Marriage Problems?? Others Looking!?

Question

I have been reading some of the post. Of ppl looking for some advise. To see some saying to go to a Church of some sort of Counselling bad idea. When ppl going thro marriage problems
One loves to blame the other. But, in reality one had done something out of the bountries. Marriage is a 2 way street nut, when the line has been cross.
But, think of not expect the innoco to take reponsible for the other bad behavior then using the courts to put lies on them.
What do you think of some other encouragement??

Answer 1

Hi,
This is an excellent point to ponder for all and a great suggestion. It shows your wisdom. Thanks.
I also agree that in all situations of a relation break-up people should not go through mud-slinging or abuses or lies. I always caution people with that. But in situations where people feel there is no way they could proceed further together, after talking many times or trying through other options, they can think think of parting. In fact in many cases, they should. Otherwise, other malaices will come within the relation like adultery, cheating and also some kind of depressive feelings as to why this is being pulled on. As you rightly said, marriage is a two way street and hence the blame is for both, it did not work well with each other, both people will be good, it is just the combination. I also support you and urge all others not to give advises to abuse partners or tell lies or do anything hastily. Not just in marriages, in any relation.
Thanks for your wise thoughts.. all wishes..

Answer 2

Conflict or anger itself does not have to cause an irreparable rift between partners. With good communication skills and a shared commitment to a marriage, even these are surmountable. How to save your marriage https://tr.im/e9qhh

However, at that point where one partner is at the brink of abandoning the relationship, how can the remaining partner save their marriage? If you are at the point where your spouse has asked for a divorce, what can you do?

You must realize first that, you do have a choice. Often, when confronted by a crisis, we find ourselves backed into a corner thinking we have no choice in the matter. How can we change the situation when it involves another person's feelings or decisions? While we cannot, must not and in no way manipulate, blackmail or threaten our partner into changing their mind, we can actually control how we react to the situation. If anything, you must realize that you still have control over yourself. You have the opportunity to look inward and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions and even have the chance to take personal inventory of what your partner is trying to tell you. Are there points in your marriage that must be changed? If so, respond appropriately and proactively.

Answer 3

Well as you said marriage is a two way street. Amidst all the drama we still have to make the decision to get through the tough time and show the spouse that we love them. Did God command us to divorce the minute we have a problem?
Did he divorce you the minute you sinned against him? No, he asked you to ask for forgiveness and he forgave you!!! People think that it is easier to just leave and find someone else, why? I doesn't make sense b/c then the nexxt person will do the same thing.
Learn eachothers LOVE LANGUAGE and use it to your advantage you will be soooo Surprised at what God can do.

Answer 4

You must have a huge misunderstanding as to what counselling is supposed to involve; obviously you have never participated in good joint counselling. It is not a "blame-fest", it is no surprise to any human being, let alone a trained professional, that there are two sides to any story. Counsellors can and do help, and can really facilitate couples getting past problems, so in fact, counselling is a very good suggestion.

Answer 5

Well good for you and your opinion but not everyone will agree.
And that is OK
But you need to be less critical on what others have to say.
Now I do believe that marriage is two way street and both parties need to take responsibility for their actions if they are in the wrong
I also think that many people give up on their marriage way to soon!
I think you should do anything and everything to save your marriage.
Are you having marriage problems?

Answer 6

Well I thought the purpose of this was so people could express their opinions and if you have a different one then you should suggest it instead of trying to get people to change their opinion. Why don't you offer some other encouragement? Stop asking why other people aren't

Answer 7

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Answer 8

i think people need to set their boundaries and stand by the things that are important to them selves. ie.. dont let people belittle you. stnad up for you rights as a human being and just be tough. people wont change unless they feel it necessary or to benefit themselves.

Answer 9

Whoa....I had to read your question three times like I did for one asked just before yours....I would encourage you to make your rant or question more legible....

Answer 10

sorry I think that even though it is a two way street .........
but counseling and church are always a two way street!