Do you think financially independent women put up with cheating?

Question

as much as financially dependent women do? How much do you think finances play a part?

Answer 1

i think self-esteem plays a bigger role than finances, but i can imagine a woman who is dependent on her husband for financial support would be more cautious above leaving the money source. i also believe that once you've had enough, you've had enough, no matter what the finances are, and that has to with self-esteem and self-respect.

Answer 2

I think financially independent woman don't put up with cheating as much as financially dependent women do. Same with abuse from a spouse. A financially independent woman can just leave, and because she's financially independent, she can make it on her own. A financially dependent woman has nowhere else to go and can't make it on her own, so she stays and tolerates the cheating. Finances are everything.

Answer 3

I am a financially independent woman, and I DO NOT put up with cheating. I think that women that depend on a man to survive, will accept just about anything because a lot of them think that they can not make it on their own. This is such a myth. I was married for 16+ years before I got the nerve to get a divorce. My ex said I could never make it on my own. What a joke. I have a great job with great benefits, healthy children, a nice home and car, and pay my bills on time and still have a little left over for fun. He on the other hand is living in a dump of a house (less than half built), has no real job, never has any money, and rarely spends time with his kids. Tell me, who do you think is successful?!

Answer 4

I really don't think financially independent women put up with cheating as much as a financially dependent women do...women that depend upon their husband to be the sole bread winner will often think they are in a no way out situation when their partner cheats on them...and if they don't think they have a way out...they will stay in the relationship and "accept" it ....

Answer 5

I believe it boils down to personal values and for others money. If you are a stay at home Mom with no education or employment history...you might be more likely to look the other way or look for another guy. Financially independent....do you think she feels trapped? Unfortunately, finances always play a role with many situations.

Answer 6

No. Although the generalizing of financially dependent women as being more prone to allow cheating, in particular, may irritate some who are in that catagory.

I believe that any person, man or woman, who is dependent on another person for their basic needs will tolerate a variety of indiscretions.

It's easy enough to sit cozy in our homes and say "Never put up with that!!" but if a person truly cannot leave and have some place to go other than a shelter, or have a vehicle to drive away in, or have any cash in their pocket to purchase food, they'll deal with a lot.

I don't think this means they are weak. I think they are strong in many respects. Dealing with hardships such as you suggested requires putting aside your sadness and anger...dealing with what is intollerable to anyone.

Answer 7

Yes, although women that are financially dependent tend to put up with a cheating spouse more because they don't think they can work to support themselves, I also know many financially independent women who puts up with cheating. And I also know many financially dependent women who does NOT put up with cheating. It's all about emotional dependency. Women puts up with cheating because they don't think they can make it on their own, but that is just an emotional barrier.

Answer 8

Maybe not as much as financially dependent women, but self esteem issues come in all shapes and sizes, so there's a whole wide spectrum out there. Would likely also depend if young kids are present in the family- a whole other set of issues is thrown in the mix.

Answer 9

There are several option you can go for. It all depends on the kind of person you are and the kind of people that are around. You could continue to go on the way you have for many years now. You could point out those little subliminal verbal bashing out to him. If you don't want to be around that negativity than tell him so, tell him that you do not want to be around it and if he won't cut out some of his behaviors and attitudes that you will cut him out on your more social events ( for example tell him your wedding is a happy time and is supposed to be the happiest day of your life and that you will not tolerate his negativity on the happy day. Tell him to cut it out or you will cut him out.) By this point you need to be considering the kind of effect he will be having on your new family. Every family has a black sheep. Would you want him around your husband, or possible future kids with the way he acts? You seem like a very bright person. You know the people involved and how they would act. Consider all the options and all the possible reactions and consequences to those options. Make the choice that is best for you and your loved ones. Sometimes tough love is the only way to love some people. I wish you joy and happiness in your upcoming nuptials. I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 10

I think it plays a role, especially if they are without career. But it is proportionally so relevant to their age - the older, the more willing to endure the cheating - as they are financially dependent.

Although I have not encountered this problem (the best to my knowledge) I believe I would not put up with it - but I am aware that things are different once in their shoes, so I honestly can't say.

I will say this though. One time in college, this girl left my bf's place as I was walking up, and I thought he was with her; so the next day (he shaves his privates) I took his pubes and super-glued them to his face while he was sleeping! Turns out it she was with his roommate. The roommate proved it when he got back out of town by showing me the video of their performance! I guess I overreacted just a bit! ; ) We broke up not too long after that! I was really vicious back then but have tones down in my older years! If that happens with my husband....oooohhh.....not good for him or his gonads!

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