please I don't know what to do?

Question

Hi I have posted here before. I have to again. I am so tired right now. I have no one to help me. I am at everyone's mercy. the only thing I had in my life was my job, but my depression is hurting my job. I went months and months without crying at work and now I am in a very sad state. I am a good worker I think, but I can't stop crying and I dont know how to interact with people today. they are just so rude and loud and aggressive and I just dont fit in with that. I feel like I am at everyone's mercy because I have no husband or boyfriend to talk to. I have no friends and people just expect you to be happy. I am in trouble at work because I get emotional, but thats it. I don't call out, only when Im very sick. I do what im told but it's not enough. women who are married or have boyfriends are happy and people look down on me and say well why can't you be happy like her? they don't care that she is loved and maybe thats why shes happy. Im afraid. LIsa

Answer 1

Everyone has problems. They just hide it well. Talk to your doctor. You have to get help. Don't think you have to do it alone and be so strong. Everything is going to be okay.

Answer 2

First of all, if you feel that depressed then go to a dr. and find one you can trust to help you with the depression. You have no friends? I cant believe that sorry.........maybe its just that you dont have true friends that you can trust with the way you feel. Trust me when I say women who have husbands/ bf are not always happy. I have a friend that has been married for 25 years and still has problems come up and isnt always happy. I, myself at the moment dont have a bf or n e thing and sometimes that bothers me, but then I look on the bright side of things, 1) I can go and do what I want without having to answer to n e one but myself, 2) I dont have to worry about what I spend since I make the money myself 3) I dont have to worry about if I do something it will piss someone else off, etc. The downside is 1) I dont have n e one to share things with, 2) I dont have someone to snuggle up with at nite, 3) I dont have n e one to just hug me and tell me things are going to be alright when I've had a bad day, 4) I can get lonely as hell, etc. But despite all this I am still happy with my choices in life and I look at each day is a new beginning and no telling what can happen that day to change things. But the main thing is that its MY CHOICE, and I believe its the choices we make in our own lives that makes us who we are and whether or not we are happy........the main thing I feel you need to do is to learn to be happy with yourself. Dont worry about what other people say or think, they are not the ones living your life you are! Make the most of it that you can you never know what tomorrow will bring.......it can be full of surprises. Hope this helps........God bless you and help you with your situation.

Answer 3

Being that this has been going on for a few months now you may have clinical depressions. I would have your family doctor refer you to a psychiatrist for some meds and to get some therapy. If you don't want to take meds I would strongly encourage therapy. Everyone needs someone they can talk to, but depression can be so deep rooted having someone trained can be very helpful. And it sounds that you need to do it soon before it ruins your job and anything else. But even married people have strong feelings of being unhappy. Take this time for yourself and find someone you can trust to talk to. Maybe also add a pamper yourself day... make a list of positive things about you. I hope you can find happiness, I'm on that journey myself and been married for nearly 6 years.

Answer 4

there are miserable people in relationships, way more miserable than you could possibly be. think about those who are abused or bullied everyday, fear for their lives and their children's lives. you are only comparing yourself to their outside work persona. most people put on a happy face in public, its not always so pretty in private.

you are loved, by friends by family thats what matters. I have grown to realize my friend relationships are what carry me through the worst times. men come and go, true friends are always there.

I feel like I am on the therapy bandwagon, but seriously you have depression and you need to learn some coping skills to deal with this and your low self esteem. It did wonders for me. Although I am not perfect, not every day is happy, I get through the hard times and count my blessings be it a friend, a family member, a lover, or just a pretty sunset that I had enough time to take in and enjoy. We are all special and here for a reason. I am living proof.

Answer 5

Hi Lisa,

First of all you need to be happy with yourself. Things have to change and will change for the better when you want them to. You don't need anybody else to make you happy. Once you are happy with you then other people will once again begin to notice you. First of all you have to determine what you want to do with life in general... what are your goals, your aspirations? Think about it real hard... everyone has dreams... what are they and what can you do to see them realized?

If nothing else, find something you like to do or that does make you happy and get involved... whether it be a local charity, hiking, camping, climbing, sewing, or blogging about things. Do it. Go back to school (it's great for meeting people and giving you focus.) :))))

Don't worry so much about what other people think about you. And just because other people are married or have boyfriends and appear to be happy, doesn't mean they are happy all the time. Everyone suffers through difficult times... In a sense those times are what make us who we are. Never be afraid because You and only you control your own happiness. If a total stranger like me can believe in you then I know you can believe in yourself.

Be confident in yourself and your abilities. Self confidence, self worth and self-esteem are qualities that are within each of us. Just do it. :)

p.s. Smile :) it always helps and it doesn't take much effort.

Good luck..

Answer 6

I can relate to what you are feeling. I work alone and at night so that is the story of my life. I am envious of the people who do have things in their life to help them too but for some it isn't meant to be. I have learned to take charge of me. I look for the beauty in the world, it is all around us if we will just look and I devote time to the things that I love to do. That is the key to being content. No one is responsible for our happiness but ourselves. We can either be happy and smile or we can be glum and cry. We only have one shot at life so being as it is short at best, don't waste too much of it crying and wishing for things to be different. They could get worse. I too will pray for you and if you would like to talk e-mail me. Good luck and keep that chin of yours up and those eyes looking ahead. Tomorrow the sun will shine.....

Answer 7

If you have a relative like a mother, father, sibling, cousin, you can call them and I am positive they would be there for you in a heartbeat! I also reccommend talking to your boss about your situation, it sounds like you have depression. Your boss should understand,and if he/she doesnt, I dont know what to say. If you have depression, there are medacations out there to help. If not, i reccommend talking to a counselor(sp?) about how you feel. It sounds scary, but when my parents got divorced, i was so depressed and i talked to a counselor and felt so much better! I hope it helps! God bless ;)

Answer 8

sounds like you have some severe anxiety issues. you really ought to see a therapist. and perhaps even work from home (if that's feasible) for a while. or perhaps even look into getting a life coach, they are amazing resources for people that are stuck and can't seem to get out of their present situation in life.

Answer 9

You can e-mail me anytime... but all I can do is type to you.

No, that's not true... I will also pray for you.

But what it is going to come down to is you need to be the one to take action and fix yourself. Don't worry about the problems in you life, worry about the solutions, then take action.

Good luck.

Answer 10

Start doing what you really want to do!

You're life could be taken away from you today, nexdt hour, next week you don't know...

Also pray, get on your knees and ask God to take over, he will listen. He awlays does! We simply don't beleive...

God loves you!