Mom passed away about 3years ago! I miss her so, there are 6 of us she left behind. How do we deal?

Question

3 years ago mom passed away and it still feels like yesturday sitting around the table making tamales right after Thanksgiving, getting ready for Christmas to get here. trying to cope with her loss has been so difficult for all six of us, she left behind my Dad, and my brothers and sisters and the only thing that goes through my mind every day is all that pain she went through and not being able to heal her, I just feel it was not her time! and we are quite young and we still need her, how do we all cope? how do i cope? I still cry!!!

Answer 1

Why doesn't the family use this differently this year and talk about mom and how you miss her. Reminisce about the things that were special about her and your relationship with her. It is okay to cry. Part of the reason it is still so hard now is that you never really allowed yourself to grieve for what ever reason. You have to grieve to finally move on. It doesn't mean you don't remember her, it means it isn't as painful. If the family can't talk about it, consider going to a grief support group. They are free. Hospices run them; check with The American Cancer Society; some churches run them. A social worker in a hospital would know about them. You don't have to have used any of these organizations to use their group. They are always open to anyone who feels they need them. We are also going through our issues in my family too. Good luck.

Answer 2

Mindy, No matter how old or young you are, the death of a parent is traumatic. I lost my mom last year, and I am 55. There are times I go to pick up the phone to call and ask a question and I have to stop and remember she is not here anymore. My dad passed on the day of my youngest sisters wedding. That was 1992 and I still cry my eyes out sometimes. I miss them so much. So you see, you are not alone with these feelings. Each individual has to have time to grieve, and no one can tell you how long the time should be. Do you believe in afterlife? If you do talk to your mom and ask her to give you some sign that she is ok and to please help you through this. She will. Look for signs around your home. Example: you will suddenly find coins on the floor or something moved, honest I am not a kook, I found pennies all over my floor. No matter what she will always be around you watching over you. If you can't get out of this funk after a period of time, consider talking to a professional who will help you put things in perspective. It will do a world of good. You will be in my prayers. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 3

i know how you feel i lost my wife over 7 years now and i lost my son 2years ago i think every dayabout them i just take it one day at a time holidays are the worse there is no easy way to get through it there is no set time to get over things and dont let people tell you different the hurt is always there you just start to deal with it better i hope you have a merry christmas and im sure your mom would want you to be happy for the holidays im sure shes watching over all of you's

Answer 4

I'm 56..my mother and daddy are both dead and I miss them. You will always miss her. You just have to cope day by day the best way you can. Try to dwell on all of the happy times and remember the good that you learned from her. She loved you and was proud of you and you will make her proud. The best way to honor her is just to remember. She's with you..in your hearts and as long as you remember her you will keep her alive. God bless you. You are in my prayers. Don't ever stop crying. It will cleanse your heart.

Answer 5

There is nothing like it when death plucks one of our loved ones. It becomes hard to accept but they say time heals all wounds.

If you beleive on God, turn to him during this time, read the Bible, go to church, God will be the only consolation that will give you the peace of mind you need and the strenght to fac tomorrow.

Your Mum is in heaven sleeping with the angels, watching over you all, be strong and trust that one day you will meet again in heaven glory.

i wish you Strength and Gods Love.

Answer 6

When a parent passes, it is a very hard thing to deal with. But you have to remember that life goes on. And she wouldn't want any of you to be sad. But know that when it is someones time to go, it is just their time. Even if it isn't fair, and even if they were to young. She will always be there, they are never really gone. And if you have children, you have to be strong for them. And go on for them.

Answer 7

when someone loses someone that they really care about its hard to get over it... it will take a really long time... she was ur mother and u loved her, so its completely understandable for u to cry... but u also need to be strong for ur family... let them know that she is in a better place... she dont have to go through the drama that goes on everyday here... shes watchin over all of u and know that yall miss her... she misses u too... just know that u'll be together once again... it'll get better, just give it some time... i hoppe this helps a lil bit!

Answer 8

My dad died 41 years ago. I still miss him. I carried the grief around for years and years. I think grief counseling could have helped me. Maybe you could seek the counseling for you and your family. Grief has stages that you have to go through. I hope you will seek professional help.

Answer 9

The first thing you need to do is accept the fact that it was here time.

Then you need to accept life on life's terms. That is the key to happiness.

Good luck. I will pray for you... and your Mom will too!

Answer 10

Pray.
Talking about it like you are doing now helps.
I believe only time will allow your heart to heal.
U will always miss her..