I was reading this article about a couple that are in that situation. The wife feels since she doesn't want it anymore it's ok for her husband to find it eslewhere. I think that is CRAZY!!! I think even if you are well meaning and feel your doing it out of love for your partner your still opening a door that you might not be able to close when you want to. Thats not even taking into consideration that when you get married you take vows that are suppossed to be life long.
2007-12-07 08:20:27 · 50 answers · asked by n.s. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok I want to be clear on here. I am married and would NEVER let that happen! That being stated I am curious as to what other people think of this situation.
2007-12-07 08:32:47 · update #1
Don't let articles cause you to question your values. Anybody can write articles --- just cause it is print doesn't mean it is worth the paper it is written on.
2007-12-07 08:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by George 5 · 10⤊ 2⤋
I know for me THERE IS NO WAY I WOULD CONDONE MY HUBBY being with anyone....
I have a friend who has been married for about 15yrs and doesnt want to do it anymore and kinda wished her husband would find it with someoen else.....i was shocked when i heard that..My thought was "why are you with him?" NOt that sex is the key factor in a marriage but to me...i hope im married for 50 yrs and still want to tear my hubbies clothes off... I dont get it at all...I dont know why people would wan their husbands to be with someone else.....or they have the "dont ask wont tell policy " like the guy above has with his wife.... But everyones relationship is different..i just know for me ...sex and love are sacred and should be kept between two people.
2007-12-07 08:46:09 · answer #2 · answered by kakeydec 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of this one,
the simple answer is No, because even "with permission" does not recind that one has to be responsible. When is it OK for a responsible married man to have sex with someone on th street -- never.
But on the other hand, I do believe in legal prostiturion so if he cna't get it at home -- and does get it from a paid professional legally -- why should I judge?
2007-12-07 08:33:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree. I think if a woman finds that she doesn't want it anymore she should look into the reasons why. That's something that she should work on. Isn't love making part of marriage? She's really missing out. Sending her husband to another woman for sex is not the answer. She will lose him altogether.
2007-12-07 08:25:33 · answer #4 · answered by SueBee 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I feel it is only acceptable if you are no longer able to have sex with your spouse yourself. That doesn't mean you cant join in or watch. Some women pay for someone to have sex with their husband. I guess it all depends on the relationship.
2007-12-07 09:01:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It was happened to me last year, it was his surprised present on my 25th birthday. My husband talked to his younger spor male buddy and arranged sex session with me one night. It was great and wonderful sex I had experienced in my life besides my husband.
After that sex experienced I had, it never done again. His friend was immigrated to another country. My husband still loved me and gave me the respect he had to me before.
We are on our 7 years as happy married couples. We have mutual understanding that open sex is somewhat better if done with agreement and respect without pressure.
We don't care what others to say were immorals as long as we don't cheat to each other.
2007-12-07 20:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Every one has their own values and thoughts on sex. If it OK with the spouse then it's OK. Why would they care what you think about their marriage, as long as it works for them.
I know you have heard about swingers, and other sex groups that have no problem with their spouses having sex with other people. Remember, what you do behind closed doors is your business.
2007-12-07 08:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by harold 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe that you are in fact responsible for meeting the need of your spouses sexual desires, no matter what. But if you are not able to for whatever reason, that does not give your spouse the right to stray. There are other ways of dealing with the situation besides finding someone else and committing adultery
2007-12-07 08:34:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
You'd at least be allowing your spouse to HAVE sex. It's not the preferred method but it is a normal urge. Why wouldn't the wife want sex? At least for the sake of her husband. Looks like a divorce in the works to me.
2007-12-07 08:25:14 · answer #9 · answered by Poppy 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think that this is totally disgusting!!
Is she pimping him or what? Asking him how it was, joking about it, etc...
No,not the type of thing I could do or contemplate myself doing.
The way I see it, a relationship is betwen two people. If you have become indifferent to someone to the point that you'd encourage them to have sex with another party, or are not interested, then, you probably have to give them their freedom altogether.
2007-12-07 08:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by Kc 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely not. That is not what is written in the good book. That is called adultery and it is one of the major sins. My husband had that done to him. I try to let him get some, but with my condition and him not going to the doctors with me I feel like I let him down and anger him. In the 2 yrs. that I was married to him, he hit me once and that was all it took.
2007-12-07 08:34:41 · answer #11 · answered by madame butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋