar or party. it hurts so much, its like everytime she says she wont go out, i truley, deeply believe her and everytime i believe her she breaks my heart again. i miss the mom she used to be!!!and i know shes in there, but how can i get her back? why cant she just stay home with me and my brother? should i just get over it? please help me

2007-12-07 16:04:06 · 6 answers · asked by Sabrina 2

i want to make sure that there no mistakes, like the rope snapping off.

2007-12-07 16:00:31 · 29 answers · asked by just hanging around 5

3 years ago mom passed away and it still feels like yesturday sitting around the table making tamales right after Thanksgiving, getting ready for Christmas to get here. trying to cope with her loss has been so difficult for all six of us, she left behind my Dad, and my brothers and sisters and the only thing that goes through my mind every day is all that pain she went through and not being able to heal her, I just feel it was not her time! and we are quite young and we still need her, how do we all cope? how do i cope? I still cry!!!

2007-12-07 16:00:27 · 11 answers · asked by Mmmommy 1

she completely ignores me she didnt before she use to at least say hi is it b/c i never talk to her b/c im so damn nervous i can tell sometimes she will listen to my convos. b/c she will glance at me and if im sitting behind her she will turn around sometimes and like look behind her. We are practicly strangers to each other we have know each other for a year but never really talked

2007-12-07 15:57:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Somewhere in the back of my mind I know I am and that I need to start getting my life back together for my daughters sake. And on the other hand, I can't let go of my bf. It's basically over and he doesn't offer us any kind of support anyways, but somehow I can't cut the final string that keeps us together. I end up fighting with him 24/7 about how he needs to accept he has a kid now and needs to step up. But he doesn't and just thinks that I want to ruin his life because mine is. Why am I finding this so hard to just accept that he won't accept it and just move on?

2007-12-07 15:56:55 · 16 answers · asked by Me 5

To me, saying it doesn't matter who's fault it is is like saying the kitchen floor is wet, but it doesn't matter if it's the pipes to the sink or the dishwasher. This is just an analogy for relationships. Don't give me responses about home repair, please!

Don't we have to identify the source of the problem before it can be fixed? Yes, the damage is done. The wooden floor is damaged. But are you just going to leave it alone? No! The problem will get worse and someone might get hurt anyway! Aren't you going to fix the pipes first, then clean up the mess?

2007-12-07 15:44:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My Fiancee and I are starting a horse boarding facility and have a couple that we wanted to train the horses. they somehow have gotten us to split all the profits with them, which i am either to nice or not smart, i really wanted her help so i agreed...Now they are kinda taking over and asking unreasonable demands, like asking my fiancee to pay to have his own horses here!! He is the one who leased the place! Any way now they want to move into the barn appartment, Originally My fin. told them ok, but feels so uncomfortable with it he descided against it. We told them today. Business partner came straight over to my house, after i fully explained it to her husband, and called from cell phone and told me she wanted to "discuss this with me". They didn't ask me if they could move in, they asked my fian. and he is the one who changed his mind, Any way when she knocked on door i hid in my room all day like a crazy person...Because this is becomming to much for me, What do i do? go of

2007-12-07 15:39:04 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

My hubby and I decided to separate on Nov 20, 2007. I just found out that he quit his job Dec 3rd. Why would he do this? He was self employed working 15 hours a day and now he has decided to quit and live in his van. We have a 6 month old baby and he has 2 daughters from a prev marriage. Why is he doing this?

2007-12-07 15:36:10 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-07 15:33:30 · 2 answers · asked by sexy tweety 1

Some mnths ago i met a guy online, we started chatting n spoke regularly. I then met him n we met for dina, the chemistry between us was amazing, i was totally comfortable with him. we then started seeing each other regularly.he was in the country on a contract job.he told me he was single but was not lookg 4 a commitment.
a few months later, coz of work issues, he had to quit and leave. just a day b4 he left he told me he was married n had a kid as well.
at 1st i dnt know how to react, i always had a rule not to see a married man n i had broken that rule (without knowing)...
when he left, i realised that i really liked him...we r still in touch over emails n chat. the funny thing is that now i feel like i wud still c him if he came back.
He says he cares abt me but he lied to me. he says his not happy with his marriage but not willin to leave his wife. shud i even believe this? is it wrong that i still like him? should i still be in touch with him?
what would u do if it was u?

2007-12-07 15:33:27 · 17 answers · asked by Swit Angel 2

I love him and dont understand why he tells me ,cant you see I just fell out of love. help me

2007-12-07 15:32:22 · 16 answers · asked by paul k 2

Im a basketball coach and work with kids for my job. Its very family oriented work. She never attends anything, no games, no events at work....even though its been expressed its important to me.
She does little around the house...i do almost everything. I mention i need help around the house....very little gets done.

We get along...but at what point is enough enough? I cant do everything.....i work about 60 hours a week at least, i take care of her, and treat her well. Just feel like im not getting help.
Ive talked with her time and time again about these things calmly and nicely...and i get no results. When do i give up?

2007-12-07 15:31:37 · 15 answers · asked by Matt C 1

2007-12-07 15:28:32 · 3 answers · asked by YesIDid 4

my oldest girl is a 17 yr. old varsity cheerleader

my house is the one where all the kids hang out. i have an indoor pool, arcade and theatre etc. the maid always keeps plenty of food in the house.

she is having several friends spend the night like usual. i just went to tell her i was going to bed. when i knocked on her door, someone said come in. when i opened it, my daughter wasn't there, but two of her friends were.

i said how was your day girls? the one lying on the bed, grabbed her shorts, and pulled them up in her crack like it was a pair of thongs and said, "i went tanning today, and my butt is so red, see" i just said, "better put something on that" and got out as fast as i could.

i know when i have been hit on, and this was DEFINATELY it

when i was a young man, i would hit on my friends moms and aunts all the time. i think it is normal for guys.

is it normal for girls, too?

for the record, i would NEVER allow anything to happen

2007-12-07 15:27:29 · 19 answers · asked by DocLove 2

my husband and i have a deal - i do all the indoor chores and he does all the outdoor ones.
this has worked really well up until the last year. About a year ago he took up a new job which means he works most weekends. And during the week has has two days off in a row e.g. Tuesday and Wednesday.

my husband has taken to "taking a well deserved break" on those days and not done any outdoor chores.
So this year I have planned our wedding (we got married in august) done all the shopping (we used to do this together) and done all the indoor and outdoor chores. Except starting the mower - he starts it for me because I just can't seem to do it!
Now... today we both have the day off work and we are starting our first garden. I am making him shovel all the dirt into the garden.
He is hot and sweaty (and sexy as hell i might add) and i'm here twiddling my thumbs and playing on the computer.

am i a selfish and lazy wife for not helping him?

2007-12-07 15:24:27 · 16 answers · asked by chilly 5

My husband and I have not been getting along for quite some time. I b**** alot about little things and get jealous for no reason always think my husband is cheating when he is home most of the time and doesn't like clubs. I know I need help but when I get angry I get crazy and can't control muself. I say hurtful things and throw things. But it's also that hes been waiting for his business to start for 4 months now so for 4 months he has not given me any money for bills.but never once I thought of leaving him because of money problems. I'm under alot of stress . We do love each other very much each time we fight he leaves to his mom's house for couple days. Lately thing have been getting worse. A month ago I lied to him about going to a club he was gone for 5 days I had to beg and beg and beg then he came home. 2 days ago I told me he had invite this girl to our house to watch a fight along with his boys. This girl is supposedly a close friend of his familys but I was upset he

2007-12-07 15:18:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband works about 60 hours a week. I am home with a 6 month old and work part time 2 days a week(which I love and am lucky to be able to stay home with him). When my husband gets home around 9:00 he eats and falls asleep on the couch. Every night is like this and he also works on the weekends. I don't really feel like we have a marriage. I look forward to him getting home so I can have some adult conversation and he falls asleep within an hour. How can we keep our marriage ok. I hate this feeling of resentfulness because I know he works very hard and can understand why he is always tired.

2007-12-07 15:17:36 · 15 answers · asked by Kristie R 1