I hate it its painful! should I tell him
2007-12-07 09:22:08 · 8 answers · asked by Angel L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
is there anything that would help the pain,
2007-12-07 09:23:14 · update #1
Well, first of all, if you don't like it, TELL HIM. NO MEANS NO!
If he is forcing you to do it, don't give into him. Sex between a husband and wife should be a pleasurable experience shared between the 2 of you.
Your husband needs to respect you, and quit trying to force you into doing things that your not comfortable with.
And YES, you should tell him that anal sex is painful. And also that your NOT enjoying it.
Hope that this helps.
Merry Christmas
2007-12-07 11:27:31 · answer #1 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Jones111 had a good answer. You need to tell him. Sex is about sharing and it should be fun for both of you. Some women like it and some don't.
As to how you do it so it doesn't hurt, it needs to start with you being relaxed because if you can't then you aren't going to like it. Then use lots of lube, something like astroglide, Then he needs to start off with a finger, go slow, he needs to listen to you, if you say stop then he stops. After one finger is ok then try two or a slim vibrator, go slow. this may not happen all in one session. It may take you a month of working up slowly. Here's a big thing, you need to be sure you can trust him to go slow and stop when you say to, tell him that. once that's all ok then he can try entering you, lots of lube, go slow and he has to follow your instructions. Sometimes it works better if the woman is on top then she can control the speed.
2007-12-07 19:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by kirk1500 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Listen, if you are not comfortable doing this especially all the time ...DON'T! If you want to do it once in a while that is your choice. If your husband really loves you he will respect you and how you feel especially since it hurts. If you hate it tell him you will no longer do it and if he says he thought you liked it...tell him you tried but it didn't work.
2007-12-07 18:38:52 · answer #3 · answered by jones11132003 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
there is lube caused anal-ease that will make you go numb a little down there. But still have enough sensation to enjoy it. But my person feeling is that anal sex should be a special treat, not an everyday thing.Even your favorite candy bar will get old if you eat one everyday.
2007-12-07 20:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by Leroy J. 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you two are sexually incompatible. He needs to find a woman that like anal sex and you need to find a man that likes sex the way YOU like it.
2007-12-07 19:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by bogidu 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Telling him would be the best thing to do.
If he absolutely doesn't want to give it up, lubrication might work.
2007-12-07 21:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Tell em " whats good for the goose", must be good for the gander!!
2007-12-07 19:02:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
if it hurts, then stop it!
2007-12-07 20:36:49 · answer #8 · answered by happywjc 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋