my husband went to act to work i made the mistake of not wanting to go down there to live when he wanted us a family then at the end i said i would go but he said it is to late he doesn t what to be with me any more . We had money problem and other problems before he left but nothing that cannot be fixed but he just keeps saying if i only would came down there we would not be were we r now but i said that i would sell our home and go down but he just keeps saying that he doesn t want 2 be with me any more .But the min he has a car accid or samething he rings me . I feel like my heart has fallen out please help me .We have 2 kids anb been married 12 years.
2007-12-07 16:09:38 · 4 answers · asked by janelle a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my ex came up for my brothers bucks night then he sat here and looked at me all day he all so took the kids and me out to lunch he paid.
2007-12-08 20:48:23 · update #1
he lays too much blame onto u , but when u do agree to come he doesn't want u, so whats his problem? seems as if he has found a new life with new interests.
2007-12-07 16:15:00 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how far away he is but perhaps counseling may help if you are close enough to do that at least once a week. He may be just as depressed as you about the whole situation and perhaps he has been cheating on you while there and yet still in love with you. You could move down there perhaps in a separate apartment and try to get him back that way, and perhaps that is what he wants you to do without him asking you to. Whether you work this out or not, it would be better for you to be closer to where he is now if for no other reason than to make visitation better, but you may be able to save the marriage with counseling. Good Luck to you and I hope it works out!!
2007-12-08 00:57:53 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad was military and my dad was posted somewhere my mom did not want to go or to bring my sister and I there. And wanted to stay, but ended up moving us down there anyway. The military forced my mom to get therap while we were there!! How this helps I dont know, but a lot of families go through this. The military you have to move a lot, and move to places you dont want to go to. Its hard on everyone. But sounds like you were ready to make the sacrifice and go though u didnt want to be together as a family. Now that he dosnt want you to screams something else is going on, and him blantely telling you he dosnt want to be with you anymore is well telling you. Him blaming it on b/c you wouldnt move with him orginially is a load of crap!!!!! Its time to cut the ties if he really feels this way. Its not healthy for you and defiantly not healthy for the kids.
2007-12-08 00:32:34 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its time for you to move on ....
2007-12-08 00:14:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋