I've been married for 11 years and have four children, but as of lately perhaps three to six months i've had the nagging feeling my husband is cheating on me. I have no reason to believe this is nothing more than a "feeling", he is never late coming home he always has his money complete. I just have this gut feeling becuase sometimes when we are joking around he will say things under his breath that i can not understand or rather hear. I want to live a happy life , but i know having this feeling isn't going to allow me to do so.
2007-12-07 08:35:26 · 15 answers · asked by jeny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By the way i have asked him as calmly as possible, his answer is always no, a laughing no and i ask him why do you laugh and he says because i ask him the dumbest question.
2007-12-07 08:43:05 · update #1
What exactly do you think he is saying under his breath while you are joking around and how does this relate to having an affair??? "too bad you aren't as funny as my mistress"
You sound paranoid cause nothing you said sounds like a sign of cheating. Why don't you see a therapist, maybe they can help you uncover the cause of this.
2007-12-07 08:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by George 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am sure there is a definate reason for you to feel this way. Something he did or said triggered this gut feeling you are having that he is cheating on you. If you ask a man to his face if he is cheating on you he is not going to say oh yeah honey I just forgot to tell you. No Way, asking will only get you the same answer. You have to pay closer atttention to the signs of a cheater. Other than money and coming home on time. Do you receive hang up phone calls? Do he answer calls and won't talk in front of you? Does he have an outside income that you don't monitor? Are you guys having sex? Does he try to get you to do freaky sex? I do not care what any of you men say MEN can not go without SEX! Its in thier nature and sexless marriage will 99.9% of the time lead to infidelity. Men always have different reasons for cheating. Are you in shape and happy with your body and self? These are questions to ask and watch for signs of. Based on my own experience (and not to scare you) my gut feelings were always dead on the money. I hope for your sake he is not cheating but if you are unsure then there is a reason for that and you need to nip it in the butt and quick. Give to him what he is lacking so no one else can fill your shoes. If in fact he is cheating. Even if you find out he is not cheating you should consider the fact that we all have special needs and sometimes they must be filled. Are all of your needs being met? What about your husband? I hope you find truth and peace. Hope I helped.
Love
Abi
2007-12-07 17:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by abigailbanksabi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my insticts usually end up being right on when it is a persistant feeling. However I think we all sometimes imagine things too. I think that sometimes when life seems to be going perfect we start imagining something is wrong when it is not. I would not let this consume me. I would just observe or actually I would probaby tell my husband that I have been having this feeling and that it was really bothering me to be thinking this way in a light manor at a time when the mood is light.
2007-12-07 16:46:27 · answer #3 · answered by STLgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeni,,take a hard look at the other issues on this forum and maybe you will realize that your problem maybe is not as bad as you think. "Gut" feelings have been know to be wrong as well. We need to have clarity and open communication with our partners so we don't end up secon guessing. Maybe there are feelings of infiriority or mistrust growing in you. Talk to him about it....but never make yourself crazy oever a gut feeling. You know him,,,,u know if he is that type of man.
2007-12-07 16:44:16 · answer #4 · answered by KingDavid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say talk to him about it. And if he says he has not been cheating on you believe but, still at the same time keep a look out for signs, but dont nag him like for example : so what did you do at work today?, who was their? stuff like that because that can get annoying and break up a marriage. Good Luck! t
m.b
2007-12-07 16:42:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They rarely admit it. Trust your gut. Don't say anything more. Check up on him. As far as the money thing goes, it means nothing. If she is married, she knows she has to accept him not being able to spend lots of money on her.
2007-12-07 17:40:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you sit down and calmly explain like you did here? You are obviously picking SOMETHING up....perhaps he is just having a "crush" (which is normal & harmless as long as it isn't acted on--and will fade eventually).
2007-12-07 16:41:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can put a keystroke logger on your computer (for the safety of the kids) that will tell you each and every thing he types on it. Like the one here:
http://www.download.com/LightLogger/3000-2162_4-10722216.html?tag=lst-1
You can hire a private detective to follow him. You can tap his phonecalls.
Or, you can decide to leave it alone. Up to you.
2007-12-07 16:45:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have no reason not to trust him. Maybe he's dropping little hints that he's not totally satisfied with something. Maybe you just aren't giving him what he wants. Talk to him....ask.....then do it!
2007-12-07 16:41:03 · answer #9 · answered by Poppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your gut is telling you something, its probably right. Thats the early warning system that we all have... Our Gut Feeling
2007-12-07 18:08:41 · answer #10 · answered by six7foru 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋