My hubby and I decided to separate on Nov 20, 2007. I just found out that he quit his job Dec 3rd. Why would he do this? He was self employed working 15 hours a day and now he has decided to quit and live in his van. We have a 6 month old baby and he has 2 daughters from a prev marriage. Why is he doing this?
2007-12-07 15:36:10 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is hurt and can't keep his mind on work right now. plus his confidence is a little down. hopefully he will snap back as the changes in his life become more normal feeling.
2007-12-07 16:05:16 · answer #1 · answered by triminman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to get the right answer is to ask him, why he quit his job. depend on his personality and what he went through with his first divorce. one can said that he is depress about the second split up and it come around the holiday. then you can look at it as a way that he is trying to get out of paying more child support and etc. he hold the real reason and if you really want to know, he is the one to ask about his action. good luck
2007-12-07 16:05:52 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so he doesn't have to be financialy responsible for you. If he doesn't have a job you are supporting him and the courts may see it that way- if he doesn't have a job he can't afford rent--child support -etc etc. I would contact a lawyer right away-the do have free consultations--GOOD LUCK- hope all goes well-just remember you and your baby are the most important things and as long as you have your health thats all that matters -sometimes you have to cut your losses!
2007-12-07 15:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by jet75 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are joking. you really dont know???? seriously?? it is so when you file for divorce he can claim he has almost no income and cant pay you any money for child support or alimony. as soon as your divorce is final he will work again, if you cant get to his money. he does not want to get burned financially by you. you can tell your lawyer he is doing this and estimate his past earnings, but if he is deliberately not working, this is why. i knew a man who once shut down a multimillion dollar company he owned just so his wife could not get any money from him, watch out.
2007-12-07 15:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He did it so he doesn't have to pay child support, or so he thinks. They are going to take an average of his income, file soon for support, if he has too many months with too low an income it will bring down what he SHOULD pay for his kids...
good luck
2007-12-07 15:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by vjustmehere 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is depressed and trying to withdraw from things. Maybe he hated the job and was only doing it for you, maybe he wants to try to start something else, or maybe he is just affected by the pending divorce and just can't keep up with his business.
2007-12-07 15:45:44 · answer #6 · answered by JA in SC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
who knows what is in another persons head.
he sounds depressed thats for sure but he is also being very irresponsible to his children.
you really need to find a job to support yourself and your child, doesnt sound like he wants to. plus it sounds like this is not a long term relationship so your chances of spousal support are going to be very short term, if at all.
God helps those who help themselves.
2007-12-07 16:17:01 · answer #7 · answered by one blue eye 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My ex-wife did the same thing to me and told me she wanted me to support the kids her and her boyfriend. Well, she was wrong, I got the kids and she has to pay child support. She is way behind in child support.
2007-12-07 16:00:20 · answer #8 · answered by Bones 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my ex did the same thing because he said he wasnt going to pay support. to his surprise the judge ordered him to for a small job he found for cigarettee money. hes also depressed and feeling sorry for himself. hes wanting to be able to move back in and let you take care of him.
2007-12-07 16:31:49 · answer #9 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he does not want his salary to show what he makes when you go to court .. for child support reasons.
No one knows why he is doing this .. but himself.
He probably has some sort of alternative plans for himself.
2007-12-07 15:40:23 · answer #10 · answered by Tara 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋