Me and my wife have been having problems for a while now. Well I downloaded a keylogger onto my computer and I found out some stuff, like that she has been talking to a lot of guys on myspace. She got really close to one guy and fell for him. When I confronted her about it she got defensive and told me to stay out of her business but the only reason I did it was because I care. We have a kid together and I think that the only reason she is still with me is because she doesn't want to take the kid away from me. She won't tell me how she really feels she just lies to me when I ask her. Any suggestions?
2007-12-07 16:32:10 · 10 answers · asked by Greg B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This woman has lost all respect for you and your marriage. Your mistake was getting married in the first place. Get a lawyer immediately and prepare to move on. Every 2 days you are married is 1 day of alimony (unless you've already been married 10+ years.)
2007-12-07 16:44:02 · answer #1 · answered by TheTotalStud_StudTotal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get in for some counseling and perhaps start doing more things outside of the home together to try to get back what she felt for you when you were first married. If that doesn't work, the divorce with good visitation for you both may be better in the long run and you may both be happier if you can not regain the love you once had for each other. Try the support and doing the things together you did before marriage though before getting to the point of divorce. Good luck to you!!
2007-12-07 16:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should work it out with her go to marriage counseling
just don't give up try your best to work it out if she does not want to work it out then you know is time for you to move on but at least you tried at least you know it was not from your part it was her part that did not want to work things with you this would make you feel better to move on to the next page get your life together and move on because life goes on after a break up the only thing is your kid be there for him because he will always be your son and you his father so be there for him
2007-12-07 16:42:57 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Care or not, key logger is very dishonest and it's only use is because of a lack of trust. When trust in a relationship is gone so is the relationship.— does this sound like love: "I only hired a private eye to spy on you because I love you."
Doing things like this will only worsen you position and make it easier for your wife to leave you. She may be looking elsewhere for something she no-longer gets at home (romance).
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I suggest re-romancing her... take her on a vacation, bring her flowers... spend some time with her and treat her like a woman, Not a wife. If you can rekindle some romance you can save your marriage.
2007-12-07 16:43:56 · answer #4 · answered by Darren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of waiting on her to make a decision, why don't you make a decision. What do you want from her, your marriage. If you know that she has been doing that and you don't approve then you need to make some changes,. If you felt the need to check up behind her then that means she is doing too much. If she wants to be single then give her that, if not then advise her that her marriage should be in the top of her list of priorities if not then move on, good luck
2007-12-07 16:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It IS your business. You are her husband, and should be her lover.
Sometimes it's really hard if you don't feel appreciated enough.
Don't get mad at her, but maybe try to help her. Try making her fall in love with you again. Sweet talk her and get her to bed.
bring her a single rose... I don't know. i just know sometimes I wish my husband would remember I'm still the girl he first fell in love with. But I would never leave him, so.... maybe it's over.
Maybe go out together or go to counseling. A couple hobby works good too. Dancing?
2007-12-07 16:40:26 · answer #6 · answered by Pumpkin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont make excuses for her. shes falling for another guy. she staying with you so she doesnt have to pay bills somewhere else. her business is your business and what eachother does effects the other. tell her its time to find somewhere else to stay and you will get your rights to your son in a divorce.
2007-12-07 16:38:54 · answer #7 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you suggested marriage counseling? She needs to communicate to SOMEONE about what is going on with her....Obviously she feels something is lacking in her marriage with you...for her to be looking on myspace for other men to talk to....But she needs to talk with you....You may have to force her hand....If she refuses to talk with you...refuses to talk with a counselor....maybe you should suggest that you separate.....
2007-12-07 16:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you flat out ask her? The only way to find out is to ask darlin. If her answer is yes, then go from there.
2007-12-07 16:39:00 · answer #9 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of the computer.
2007-12-07 16:36:14 · answer #10 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋